May
2008
Grudges? Baggage? How to get rid of them
I'm supposed to be sleeping right now, but unbelievably i ended up chatting with two people who monumentally changed my life. It was because of them that I actually made those decisions which altered my life forever.
One, was a very good friend in high school, who i spent a full 2 hours crackin up with on how stupid and chumpy we were in high school. Yes I was chumpy once. And the memories were fun to remember, but were tough to live out back then. It was because of that chumpiness that made me decide to change when i hit Uni. It was a major step that started the spark.
And next, was my "first love" ex of 2 years (lost the v card) who broke my heart and started my player rampage at 19 years old. Until now as we chat on facebook, we still reminisce on everything. Although we never lasted as much as we wanted we both admitted that the sex was definitely priceless (especially the ones in public places like the library) and we really had good times under our belt.
Interestingly, the past feelings of being a loser, or anger towards my ex never even came back. Not one bit. I came to realize that I actually did not regret going through those tough times, whether being lady-less in high school, or going through a resentful, painful break up, because they were what made me into who i am now. It was because of those events that I made a decision that I stuck with all throughout.
Luckily through the pain i met a mentor who taught me this really awesome thing. When we were doing self-improvement seminars we would always do this activity to rid our clients of their baggage.
I remember we had our clients remember all the people who helped them, and hurt them. The ones who believed in them, and the ones who put them down. The room became very emotional. We had music playing too.
Our activity actually made a lot of people cry. The key to ridding baggage was actually saying these two things to these people you've met along the way...
