December
2008
MUST READ Event Review: San Francisco AND Mindset Mind Map 1/3: Troy’s TOP THREE BELIEFS
Hey Guys!
Before the homeboys leave for the holiday vacay, I was actually surprised to see an event review posted from a few months ago!
Thing about him and his PI: He listened, he applied immediately, and he looked at the BIGGER PICTURE versus just one-on-one stuff. Now, he is living the life.
If you're reading this, Kojones, then I give you my deepest gratitude and I am very proud of what you are making of your life. You are the man!
PRIVATE INSTRUCTION WITH TROY by Kojones
To tell the truth, I was kind of freaked out about meeting Troy for the first time. I listened to his podcasts and read his posts. Some of the private instruction reviews on him scared me. I expected him to be a PUA drill sergeant (ie. “Did I teach you to do that sh*t? ! Did I?!”) I almost wanted to back out. But I’m glad I didn’t.
Turns out Troy is just a regular guy, and easy to talk to. He’s a good listener. Obviously he has keen insight into human behavior and boundless energy. My instruction was held in a pad which overlooked the bay in San Francisco. This was Troy’s friend’s place. It was private. That made it easier to talk about my goals and experiences. I was impressed that Troy’s friend (whose pad it was) was in a healthy committed relationship with a quality woman. In other words, Troy’s friends were not all player-types. That made an impression on me.
Troy talked to me about my goals, got a sense of who I was, and then started fixing me – my posture, my movements, my clothes, etc. As we prepared for night game, he drilled me on how to lead, how to kino, how to escalate, and the logistics of club game. I took tons of notes. Then I went back to my hotel to rest, and to prepare for the night ahead. I was nervous. Night game scares me.
It’s been said before that Troy is the real deal. He lives what he preaches. In the club, he did real approaches. And he didn’t just do the easy sets, either: He did the hard sets, dealing with the sh*t tests. He took a stripper by the hand, snagged her from the couch where she was sitting next to her boyfriend, and danced with her in the middle of the floor, social-proofing the room. He swung her around, grinded, and then returned her to her owner, a handsome guy who looked like he stepped out of a GQ cover. This expanded my idea of what was possible. It also taught me strategy: He danced with the eye candy and built social proof in a matter of seconds.
Some of the stuff that Troy teaches about night game you will never find in the JM ebook or anywhere else. It’s stuff that he learned through trial and error in the field. I love JM but some of the stuff won’t work in noisy club environments. It was fun walking through the club with Troy while he dissected everything going on.
Imagine walking with Morpheus through a noisy club while he freeze frames and says, “Do you see it Neo? Do you understand? This guy with the cowboy hat is about to get blown out because he is hovering and doesn’t have the balls to sit his ass down. That girl over there in the three-set is the weakest link because she’s not engaged in the conversation. And the entire room is about to become ours because the strippers are with us.” Walking through a club with Troy’s mind racing and dissecting everything in sight was an eye-opening experience for me. I’ll never look at a club in the same way anymore.
I opened a girl sitting on a couch at Troy’s suggestion and sat down next to her. She wasn’t the kind of girl I expected to meet in a club – just a down-to-earth girl from a small town in North Carolina. Later I opened a two-set that Troy had softened up earlier. Troy taught me how to properly run a two-set without a wing, which was eye-opening for me.
While on this topic, I’ll say that the PUA body of knowledge is constantly changing, as girls become socialized by so many approach artists. Girls have become wise to traditional wing tactics. Troy knows this. He blasts through the pretense of traditional pickup. How many sets have been blown because the wings always come in at the same time and always says the same stupid thing?
The most important lesson for me was learning how to lead. I moved a two-set around the venue. Later, I took a girl by the hand and led her downstairs and danced with her. It was awesome. I did Troy’s patented dance move and couldn’t believe I was doing it. I’m scared to death of free form dancing, but I actually had fun. The main thing is that I learned it is not as hard as I thought. It’s a skill that can be learned.
The next day, Troy gave me some good pointers on crib design and crib logistics. We also talked at length about Facebook design. This was big. I’d never given much thought about how my Facebook page was set up and maintained. Troy distilled this down to a science. Now I manage my Facebook page like a PR campaign.
I’m an older guy, 39. I’m interested in women, but that’s no longer the only thing. On some level, pickup is about designing a life to bring women into. Troy taught me about attracting other things into my life: quality people, business, money, etc. He talked about engineering a life that is fun 24/7, so that pickup is not just a role that you play. As you go about your life, you are the party. After sarging at the club, I hung out with Troy and his crew at a diner. Troy surrounds himself with quality guys, real guys. We swapped stories and chatted about developing skill, life lessons, adventures, and of course, women. This might sound weird, but it’s the first time I’ve ever had fun hanging out with guys.
Troy savors every moment of the day and is enthusiastic about the little things in his life (like his new iPod game) and the big things (like his LTR). This was the lesson I walked away with: how to live my life. The game can never be bigger than the way we live our lives. And the way we live our lives ultimately will determine the quality of women that are drawn to us.
RESULTS:
When I returned to my small hometown, I opened a cute Asian girl in the Laundromat, late one night. I practiced physical leading and we ended up salsa dancing while our laundry dried. A week later, I was approached by an exotic brunette in my gym who thought I was the dance instructor. I didn’t let her leave, though. I practiced physical compliance and got her to demonstrate her capoeira moves on the dance floor. Then I number closed her. Last night I found myself drinking wine in her bedroom. In two weeks I will fly to Dubai to be with my beautiful Russian babe to greet the New Year. I love this life.
I’m thankful I was able to take private instruction with Troy. Wish I could have spent more time with him. I had a lot more questions. And God bless Juggler and his method. I’ve met some amazing women this year. And I know this is just the beginning.
Mind Set Mind Map 1/2: Troy's TOP THREE BELIEFS EXPLAINED
I've been a certified sales trainer for 3 years, a self-improvement coach for 2, a regional track medalist in my home country the Philippines, a competitive martial artist for 3, and a professional pick up coach for 4. I've gone from nothing to success, to competitively playing, to eventually training and molding future winners, and eventually deconstructing my beliefs.
When I flowed from one interest and industry to the other, the main thing that really overlapped, was MIND SETS. Any time the beliefs and the attitude of someone is set to overdrive, the body will follow, and achieve maximum performance. Its been proven scientifically time and time again. If you mentally expect excellence, you will become excellent.
Without further ado, here are my top 3 beliefs.
I. TROY'S MINDSET #1 "When in Doubt, Think...WOMEN WANT MEN"
let's face it. Without that masculine energy and self-permission, there will be no real sexual result from all your efforts. I am aware of three KEY things, that if you look at it, puts YOU on the power card. After reading this you might stop putting women on the pedestal:
a) Women's Biological Clock - Time is running out for them. As women age, their "stock" goes down, as we men age, our "stock" goes UP! We gain more resources, are more mature, more experienced...that's why you'll often see older guys dating younger women 4-6 years their junior. As women's biological clocks start running out of time, the more they'll realize they need YOU more than ever.
Note: Age 24-26 is a GOOD niche of woman to date.
b) Women's Sex Drives - We keep hearing that a woman's sex drive is the same, if not greater than men. I believe this is true. I've had some real freaky women in my time who at first glance, you guys would never think would love sex as much.
Note: its all about NOT making her look like a slut in front of her friends. Address the freak inside of her in closed doors, privately. learn dirty talk and phone sex.
c) The REASON for all their make up, clothing, spa and tanning salon & going out spending ---> YOU!!!!
It was FJ Shark that said it best, "Women are busy and bored." I know of tons of women who have more money than me, and are easily getting big breaks in sales, real estate, and modelling because of their looks. At the end of the day though, despite the apparent "sameness' between men and women via status and resources there is still something missing in women's lives: A MASCULINE FORCE.
See, we are built differently, no matter what. Hormones for both sexes are different, and i won't even talk about upbringing and the importance of the father-daughter relationship to a woman's sexual attitude. Bottom line, instill in your heads that all that resources, all the nights of going out women do, and the hours and hours of getting ready and the constant "Cosmo-girl" insecurity, is all for one purpose: Snagging a cool catch like YOU!
So, when these 3 key things all add up, WOMEN WANT MEN!
II. TROY'S MINDSET #2 "X = X"
X = X is one of my OLDEST, main foundational beliefs. Its sort of like my golden rule but applicable in many ways. Most of my successes in dealing with clients and future clients rely upon this. I treat clients how I want to be treated, and more often than none they get the feeling as if they've known me for a long time now.
Now, when it comes to interactions with women, I'm going to be a little specific.
a) What you feel = What she feels
- If you have prejudgments about them, they will have prejudgments about YOU.
- If you hesitate, they will hesitate
- If you do not commit, they will not commit
ON THE OTHER HAND
- If you are genuinely interested, you'll get the same back
- If you have the fun vibe projected, you'll get the same back
- If you commit, she or they will commit
- If you FEEL sexual towards her, she will FEEL sexual towards you.
b) Your personal fashion style somewhat gears yourself to attract certain niches of women
Not to talk in a stereotypical way, but it is a fact. Most fashion styles do attract a certain crowd. if you want to be taken seriously, mix up your stuff with casual. if you want to be a rockstar for today, suit up on the accessories! Its all about X = X...people are attracted by other people they are familiar with and can identify with.
III. TROY'S MIND SET # III. THE RULE OF COOL : "What you think is cool, is COOL"
My cousin Bradley is one of the guys I really looked up to early on in life. He was pulling chicks home at 12, and by 16 or 18 he was a machine. By 21-22 he dated ONLY 10 blondes and even got Hawaiian Tropic Models and future WWE Divas. Thing is, he NEVER cold approached! BUT, he constantly FASCINATED women.
He didn't have much resources, but he did have very unique and interesting hobbies. Turntabling, Break Dancing, his old corvette, drinking, and many more. The reason people were fascinated by him was because he WAS INSANELY INTO HIS STUFF and WOULD NOT STOP TALKING ABOUT THEM!
I noticed that when it comes to HYPE, hype just happens because of a single person's hardcore belief in it!
How to use: Try the Rule of Cool on the most mundane things.
Why are locals fascinated by foreigners/vacationists/visitors? Because they have genuine appreciation for things that, well if you were a local you would take for granted. Like if i were in Japan, and I saw, for the first time, a vending machine that cooks REAL FOOD in front of me, i would FLIP OUT. But, if you were a local Japanese person, I'm sure it wouldn't matter much because machines like that are found in most street corners and shops.
But then again I think I'd flip out MORE if i saw an underwear vending machine!
See. that's what REALLY fascinates people around you. Its not the DHV (ugh) stories, its your UNUSUAL AND UNIQUE INTERESTS!
And not only that, its HOW YOU ACTUALLY SHOW AND TELL PEOPLE YOUR INTEREST IN THEM
Does this apply on all people? YES. Does this apply to WOMEN? HEEEECK YEAH!
Case and point: BMX/X-Sports Athletes. I once met an uber hot chick who was dating one of the semi-pro guys on the BMX circuit. I asked her what it was that really made her fall in love with the guy. And she said, "I love that he's into his (BMX) passion...i don't mind being number 2 because I just enjoy seeing him do this....I support him with everything I have..."
How beautiful would it be if all relationships were like this eh? Again, all you have to do with the rule of cool is to think (whatever thing it is) is cool, and it WILL BE COOL.
Take what Timmy D, the proverbial DIMSUM guru said awhile ago:
"Look, if i were to choose between Maria Ozawa, or that goooood, steamed, ha-kaw dimsum....Shit, I'd take the dimsum"
"If i had ONE LAST MEAL before getting hung or shot or what not....it would be that gooood, ha-kaw dimsum"
(While walking with a chick) "Oh...My....God... is that? Is that a DIMSUM STAND?!?" Dayyaaaammmnnnnn!
There you have it guys, my top 3 beliefs. These beliefs have carried me from one successful interaction to another; from one project to the next; from one insane career to another. I hope you guys can implement it in your lives to eventually have that rock-solid belief system to create that 24/7 attractive life.
Cheers!
Troy
RECENT ALUMNI LAY REPORT: SOEASY
As some of you know, I love posting student successes on the blog. Soeasy, my good ol' buddy from San Francisco (if Kojone's mind blowing review wasn't enough) just texted me today, letting me know he just successfully closed a chick. And the funny part is, as much as soeasy is getting INSANELY GOOD at conversational game (Thanks to continuous coaching and BRM), this was an instance of very practical pick up:
Friday, 2AM. We pick up two girls from a local bar, and bounce them to our typical after party spot. It's got plenty of games, food, and drink. If you know me, you know what I'm talking about. My wing is just a friend of mine who's fairly good, but is neither in the community nor knows about my involvement.
While everyone else is playing Rock Band, it's clear that it's on between my target and me. Lying on the couch with her, I ask her:
"Would you freak out?" "About what?" (turn her head towards mine) "You know. 
" "Maybe I'd scream and embarrass you in front of everyone"
Multiple make outs ensue.
By this time, it's probably around 4AM, and my wing and I are actually ready to call it a night. These girls still want to party, so my wing suggests walking over to his place to play Scrabble (yeah right). Unfortunately, the layout of the apartment makes it impossible for either couple to get any privacy. He tries to kick us out, but she stays on the couch with him, so my target runs over to the bed. I roll with this, so we cuddle/make out and get blue balls for the rest of the night. Since neither of us slept much, I felt like a train wreck the next day.
Saturday Night. Her (11:22p): "Actually... It was your pants. How's the xmas party?" (reference to earlier convo)
I've been partying since 7pm, so I don't even notice this text till nearly 1am.
Me (12:53a): Absolutely awesome what are u up to now? Her (12:54a): "Just got back from the city and into bed."
I call her up:
Her: "Hey"
Me: "So was that an invitation?"
Her: "Haha, no. I need to get some actual sleep."
Me: "Yeah, me too. Okay, what's your address? I'm coming over."
Her: "[address]" Me: "I'll be over in 20 minutes"
Game over!
