If i dropped a transcript in this story it will take forever
Key points -
* Girls who are madly in love with their exes are reversible. Just hang in there, keep painting pictures and CONNECT! * Don't ever stall - talk about random personal stories or OEQ, just don't stall
I remember opening a chick at the mall who happened to be in the crossroads of her relationship with her ex. She was cute, had a dynamic hairstyle, and perfect teeth.
Apparently the first 5 minutes all she talked about was her ex choosing someone else over her, and how much she loves him, and how he's so smart, charismatic, blah blah blah...
To segue way to something else i started doing the standard "knowing you" thread and the "I'm not a relationship kind of guy so I can't help you there." to cut that off. But she still kept at it. Damn!
SO, next move, OEQ - what do you think are your best qualities?
She said she was smart, sweet and caring
I took "sweet" and told her i liked that...then i segue way into my whole thread of "I'm a free spirit, I'm a tough cookie to break so i want a confident woman in my life...etc etc"
She still went back to the ex thread, so i tell her
So, whats on your ipod playlist?
We talk about music and i tell her how i see life as my one big VIP party...then she tells me "good for you then...i can't club anymore." I told her "too bad, you got domesticated, i like girls who can dance."
Them she proceeded to tell me how she had really bad dates with DJ's which is why she's avoided such venues. She told me how they wanted instant relationships, kids, etc etc real quick.
Some I-perspective "theme" threads i used --
"I go to clubs for the music, the girls are just a side benefit." "Chemistry between two people is inescapable. I know it when i feel it."
-- I paint even MORE pictures...I tell her about what i look for in a girl...blah blah
So, we talked about random stuff after that. Mexican Teledramas, Family, Blu-Ray Discs (Planet Earth is the SHIZZLE!), Korean BBQ, and what not. She tells me how she's a prankster at work, and she loves making people's days happy one way or the other."
"Thats cool, now if only you weren't so harassed in public I'd say we'd have a nice conversation over coffee."
She tells me if we did we'd last 3 hours...
I remember we talked about a couple of more personal things, then i gave her two more genuine compliments...She gives me a flying smack...I go "are we making out?" She goes "maybe, at least in my imagination we are. This is bad.
I said "This is bad, we shouldn't be doing this, but if we do I want you to be a 10/10 or I'm walking out the door..."
They she sighs...
Her: " you're that cavalier guy who sweeps women of their feet huh? My uncles were like that and they tend to womanize a lot."
Troy: "Thats a little harsh don't you think? I'm not thinking that far ahead... i think that things just happen naturally between two people when the chemistry is there...
Her: "I'm sorry."
Troy: i don't blame you, i get that a lot in London. People think I'm the brash rag tag American-Asian a--hole
Her: "I'm really sorry"
Troy: "Nah, its cool, we're cool..."
She then dropped a bomb...
"I think lets just be friends"
Wow. its been what, a year and a half? Haven't heard that in awhile! But it's okay. Troy D is prepared for whatever comes.
"Hey, why not? As long as you can keep your hands to yourself, thats cool. Tell you what, you'll be my sushi buddy...then you'll find me some quality women i can date over here (she goes...okay...)....i want a cool girl to hang out with...make sure she's interesting, loves music, philosophical, and cute
Her: "Fine, ill make sure..." (visibly looking disappointed)
"I sense you're being sarcastic. Thats so cute, its sexy and endearing at the same time"
Her: "Why? Am i? Honestly i felt like for a second i wanted to be that girl and not find one for you..."
Troy "Thats why we cant be friends" (with a sly grin)
Her: "How can we be lovers when we've just met? I have a feeling if ever we did we'll have sex and mockery (didn't get that, so i just ignored it, but whoa she was thinking way forward!)
Troy: like i said, if ever it happens, then cool. if not, then it wont...Its supposed to be natural..relationships are organic, they just grow. you cant force em to just happen overnight makes sense?
Her.."Yup, you're right."
Troy: "So, i say we keep in touch, get to know each other better, and then when i head out ill call you and we can go from there."
Her: "Okay, I will"
Troy: "awesome, you're a cool lady Leigh. if you weren't so far I'd kiss you right now"
No objections...I gaze at her, and get a light kiss on the lips.
She grabs my email and phone number real quick, we head out to look at some shops, and I have no doubt in my mind this relationship will go further.
As Johnny Drama from Entourage would say...
Happy Holidays, guys