Proactiveness, and the willingness to share yourself. These are keys to the initial escalation.
I think that the world's Xbox 360's, the internet, and the huge Dolce shades create the appearance of "minding your own business." All you have to do to break that is to SPEAK UP.
So, today was interesting. 2 weeks from the vacay and 3 more private coaching sessions to clear out -- one in Toronto, one with Scottc, and one with Brahmin. For those who are thinking of doing private coaching I will send you prep work that will get you ready.
Disclaimer - Do Not copy the words or take them for what they are literally. These are my thoughts irrelevant of whether I'm talking to an attractive female or not. Even if i were talking to you guys I'd share the same insights. Catch the dynamic.
I head out to the salon as the sides of my hair was forming like the bushes on my front lawn. Luckily, I had a real hot (and hip) hairstylist.
***Not her, but pretty damn close***
Beautiful South American chick. Was she Brazilian? She had blue highlights on her hair and some panda earrings. Complete look i would say is punk. Just as with some punk girls, she was very pretty.
Just as any hired gun, they're a) bored out of their brains and b) are going to initiate the conversation. All i have to is start dropping my cents.
First was the consultation. I show her a few pictures off of my I-phone I wanted her to see, plus a few photos of myself traveling. I told her how my stylist in Frisco made this really cool cut, etc etc. She tells me how i have thick hair and how that is the best for styling, and how she loves the Japanese and Asian culture.
Nice, a perfect match! - I tell myself.
So, I mentioned to her what I did (motivational speaker, sick of the MO), and she mentioned that she can see that. She likes the tone of my voice and all.
Enough of this stuff, lets get personal here
I remember starting talking about marriage. I remember the leeway was about my age and we started guessing each other's ages and I ended up asking if she was married or single.
Then she said she never wants to get into marriage. Long explanation.
I tell her the story of the Ecuadorian chick on Stripes' boot camp, and the buffoon who ended up marrying her for fear of losing her. "You know where that's gonna be headed." She says.
I told her i would never want to end up that way. She agrees.
I told her how I need a confident girl, etc etc etc
Well, she finally opened up. She had just broken off with her boyfriend. Like, lunch break time. They've been living together for 6 months now. (No wonder she doesn't want to get married )
She said her bf was everything she wanted in a man, they're so alike, blah blah blah
I tell her, well, you women don't work that way though
She said really?!?
I DQ by saying, you want to know what I think?
She says "yes!" enthusiastically
I tell her about the differences of how men and women think. On at how most men think A+B+C, and how women are more on how they feel at a certain moment. Its all about emotions. Right there, she was hooked. She enthusiastically said "Exactly!!!!!"
So, i tell her..."You're telling me you're so alike, blah blah blah, but even you wanted to cool of with him...now tell me, how are you feeling about your relationship? If how you felt was a sound. What sound does the emotion feel to you? "eh!", or "ugghh" or "hhhuuuhhhghhh!"
Without hesitation she tells me in a groaning sound.
Troy - "you're sick of each other!"
From there, I related on my old long term relationship. I went on this story on how despite we were perfect for each other and I even considered marrying her (a feat, no doubt), the distance between us made us sick of getting on the phone for maintaining the relationship for the sake of it. So thats exactly how i felt.
She totally related.
She tells me how its amazing we connect, and that she is a very hard book to read. She tells me she hardly tells her stuff to anybody and is glad that she feels comfortable to tell me.
I told her that he can't find many substitutes for her, but she surely can find men who are better than him. Then I told her she was very pretty and I can imagine her in short sexy pink shorts and a white top.
She sees the sincerity in my eyes. Through the mirror there was this "look" that said everything. I abruptly end this mood, as I set up my barrier.
I leave her wanting more. I cut the convo there, and head to the front of the salon to pay. Interestingly follows me to the front and she stays there.
I re-start the convo and plant my hand on her shoulder, saying "good luck with Japan, I really think you'll do great over there"
Just like what Wayne says, I talk louder outside. It will make others attempt to make a one-on-one convo with you. It appears to others as if we really know each other. When one of the cute stylists finds a weak spot in the convo, she buts in.
"What are you guys talking about?"
So we ended up chatting about Japan, the Harajuku Style, and the other stylist even buts in with "aren't the books there read backwards?" "Exactly! I'm surprised you figured that out! Are you an anime lover?" I mentioned. The great convos went on. Good vibe was there all throughout.
With the social proof established, this interaction was smooth sailing. I was a LEGIT GUY. The guy who wasn't mister pick up dude with no follow up. Not a chump nor a chode. At this point people were gravitating over me. My sister even noticed the hot blonde beside her come up close to overhear the ruckus.
I do some kino by massaging her telling her "you get ready now, make sure you'll make him want to f--k you when he sees you. Worse comes to worse you call me."
whooooof! number appears out of nowhere. I foreshadowed a couple of things, but left it there. I already turned two dates down as I am to fly to Toronto tomorrow.
I know this isn't like how i work at boot camp. The airplane ride with Stone, and the spectacle last weekend in Austin with everyone and their boyfriend's jaws dropped still tops the list of amazing pick ups. But I just thought of sharing this out, because it seems like a very normal close that can be done when you get your hair disheveled. Seriously there are a lot of cute and hot hairstylists out there. And plus once she falls into my follow up game, its game over.
As I end this 3 week run, I realize my interactions are becoming very solid, and that a huge part of the verbal and non verbal game in my part has been solid. For the past months I've done nothing but step aside and develop my character to again, as i mentioned in Easievibe's journal, create a legit first impression that lasts throughout. I believe I have achieved that.