Why are girls into tourists or foreigners? Why are people interested in celebrity gossip? Why does it matter more if Jennifer Lopez runs out of toilet paper than when that happens to my neighbor? Ever thought about that? If you are like me, then most certainly you did and the answer is easy: mundane things. People are drawn to seemingly secular topics and stories because they can relate to them easily. If we talk about mundane things we can instantly attract people around us. You might have noticed that you do that already with your friends: you talk about anything, important and unimportant alike. So when you do that to a stranger, it creates an instant feeling of “familiarity”.
Take for example celebrities: Have you ever watched an interview with Paris Hilton or George Clooney? When they talk, they talk about mundane things. They talk about how they repainted their homes or a how they went on a charity trip, how they did this and that. The things they talk about are seemingly about day to day issues, things we can relate to: “I like the fresh bread in Italy” or “Did you ever notice that the tap water in Switzerland tastes different?”
I try to be as mundane about the things I talk about as possible. Let me give you a few examples: “I noticed the birds this morning when I woke up” “I give this piece of paper to my dog so she can shred it and that makes her happy, isn’t that amazing? I mean, a piece of paper” “Do you smell it? The smell of fresh bread from the bakery at the corner” “Isn’t it a beautiful day today?” “Did you see the clouds outside? This must be the most amazing formation I’ve ever seen!”
I always keep a low profile when it comes to talking about things. Let me give you another example. When I recently went out, I was talking to this girl. She was born in LA, always lived there and apart from a couple of trips to Cancun and the East Coast hasn’t been around that much – she was also the dedicated driver for her group. So we start talking and I tell her about how LA is so diverse and that this is what I like about it the most: [2:48:08 PM] Alex says: ME “Did you ever notice that people here in LA are kind of difficult to talk to?” HER “Yeah, that’s true. Everyone thinks that they are special!” ME “Do you remember when we were little? Back in kindergarten, we were talking to anyone, we were making friends so easily and life was good – what has changed?” SHE “I don’t know?! But thinking of it, it’s sad – maybe we lost our innocence?” ME “Oh yeah, totally. When was the last time you have enjoyed a sunset in Santa Monica or the sunrise over Mulholland?” SHE ”Let me think! I don’t think I ever did that on purpose, I don’t recall that I ever watched the sunrise over Mulholland. Is it pretty?” ME “Hell yeah! It’s the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen because it paints such a strong picture, full of contrast. Everything looks so peacefully – it’s almost like having a dream.” SHE “WOW, never thought it would be that amazing but the way you explain it, it must be special!” ME “I’m very disappointed in you, living all your life in LA and haven’t even seen the sunrise over Mulholland! I feel obligated now!” SHE “Yeah, it’s just nobody ever asked me to watch it and by myself I never actually thought of doing it. Why do you feel obligated?” ME “Because I can’t let you go on with your life knowing how beautiful the sunrise is without you ever seeing it. So, when are we going?” She “(laughs) You waste no time, do you?” ME “God knows how long we’ll be having those sunrises after all – we gotta hurry before we’re running out of them (smiling)” She “Ok, here’s my number, I’m busy this week but next week I’m fine.” ME “Great! I’ll bring the fresh and warm bagels and you bring the coffee! Just milk, no sugar for me, deal?” SHE “Deal!”
So, what just happened there? I was talking with this girl about mundane things: sunset and sunrise. I was also foreshadowing but I will get into more details about that in another post. We did not talk about what I do for living or what she does, we did not brag about how cool we are, nothing like that. We kept the conversation casual but yet interesting. Although she is beautiful I did not complement her or make any moves (largely because logistics would not have worked out and that would have not gotten me anywhere). I was just that man who appreciates the sunrise and she loved it. She got approached by a couple of guys that night but I bet that my approach was the most genuine and memorable. Again I used LOS to show her that I am a genuinely nice guy and even though she said she was busy for the rest of the week, she texted me somewhere in the morning “Did you make it home safely? I hope we don’t run out of sunrises before we can meet”.
So talking about mundane, ordinary things helps us to create attraction because we sound genuine and like someone they have known for a long time. I heard that more than once “I feel like I have known you for ages” – this is why this works. It creates a feeling of friendship and intimacy you normally only find between good friends. We appreciate life and simple things. We are not obsessively in love with ourselves and we don’t have to brag about who we are or what car we’re driving. We don’t seek approval or respect by trying to impress people. If they like you for being the ordinary guy, imagine what will happen as soon as they find out how awesome you really are? As soon as they hear that you are playing in a band or skydive or engineer bicycles or go bungee jumping or whatever it is that you do to enrich your life. They basically like you for being “simple” and then they find out, randomly or by accident or by checking out your facebook page, that there is way more to you than what they thought. You will come around as humble and with a strong character; they will think “wow, it keeps getting better and better!” Don’t use all your bullets at once – let them discover instead how special you are.
So here’s an exercise I want you all to participate in:
Next time you are shopping for groceries, talk to the cashier about mundane things. For example about what you are buying. You can talk about how they don’t make this or that anymore and how this or that was your favorite or if they ever noticed that when they sell you MEGA rolls of toilet paper and they day it has 30% more sheets on a roll, that they are actually only making the sheets shorter. You can talk about how everything has to be organic these days but when you were little your veggies and fruits came from real farmers who didn’t use those chemicals anyway, how all that has changed and so on. Talk about obvious and ordinary things. See how that goes. You should notice how the cashier will open up and engage in your conversation because he or she can easily relate to what you are saying. Apply this knowledge in any other conversations as well from now on.
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Our homeboy matt used the same simple principles on his skiing trip last weekend and again, got laid. He’s posting a lay report soon this week when his midterms are over. His second session was insanely fun as I extensively taught him my 99% technique to dealing (and stealing) girls with boyfriends.
As you know, A-game has been blazing it up, did an insane LOS trip on Nordstrom and now has some chick wearing red lingerie waiting for him in her apartment. Employee benefits have never been better hahahaha.
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Okay,So I'd like to drop a conversation that happened a few minutes ago. This came off a pipeline and a boring night on the computer trying to answer these darned nursing tests (I'm on my last semester, what gives).
The low down? I met this chick who was killer-eyeing me on LOS (line of sight) when me and the homies went out at this local pub about a month ago. Thing was she had her "boyfriend" there (TheGodfather would say borefriend), and it was so funny how he couldn't gauge if I was a threat or not (I was leading and leaving), so he ended up looking like a complete tool over hugging and over kissing this chick. So, with a few sexual eyes, I buit, built, built that tension.
Btw she was the cutest chick in the bar that I saw. I love how in this call she even tries to be funny.
IMAGINE, what your life would be like, if it was THIS EASY. Imagine how you'll never have to go through fancy ways of following up with a chick. Think about this process multiplied by TEN, or A HUNDRED. Here's the short method: When you've made that great impression on her, and you SHOW HER that you're MAN ENOUGH to hold and build the tension, its only a matter of time before they come running back.
So, without further ado, here goes:
ME: Hey you!
Hey there hows it goin?
i was in Austin a few weeks ago, but i left my iphone at home!
your not going out tonight?
i am...IN SAN ANTONIO! lol
you should come down here
it'll be fun fun fun all over again
I go to SAn Antonio very often
but tonight I am in killeen
dont know where thats at, its near austin right?
yes about and hour north
okay, that was a million dollar guess :)
I am just laying low tonight, are you not going out ?
im thinking tomorrow night
Same here, where do you normally go?
here in SA? depends of which part of town, sometimes the stone oak area, sometimes downtown, or at posh
oh wow so many choices :)
yeah, come down here tomorrow, we'll draw sticks
I just might
whats your number?
awesome fun fun fun
kewl! Well I will prank call you now
oh no, should i be scared? lol
im off to bed very sleepy
yep you should be : }
okay, well i hope that wasn't an indication of dirty talk over the phone LOL
shoot me a text tomorrow, we'll think of a gameplan
Thanks to you guys, the Steps to Success Tele-class was undoubtedly a MAJOR SUCCESS. With only a few days of prep time, we gathered the right number of guys who were definitely serious about getting good with women. We wanted TEN, and we got TEN.
I didn’t want it to be some mass telecast for lurkers and internet posers. Well, it’s not like they’d understand what we were talking about, BUT
Just in case you missed it, here’s a mini highlight reel of the stuff we tackled throughout the call, minus the fun and entertaining “war stories” the guys shared.
Troy Dizon DatingSTEPS TO SUCCESS Conference call: the Highlight Reel
Why Do this?
Selecting versus being selected
Avoiding high-investment, low-return relationships with women, thus creating high-return, low-investment relationships with women (imagine a harem of women feeding you grapes and bathing you)
Avoiding female drama, but rather be the cause of the drama they crave for
Good question to ponder on: “How come girls you don’t care about call you, and girls you care about never call you.” – Chasing SUCKS. Caring too much SUCKS.
There are only two guys in women’s heads – the provider/chaser guy and the sex/fun/romantic guy – you’re not the second guy and that’s why they don’t call you.
Having a love more than women, and how historically it’s been proven (through gladiators, musicians, sports figures, etc).
The most common saying ALL players say, “I’m a bird that can’t be caged, baby” and why its such a good attitude to adopt.
You must be programmed to WIN, NOT programmed to lose and somehow "hope" to win. This is the reason why people depend on getting attention, hooks, IOI's, and locking in - they assume that just being themselves won't work.
The biggest baloney in the pick up business is that they give an array of disconnected advice that it’s practically impossible for a newbie to put things together, even at least visually.
The one big question all naturals (and what YOU should) ask is, “What would happen if I had MY way all the time?” How would that manifest in specific scenarios?
Dropped some good tips to have sex if you live with your parents, i.e. scheduling the visits, prepping for sex in the car, knowing some places to be alone with her, or being downright shameless about it (like Hide or Aaron Lias)
Why pick up artists get statistically very low averages when it comes to approaching strangers – because they try to pick up everybody!
How day game is totally ineffective unless you’ve got social structures set up.
The story about the three-some I had when I ran program with 2 other pick up companies around – proof that they aren’t getting girls that they want.
How niche theory applied can get you the girl you want -- over and over and over.
How to build a Female Magnet in you
Having a love higher than women – Using the affirmation, “If (MY 1st LOVE i.e. snowboarding) was a woman, I’d fuck her 10 times a day”
Stop buying into the idea of “hot women”, the more you buy it the more they will continue to sell the idea in your head. They’re all women, plain and simple.
Stop being so damn needy. I threw in the Beggar versus the Shiny suit guy analogy on the call as well. There’s a reason the rich become richer is because they don’t NEED YOU to make them rich!
Start habits of self-respect
Get rid of your female hormones! i.e. making a big deal out of things (which is what girls are supposed to do) – As a joke, I suggested the guys put a box of pregnancy pills beside the phone marked with a NO FEMALE HORMONES sign, next time they get on the phone with women.
Wow, that was a lot. But I thoroughly enjoyed bonding with the guys.Again, if you haven’t added me, all you have to do is click on this icon:
Look. I am not a guru; all of the material covered comes from experience. Every single pointer I had on the teleclass, I backed up with a real experience that happened to me in real life. Its either I’ve seen it or lived it fellas.
One thing I enjoyed about this call is that I could tell the guys who joined were dead serious about getting good. I could tell that they were sick and tired of doing pick up for 2-3 years which rarely bore any fruit and that they wanted a way of being versus a method. And another thing that I totally admired about them was that they were HONEST. Not once did they keep their experiences, bad times, setbacks and sticking points to themselves. I guess that was the clincher that made the call so much fun, light, and ultimately successful.
We’re not in the business of attracting people who simply want “dating tips”. We are not interested in guys who like to half-ass their interactions 90% of the time. Matter of fact, unlike these newsletter heavy gurus, we don’t want your email address.
We’re in the business to bring together guys who want to make that change BADLY. And it’s those guys that drive me to teach, to work overdrive, non-stop every day, and to bring you guys the best this company has to offer and to show that we are UNLIKE ANYTHING ELSE.
STEPS TO SUCCESS LIVE CONFERENCE CALL Starts TONIGHT at 7 pm EST
ALL SEATS BOOKED
At officially 5 am in the morning today, the LAST person who signed up for the call took the LAST seat.
Here's a rundown on who's on the list
Now, I will allow "back up slots" of up to 3 more guys just in case some the guys on this list can't make it, but I can't promise you anything as the SKYPE call itself only allows 10 conference call attendees
I just want to announce that we are down to less than 6 available slots for our upcoming STEPS TO SUCCESS conference call, happening on SKYPE, TOMORROW, at 7 PM EST
Normally we'd only have 4 slots, but I am opening slots just in case some of the others don't make it.
Again, this will be the best time to learn some TIME-PROVEN ways of getting good with women that we, at TDD hold true in the way we do our programs like the Skype Coaching, Champions of Choice Podcasts, and our Live Seminars and Bootcamps.
So, if you've been dying to know how the heck we're a cut above the rest, and how you can start acquiring the winning skills our guys are consistently pulling, then GET ON THIS CALL. It is not an option to pass this up. Time to find out the REAL REASON why people don't leave once they bump into TDD.
Again, let me remind you all of what to do.
a) get a skype account, and a headset + mic combo (not required for laptops with built in ones)
b) add me, username is tdtroy10
c) tell me you want in, and your slot is reserved!
Thanks and I'll see you there tomorrow!
BTW you can also follow my random musings on TWITTER
A lot of guys hear "nonverbal this, and nonverbal that" when it comes to really conveying your sexual self. Well, if there's anything we at TDD, especially the lead instructors masterfully do, is subtly do sexual eye contact that most verbal methods can't even get CLOSE TO. A lot of guys try to "say" the sexual words but it just comes totally off. Anyway, thanks to one of our lead instructors, Aaron Dan, who also has his blog, NICE GUY WITH GAME. He put together an AMAZING TUTORIAL for everyone to learn from.
STEPS TO SUCCESS FREE CONFERENCE CALL GOES LIVE 7 pm EST Wednesday, FEB 18
I will be doing a free conference call Wednesday night, at 7PM EST. Hopefully we can get some of the Instructors, Aaron and Andy on the call as well. I will be answering a lot of questions guys are asking regarding the NEW METHOD we're teaching guys that gets them instantaneously good with women.
Again, more and more, and MORE guys are realizing that following our simple principles and religiously doing the laid-out plans we have leads to a huge cut in learning curves and crazy success that most guys realize 12-18 months of practicing a "method" out.
I'll tell ya, I have an insane BACKLOG of lay reports from guys who have trained from as little as 3 weeks with us. If this wasn't such a normal thing to them I'd say our field report forum would be jacked with lay reports you guys would drop your current method QUICKER than a world class sprinter.
SO, If you've ever been curious about our dynamite stuff, get on the call and maybe I can dish out some dirt.
OKay, now the difference on this call is that it will be a SKYPE VOICE CONFERENCE CALL
I chose to do skype so that our International Fans and Clientele can actually chime in on what we've been working on in our lab and what the best stuff is on getting good with women. So, if you're from outside of the US, this is for you and I expect you to be there.
SO, unless you do the action of:
a) adding me on skype, with my user name being tdtroy10 and
b) telling me you WANT IN on this conference call
You WONT BE INVITED
Once you do that, I will then log your username down and flag you on the conference invite on Feb 18
All it takes for you is a free skype account, a headset/mic combo ($10-14), and you're good to go. Trust me, its worth going through all the trouble to get one if you don't have it.