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Me, Filming "The Charismatic Asian Man" for our Colorado Sessions, in Vail.
For me, it’s a real challenge to teach a high-quality workshop while getting the girl. Friday is really heavy on mindsets, foundations, and reality-breakers, and Saturday day game is heavy on creating a conversational connection and insta-dating.
Usually by Saturday night the students are very, very consistent with the core skills that we have learned from Friday night, and Saturday day game. At this point their mindsets are locked, their skill sets are very decent in terms of non-verbals and conversations. Add my lecture and drills on proper winging, and tonight, it’s their party. If anything, I can run game in real-time, without getting interrupted by logistical issues or attending too much individually to the students. This is probably the best demonstration I can give in contrast to the numerous reality-breakers we learned the entire weekend.
There is a certain way of acting in a club that is "learned" This involves the knowledge and practice of movement, social vibing, the understanding of status, doing recon work, and warming up with people.
After doing a few rounds of invisible recon-work, I found a three set to open.
I approach, with
"Why is everyone around here drinking from a pitcher?"
Open, non-verbally face the cutie. I completely Ignore the "vibe killers"
We talked some more, I said something like "everyone here, is either a banker or a lawyer..."
She tells me, "I'm neither…I’m an engineer"
Oh, you’re an engineer! Engineer as in, “logical” engineer?
She tells me, “No, engineer as in strength, engineer.”
Deep Rapport/Theme Mastery -- take the word "strength"
“Strength eh? How so?”
I found out she’s an aircraft maintenance engineer for huge planes and I compliment her for that. I told her I found it a turn-on that despite her physical attributes (she was around 5’4”) she gets to fine tune huge aircraft engines. (SOI)
I then related to her about how I live in the US and how I compensate my height for "internal strength"...and go from there... we had this quick deep conversation on that topic.
The whole time I’m showing her how imperfect I am. I’m willing to make a fool out of myself when I’m having fun. I see these two dudes and I try to imitate their “gay” dances and even do the YMCA. This is called social vibing. This is a very attractive nonverbal trait. It just shows that you are relatively unaffected by anything and is all about having fun. This is also about having an Internal Frame of Reference, where I don’t look outside for any approval or validation.
As I am on my students’ time, so I leave and help them out. For the most they are doing fine, so 30 minutes later I re-open her with a student. I tell her “So, what’s happened here since we last talked?” I vibe some more, ultimately gaining more commitment as being the only guy who she had a more solid connection with and clearly justified his interest to her. At this point there are hardly any distractions to this. I eject once more to tend to the students.
I see all my students are doing amazing on the dance floor, and if anything they wanted to see a cold approach seduction happen real-time. So, I come back to the original set. I see her with only her spaghetti-strapped top on (the jacket was nowhere to be found), and she seemed to be a bit loose from the alcohol and the music. Time to calibrate my skill sets around the time-frame (around 1:30 am)
I reopen with “Heeeeey!”
She goes “Heeeeey!” and is happy to see me. The situation has changed. The orbiter dude who did the gay dances is now buying her drinks. It’s the guy from earlier I had vibed with. She tells him she really didn’t want to drink any more, and coaxes me in to drink HIS drinks!
"C'mon! take the drink! Take a drink!"
I tell her that If i did I might actually violate her sexual space.
"C'mon! Its just one!"
That tells me its ON!
So I drink the tequila, actually down 2 more that the orbiter dude buys from me...and I continue talking to her...the whole time the orbiter is grabbing her neck, speaking really really close, basically doing things that would blow himself out without me lifting a finger.
Finally I've decided to take her...so without even acknowledging the dude, I say "lets dance"
I take her to the dance floor, do a couple of my pivot-spins to get her isolated, and start ramping the kino. Did a few of my physical game stuff, and the make out was easy. I even carry her up and kiss her supple breasts under the dark corners of the dance floor.
Where does the power of escalation come from? Not from escalating, but from stopping. The guy with the ability to stop when things get hot and heavy gains a higher level of buying temperature and compliance from the girl versus the guy trying to up the ante all the time. I do physical push pulls, then eventually, her friends come in surprised and start blocking me.
Girls “That’s it, were going to the rest room!”
I read the situation and see that she’s not moving at all. Her feet are firmly planted on the ground, so that gives me the confidence that she really has put in enough commitment with me. So I stay non-reactive and hold my ground. (Non-reactivity and handling obstacles and shit tests – Nonverbal material)
I stay there and do nothing, I don’t react, nor do I let her go. I keep talking to her and eventually she tells her friends that she’s fine with me. They leave to the amazement of my students, and we continue the gropage on the dance floor. When things got really hot, I took her back to her friends as I am ready to demonstrate the pull to the students. I vibe more with her friends, and I guess I realized she was already negotiating the pull with them. I test this by walking away slightly. As I reached a few feet away her friend runs after me! She tells me “You! Stay right there! Don’t move!” I give her a light smirk. They negotiate, and her friends allow her to leave with me.
I SOI her once more, and I call out the situation, by giving her my observation that it sucks to be the vibe killer (pointing to one of her friends) in the group. I tell her how when it comes to meeting quality guys, girls aren’t really the friends they seem to be. I told her a story of when I dated multiple girls in one group just to see how they would talk about each other, and how I found out they would bash each other to me. After all that, she tells me “well, it’s too bad, I don’t think she found a great guy tonight.” I tell her “Glad you could agree with me on that.” “I like how you’re the strong one in the group, that despite them being taller, or being visibly more expressive, you’re the REAL strong one because you can make decisions for yourself.” (Referring to her previous actions of shooing her friends away to be alone with me, as well as to her “strength” trait she mentioned earlier.” NOW we were ready to bounce even further. Take note this is a huge club.
I bounce her to a very quiet spot near the exit of the club to show the students, and we start gaining a deeper connection and a heightened physical escalation in our intimate spot. She asks me where I live, and I tell her. We fix logistics and it’s on….
Guys, all the “moves” are already out there for free, but the experience and understanding one gains after taking a live program is the premium for paying for it. Its not the knowledge or the tool-kit, it’s the understanding of the dynamic as well as the proper execution in context to the situation.
There are multiple blind spots that us social coaches can see that you, or that dude giving you advice on the web, simply don’t. I had a student do multiple success interactions, insta-dates, and all in ONE DAY from being a newbie simply by adjusting his vocal delivery and conversational material. Its something even most guys are completely oblivious to. Expect his pod cast interview soon.
That’s it for now folks. Hope you had an awesome Xmas, I know I did.
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First of, I'd like to wish everyone and their loved ones Merry Xmas and a Happy New Year. Its been a real good year for myself and Charisma Arts. Just got back from Asia, testing my Charismatic Asian Man seminar, and things went really well. Expect some podcasts and reviews really soon.
So, the London private instructions are fully booked for Jan-March, so the next dates are going to be April of 2008. If you can make those dates, email me to lock those dates in. I am doing a very special boot camp in Johannesburg South Africa on March 18-21. We still have slots so email me if you can make those dates.
There are truly a lot of things to be thankful for, and I am thankful for you guys, who have been very supportive of our content, products, and workshops. Again, may you have a blessed Merry Xmas.
If i dropped a transcript in this story it will take forever
Key points -
* Girls who are madly in love with their exes are reversible. Just hang in there, keep painting pictures and CONNECT! * Don't ever stall - talk about random personal stories or OEQ, just don't stall
I remember opening a chick at the mall who happened to be in the crossroads of her relationship with her ex. She was cute, had a dynamic hairstyle, and perfect teeth.
Apparently the first 5 minutes all she talked about was her ex choosing someone else over her, and how much she loves him, and how he's so smart, charismatic, blah blah blah...
To segue way to something else i started doing the standard "knowing you" thread and the "I'm not a relationship kind of guy so I can't help you there." to cut that off. But she still kept at it. Damn!
SO, next move, OEQ - what do you think are your best qualities?
She said she was smart, sweet and caring
I took "sweet" and told her i liked that...then i segue way into my whole thread of "I'm a free spirit, I'm a tough cookie to break so i want a confident woman in my life...etc etc"
She still went back to the ex thread, so i tell her
So, whats on your ipod playlist?
We talk about music and i tell her how i see life as my one big VIP party...then she tells me "good for you then...i can't club anymore." I told her "too bad, you got domesticated, i like girls who can dance."
Them she proceeded to tell me how she had really bad dates with DJ's which is why she's avoided such venues. She told me how they wanted instant relationships, kids, etc etc real quick.
Some I-perspective "theme" threads i used --
"I go to clubs for the music, the girls are just a side benefit." "Chemistry between two people is inescapable. I know it when i feel it."
-- I paint even MORE pictures...I tell her about what i look for in a girl...blah blah
So, we talked about random stuff after that. Mexican Teledramas, Family, Blu-Ray Discs (Planet Earth is the SHIZZLE!), Korean BBQ, and what not. She tells me how she's a prankster at work, and she loves making people's days happy one way or the other."
"Thats cool, now if only you weren't so harassed in public I'd say we'd have a nice conversation over coffee."
She tells me if we did we'd last 3 hours...
I remember we talked about a couple of more personal things, then i gave her two more genuine compliments...She gives me a flying smack...I go "are we making out?" She goes "maybe, at least in my imagination we are. This is bad.
I said "This is bad, we shouldn't be doing this, but if we do I want you to be a 10/10 or I'm walking out the door..."
They she sighs...
Her: " you're that cavalier guy who sweeps women of their feet huh? My uncles were like that and they tend to womanize a lot."
Troy: "Thats a little harsh don't you think? I'm not thinking that far ahead... i think that things just happen naturally between two people when the chemistry is there...
Her: "I'm sorry."
Troy: i don't blame you, i get that a lot in London. People think I'm the brash rag tag American-Asian a--hole
Her: "I'm really sorry"
Troy: "Nah, its cool, we're cool..."
She then dropped a bomb...
"I think lets just be friends"
Wow. its been what, a year and a half? Haven't heard that in awhile! But it's okay. Troy D is prepared for whatever comes.
"Hey, why not? As long as you can keep your hands to yourself, thats cool. Tell you what, you'll be my sushi buddy...then you'll find me some quality women i can date over here (she goes...okay...)....i want a cool girl to hang out with...make sure she's interesting, loves music, philosophical, and cute
Her: "Fine, ill make sure..." (visibly looking disappointed)
"I sense you're being sarcastic. Thats so cute, its sexy and endearing at the same time"
Her: "Why? Am i? Honestly i felt like for a second i wanted to be that girl and not find one for you..."
Troy "Thats why we cant be friends" (with a sly grin)
Her: "How can we be lovers when we've just met? I have a feeling if ever we did we'll have sex and mockery (didn't get that, so i just ignored it, but whoa she was thinking way forward!)
Troy: like i said, if ever it happens, then cool. if not, then it wont...Its supposed to be natural..relationships are organic, they just grow. you cant force em to just happen overnight makes sense?
Her.."Yup, you're right."
Troy: "So, i say we keep in touch, get to know each other better, and then when i head out ill call you and we can go from there."
Her: "Okay, I will"
Troy: "awesome, you're a cool lady Leigh. if you weren't so far I'd kiss you right now"
No objections...I gaze at her, and get a light kiss on the lips.
She grabs my email and phone number real quick, we head out to look at some shops, and I have no doubt in my mind this relationship will go further.
As Johnny Drama from Entourage would say...
Happy Holidays, guys
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I will be going skiing this weekend. And as much as i am excited, I am also feeling the "newbiness" of it. If anyone has any tips on skiing and snowboarding. Please do email me. I'll appreciate the gesture.
So, 26 years old and I've never done it. But what i do know is when i get there, on top of the slope looking down on powder-snow and an overwhelming view of the outdoors, I will take a deep breath, fearlessly approach it, learn to be competent, and eventually "get it"
I don't think its any different than learning social interactions with women. It will be weird in the beginning, I will fall a number of times, but what matters is getting up, learning from it, and having a good time in the process.
As for what ACTUALLY happens next weekend, I'll get back to you guys on that, hopefully without a few bumps and bruises on my Filipino ass.
For now, check the event reviews page, for my latest workshop reviews. The next kick-ass boot camp attendee could be you!
...My student came in with overwhelming approach anxiety Friday...
Then he did a gangsta pull all the way to his hotel the next night...
what the heck?!?!?
the creation of the
SUPER VACUUM! -- How to melt a girl just by looking at her and saying nothing =)
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