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Some of you might know that i also do online, social network game. I just got home from the club and there were two hotties who came up to me, and knew me from myspace. I thought it was cool and there was indeed social proof and we owned that place. Anyhow, back to the story:
I usually have the same copy paste message on myspace. The message has some variations to it, but is really a DQ statement with an SOI. A DQ statement because you want to lower the defense barriers online by making a funny comment about yourself or how you're not really sure about this whole internet thing. Trust me, it works the same as a DQ in real life. My version is: "No, i don't have any pets and you may think I suck for that, but if i did have one, I'd have a Maltese."
I always get the response of "I don't think you suck for having a pet. Oh, Maltese is a good choice!"
Another thing is, i don't chat on myspace. I get them to call me. I don't waste time, batting average is about 1 response in 15 reads.
Anyhow, I get home around 2, and am ready to crash, when i get this message (Exact transcript is as follows)
Hey, Its Johanna from myspace
(2 PM, this chick must be doing NOTHING)
Take note i just got a new phone, so my phone book hasn't been transferred and all these random numbers started popping up wishing me a happy thanksgiving
Troy - Oh hey Johanna, thats nice of you to send thanksgiving wishes out. What are your plans for the long weekend?
(Then i realize it wasn't her who texted me the wishes)
- OOps i got it mixed up sorry. I just got me the iphone and I still haven't moved the entire phonebook
J - OK
Troy - What are your plans after 5?
J - Not sure, i haven't made any yet
Troy - I'm going to head out for some drinks after. Come tag along if you haven't made plans
J - Where at?
Troy - At XXPlace, you know where that is?
J - Nope
Troy - Its on XX road, which part of town are you at?
J - Northwest
Troy - OK well if you wanna hang out let me know maybe I can drop by and pick you up before heading out there. Whats your addy?
J - XXXXXXAddress XXXApartment (!) What time would that be? I'm not sure yet
Troy - A bit later in the night, say 10. What are you doing right now?
J - Nothing...You?
Troy - Chilling at my house, have you seen Super bad or American gangster yet?
J - Superbad
Troy - Cool. Well I have American gangster on DVD, lets go watch it at your apartment. I haven't seen it either
J - OK What time
Troy - 4 Sound Good?
J - Okay, let me know when you're near
--- JUST LIKE THAT. So i run straight to the showers and head out there. I get there and she lives with her brother, who, turns out is gay so i didn't have a problem. I actually think he also liked me.
I just stayed on, until the bro left. Just kept it cool, watched shows, ran standard Juggler Method, SOI's and escalation, then did the kiss (she goes I don't kiss on the first date! I go, well! then kiss her) and with the brother out of the picture, a few isolated moments in her room sealed the deal.
Focus on where your strengths lie -- This is absolutely one of the most important "natural" characteristics. Like i said before, most naturals ... they hang out in the same bar all the time, It can be their weakness at some point, but that's irrelevant. Point is, you want to learn from what makes naturals, well...naturals. And yes, they do get tail.
Here are some strengths to take an inventory from -- looks, status and social proof, physical strength, personality, hobbies, talents/passions, adventures, commonalities, etc....If anyone, and i mean ANYONE hates you for it, THEY DON'T HAVE 'EM, thats why.
Looks -- if you have a body type or look that works for you, stick with it and amplify it. Pretty self explanatory
Status and social proof -- Work the club scene/school scene/church scene (?) There's nothing wrong with being the top dog everyone loves. If you know people, then that's good, end of story
Physical Strength -- If you work out, and can perform a vice grip on a 6'2" dude, or you can break faces with your Muay Thai training, let it stand out. Women love guys who can protect them.
Personality -- ahhh, the ever elusive. Make sure that you actually have one that you can identify with. Don't be confused by who you have to be as dictated by the community. If you're naturally funny, keep that skill set. Hobbies/Talents/Passions -- Make sure you have a NUMBER ONE. Whatever that is, make sure ITS NOT A GIRL. Make love to your hobby like she's the hottest HB10 around. Trust me, this is why extreme sports pros get laid a lot without even really trying to make the relationship work. They do their thing passionately, the girls swoon and watch, the girls fill the remaining part of the cup with companionship and sex.
Commonalities -- Look, I'll say this again. Who you are will attract a certain demographic of women. Its one thing to stand out, but its also an advantage to blend in. If you're trying to attract a certain chick, make sure that she can ***actually see you in the future with her.** This is why you can't overdo any type of DHV stuff because too much too soon will make you nothing but a shiny disco ball in her eyes. If she's into the sports thing, maybe its time you threw away those goth gauntlets and tone things down.
Guys, you don't see Lance Armstrong trying out Pro-wrestling right? Yet he's dating one of the Olsen twins from what i've heard. All he has to do is focus on that winning attitude, train hard, wear that yellow suit, and win the tour de france and aid the fight for cancer. Thats why we individualize our instruction. We want to know what you're strong at, amplify it, and work a lot on the weak points.
The bottom line is we want you to SHINE. I for one, am not "traditionally good-looking." I am 5'7" in height (still arguable), but I focus on a lot of my natural talents and strong points, which gets me ahead of most other guys who don't use what they have.
Let me name some of what's on my inventory:
a) Great first impressions and status
b) Asserting will and dominance
c) Charisma and mastery of social interaction
d) Dancing/Sexual Dancing
e) Purpose and passion
f) I generally have a lot to talk about -- i.e My Mental Photography "hard drive"
Thing is, I'm not trying to be somebody else. If you notice, PERSONALITY and SKILL can trump all, and the aforementioned "strengths" can amplify those. So, my thing is i expand on things I'm interested in, and build upon those strengths. There are a thousand ways to pick up a girl, but I've chosen to work on those main parts of my personality to make my own style work. Doing so, will trump any ideas in a girls head that the traditional good looking guy has an edge, because, fact of the matter is, all those are merely *symbols* of how she wants to feel. If you can make her *feel* the emotions of being taken by a man, then her mantras and beliefs will MELT AWAY. Trust me, I've shocked myself time and time again.
The San Antonio Bootcamp is yet again, FULL!
This sparks the last Charm School of the year, but again I'm headed to a couple of advanced classes over the west coast to create more charismatic men. So it really ain't over.
Things to be particularly thankful about
This has to be one of my best years instructing-wise. Travel wise I had a kick-ass summer in Asia, and I had the opportunity to roll through some amazing cities and countries such as my own San Antonio, Austin, Dallas, Las Vegas, San Francisco, Denver, Sacramento, Washington DC, London, Amsterdam, Singapore, the Philippines, and Mexico. Its been a blast. I have also grown in many areas of my life, such as in health, wealth, and personal growth. I am blessed with my homeboy Tim, who believed in me from the start, and was very diligent in his training with me. He is now a full-fledged Charisma Arts Instructor who has travel dates all over the country, and soon, the world. I am glad that He is rising up the ranks really quick. Not only is he one of our best, but is also one of my most loyal friends and compadres in the game.
I am thankful to all the guys who have been supporting Charisma Arts all this time. Thanks for keeping it real with us. With the DVD coming, as well as our continuous improvements in all our programs, expect bigger things coming in 2008. To all the readers of this blog, thanks for reading the updates every now and then. More will come soon.
I'm also thankful for the amazing health that I've been blessed upon. Despite juggling 5 or 6 things around, I've been relatively safe from any injury or illness. Also, the man above has been guiding me through my rough weekly and monthly schedules, and is keeping things as smooth as possible for me. I am very thankful for that.
I also want to give thanks for my relationships. My family, friends, and girlfriends. You have been so awesome to me. Don't worry, there is no coin that will be left unturned. I know all your efforts to love and support me. Trust me, I don't forget. =) I love you all and am thankful that each and every one of you, are part of my life. So, to all of you, I wish you and your families a Happy Thanksgiving
Most of the time, when I hit up a girl my main goal in an interaction is to find what makes her unique, and then genuinely appreciate her for her uniqueness. A phone number, a probability of a relationship, Sex -- nothing matters at this point. Once I point this shit out, it’s game over.
I can do it at anytime in the interaction: the beginning, the middle, or the end. I do it on cold approach, on the phone, on my next day meet ups, etc.
This is the one thing you can focus on that can get you more girls in your life. Women want to know that you like them for their unique traits and that its not some fluke or some playerish attempt.
So you might want to ask yourself. What makes her unique? Explore it TOGETHER (meaning have her tell you why and don’t do it all on your own), point it out, and make it the warrant for your Intent.
Trust me, this is powerful, powerful stuff.
Club Kings Field Report, and another Solid Set.
We walk into the club, we're dangerous. I've always held myself to that standard.
I have 2 hours before I go to work, and I am crazy for going out. But that’s what its all about. Pushing boundaries. Your body is biologically made to pull you from edging out and will keep brining you into your comfort zone. To keep improving you must train your mind and body to edge out and break boundaries. So it’s a Thursday, and I head out with my friend, to be joined by two of Tim’s Alumni, Trent and Ryan.
We get to the club – its loungy, classy, currently playing house music. Time for the warm up.
Thing about me is I don’t walk and pace straight to a set. I’ll usually work off a tangent of an existing set (say, my friends) and turn around to open another set. I had future clients hang out with me as well, so it was easy to work off from where they were.
I turn around, then walk slowly and open a 5-Set – “Wow, its Thursday I never thought this bar would be packed!”
Birthday girl – “Its my birthday today!”
Cool blah blah blah Its my birthday on Saturday! That guy with us XXX its his birthday today too! Blah blah blah I’m Troy….
Birthday girl – “wait, are you Troy??! Like Troy!??!”
I’m like, “oh f--k who is this girl and which cousin of hers did I sleep with”
Troy?!? I’m SO and so’s sister! OMG!
She was my old lairmate’s sister when I used to run the lair back in the day. She tells me that her bro didn’t want her to meet up with us because we’d hit on them. I laugh it out. This fuels me to do it even more. It’s a FIVE SET. And there were 3 hotties. I see HBBigTits really calm, relaxed but had a radiant smile. Perfect teeth, nice Latina eyes, and soft-looking lips. I know immediately who I’m interested in.
My buddy opens up HBBigTits in perfect syncronization, which is perfect, then we alternate.
I tell her “you’re pretty chill” she tells me she had a long day blah blah…and I tell her about my long day in the hospital, long hours…etc (obviously now she’s interested...)
Then I SOI off the bat – “you know what, I commend you. We’ve both had long days and you were tired but instead of being a couch potato you dressed up real sexy (SOI in an SOI), didn’t mind about your body being tired, and hauled your ass up here. You are a warrior! I like that!”
Then I go into my story on comfort zones and breaking them (Sometimes I feel like im teaching a workshop when I’m out meeting women), this would all be a prerequisite to one ULTIMATE theme – RISK TAKING. So there’s five of them and I don’t even make a move on the remaining three.
Tip: You don’t have to get everyone in the set going if two or three of them are DOWNERS. I’m talking about those stone faced girls with a really down vibe. Ignore them. A real man would not put up with that. Continue on with the good vibe part of the group.
So I have HBBigTits and Birthday girl. I leave for a second and brief my friends on what’s going on. I’ve chosen the girl. Question is, I need a reason to warrant my interest in her. Later on I see her eyeing me from across the bar. I make a face, and I reopen the set, which is warm at this point.
“I have an intuition about you….” I say and leave open. “What? What’s your intuition about me?!?” I tell her that she has a good aura, a good energy, and in a moment I’ll need her to explain to me why. I bust on the birthday girl as HBBigTits is patiently waiting for the answer, with a big smile.
Thank God for female self-isolation. When you exude that cool, real man vibe and you don’t f--k it up, the friends are comfortable leaving the two of you, and that’s exactly what happened. They left us alone but were within distance. I lean my back at the bar and start throwing out my OEQ’s – passion, positivity..hobbies…adventures…bottom line, what makes her UNIQUE.
I check for relationship situation -- she has a boy-feind. Sorry, im just not fazed by that stuff anymore.
I check for how close she comes to my mouth when she’s talking to me. Pretty damn close, like kiss-perimeter close. I keep that in mind. That’s a good thing.
I’ve warranted it now, but it’s not enough. I need more effort and commitment from her.
I tell her we should get a drink (which was a few paces from the bar). I talk some more about my life experiences, which further gives her an idea of who I am. I keep reiterating that it’s so hard to get motivated here in Texas, and that to be able to have a great life here people need someone special to motivate them (hint! Hint!). Obviously she’s like “YEAH!” She is now understanding my values and agreeing to them. This is all a ladder that goes up to that Uniqueness from her that warrants my SOI. We order a couple of Malibus. She loves the drink and tells me about liquid cocaine. I tell her a story about how my ex girlfriend would mess me up with some Tequila to take advantage of me…and a story about my friend Chris who recently tried Absinthe in Canada.
Boom – Rnb and Hip Hop Plays. Time to shut up.
She starts moving, and I reciprocate. Oh it gets sexual real quick, and having dancing experience, I KNOW that the physical indicators aren’t fake. I’ve seen enough of them to know which ones are weak and strong. So she puts her hands on my body, just caressing it, she goes down, and literally I get a T*T job while I’m standing up. Obviously I reward that with “you dance so sexy, where’d you learn how to dance?” More kino checklist, I smell her and her perfume is just….oh man….I tell her it turns me on, I have her smell my neck…lips are touching…oh yeah it’s on. Time for ONE FINAL LEAD and ONE S.O.I.
I lead her one more time, but this time we end up at one of the lounge couches, in which I KNOW its game over. We have a little chat, and its time for me to escalate. She tells me I’d look good with a hat on, and I tell her about my extensive hats and trinket collection from my travels. I have her give me a nice back massage, and I do the same (obviously I do it way better)…I release the tension, and I tell her “So what’s sexy to you?” She says “I like guys with glasses.” Whatever. I Ignore. Super Irrelevant. “You know what’s sexy to me??” She goes what? I say “the last girl that truly turned me on was a Swede, now if I took her to New York she’d be like super hot, but in Sweden she’s just like everybody. This whole concept of looks is so relative, it all boils down to ONE THING. She says “What?”
I go “What’s sexy to me, are RISK TAKERS”
That’s all it took, she smiled, she knew it, she looks at my lips, and we start kissing passionately in isolation. Her lips are real sweet and soft, just as I envisioned it to feel like.
I stand her back up, and we make plans. We swap numbers and I foreshadow logistics for the future. Whether or not she really has a boyfriend, I think it was just some test, because she never ever brought it up again other than that one time.
I walk her to her car, and make a good exit (by making her feel comfortable, and more foreshadowing)…we kiss again, and we part ways.
I then debrief with Alumnus Trent and Ryan.
Boy, Denver ROCKED
Now its back to good ol' San Antonio, Texas for one last local bootcamp to close out a glorious year.
Why is this particular boot camp special?
First off, I'll have one of my favorite Alumni come over to share his stuff on the boot camp. This guy, seriously came from ZERO. FLAT ZERO, and I really mean it.
From having no friends, to six different circles he sees and hangs out with every night
From having no female relationships, to having TWO girlfriends (and a pending THIRD), that he's met from cold approaches turned to relationships over a span of 2 1/2 weeks.
From having almost no social skills, to walking up to approach a two set, and it becomes a six set in NO-TIME. he just captivates people. This guy is not about "what to do", he's all about "who he is." Take notes, because everything that comes from his mouth is SO spot on, because they're all life lessons he's amassed listening to our guidance and applying everything persistently in the field, despite the challenges that were laid upon him.
Thing is, he's not a Super-Master-PUA. He's just a normal guy who came to the program, listened, applied, and persisted. What you would want to learn from him is his story, and his transformation from negative 100 to total 24/7 Charismatic. The perspective of someone just like you, who will go through the trials and tribulations of becoming a naturally attractive man. Second thing I'm excited about: This is MY HOUSE!
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Troy (is recharging his cojones)