I suddenly awoke in the middle of the night. Her movements on the bed startled me. She rolled towards me and laid her head on my chest. My eyes were wide open as I was entertained by this thought: I have just made love with the most beautiful woman I have ever been with.
It is hard to imagine how I got in this situation. Like many, I was driven by the idea that I deserve beautiful woman in my life. I mean why not? I didn't think I was a loser. On the contrary, I demanded excellence in everything I did. I had a great job, a good group of friends, yet I couldn't attract the women that I wanted.
I came up with reasons why I wasn't able to get with woman. I blamed my height and my ethnicity. Women don't want to be with a short minority. They want men who are tall and good looking. They want people like my tall handsome friends, not short men like me.
Frustrated by all of this, I became desperate. I searched the internet for information. I invested in e-books and sites selling the PUA way of life. Regrettably, I fell for their sales pitches and wasted a good year of my life to canned lines and negs. Honestly, what sadden me the most was not that I didn't attract women, but I was becoming something that wasn't me. I felt that I was corroding the essence of who I am.
Somehow, someway I was lucky to stumble upon TDD. I read all the articles and listened to the COCs. I believed in what TDD was all about. The concept was simple: Be the man woman want in the first place. On the contrast was the PUA style: Use these lines and peacocking tricks to cover up your inadequacies. Though believing in the TDD method, I still wasn't getting the results I wanted. In hindsight, I know why now. I was focusing my efforts on mastering the micros of interactions but my macros was wack. My core values, my identity, my lifestyle were not suited to getting the results I wanted. I needed more direction.
I signed up for the mentorship program one day. I was only able to take two calls with Troy but it changed my life. I realized how needy I was. I realized I did things not for me, but to please others. I did not own who I was and my identity was at the constant mercy of those around me. I started to understand the value of owning my identity and began my road to becoming the man who I am today.
I eventually signed up for a PI. I wanted full emersion in the TDD way of life. I had a great instructor, Aaron Dan (currently in emeritus status) who was a living example of how one could truly be himself (in his case, a nice guy with game) and still get with amazing women. Aaron Dan assessed me, showed me how to improve and gave me direction with my life. I asked him questions. I wanted to know how he thought, how he made decisions, how he prepared himself for the night. I was eager to learn and wanted to be just like him and do what he could do. At the end of that weekend, Aaron Dan not only showed me the way, he gave me a map of how I could improve and continue the path for myself.
I returned back to my life armed with new knowledge. My aim was to become better at being me. I continued my journey for self -mastery and I began to see results. Sometimes I was successful, other times I was not. I remembered the words said during my PI: "Things won't happen overnight. Continue to try and get more experience and you will get better". Experience did make me better. I was constantly improving and continuously growing. The family at TDD was exactly that, a family. When I was successful, TDD celebrated my success with me. When I struggled, TDD was there to guide me and mentor me. I continued to feed my mind with knowledge and continue to grow. I listened to the COCs, read the articles, attended the dance seminar and practiced putting the theory into action. Everyday I got better. Every moment I became truer to myself.
I dropped her off the next morning. Shortly afterwards I got this text:
"I know your busy and you don't have to respond. I just want to thank you for a wonderful and intimate night. You're an amazing person and I didn't regret this experience at all. Now I agree with you, go with what feels right at the moment Take care of yourself and this is more like a see you later because I would hate too say goodbye!"
This text says it all. While with this beautiful and amazing women I was truly myself. Having my core beliefs, my lifestyle and my swagger all in order I wasn't afraid to be who I am. She absolutely loved me for it.
Life is short and I intend to live it up as much as I possibly can. Everyday I want more. I want more adventure, I want more fun, I want more ways to improve the lives of others. Everyday I strive to become a man of quality. This is the TDD way of life. Follow its path and women will love you for it.