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Post-Private Instruction Weekend Tales and Lessons Part 1: Reality Breaker Friday

THIS IS HOW WE DO IT, IT'S FRIDAY NIGHT, AND I FEEL ALRIGHT, 
THE PARTY'S HERE ON THE SOUTH SIDE..

YO! I'm back with more tales of crazy times and boot camp moments...

Today I'm going to tell a tale of a client of mine this past weekend who I consider one of the best students I've ever had. Maybe you guys can resonate with his background or story, and you can see the principles and weekend experiences that guided him to success.

BTW If you emailed me and your success story hasn't been posted, don't worry. All of it is on cue. Sometimes you just have to pace things because we still do operate in a very blog-ish website.  I still choose to keep it this way. Not fancy, not overbearing, and has enough crown jewels, but YOU the reader must dig within to find them (we have articles spanning from 2007, a fully functional forum , and around 39 free podcasts, plus TDDTV).

Talk about conditioning your people to use some effort to get results. =)

If you LOVED COC 15: The TDD Time Management System, which I still think should have been entitled "Character Development" or "Retention Method II," then throw me some feedback via the comments section below the download page, or if you want something more personal, email me. Most of you who took the initiative to reach out to me in the past know that I respond pretty fast with much appreciation.

Here's the reality about TDD Private Instruction Camps:

They DEFINITELY don't come cheap.

People pay us quite a big chunk of their HARD EARNED MONEY and we honor that by providing high quality camps and personalized coaching services that yield results.

The fee doesn't just stop when you sign up: Instead of us paying for the trip, we have our clients pay for their OWN trip AND lodging to add to the Private Instruction costs.

What most of you don't know is that subconsciously we're training your mind to succeed while you go through that process.

We want you to be motivated and take your programs with us seriously.

See, in the mind of Troy Dizon, there are about a handful of "student archetypes" that dare to sign up on a TDD Private Instruction (or Master class) camp:

First is a client who has been following me since the GLORY DAYS of 2006-2008 when I worked for a certain "pick up school" that helped gain leverage to where I'm at right now. If you're one of them, I applaud you for having the common sense to follow the school of thought that MAKES SENSE.

Here are some details of what that client might be:

Asian or Caucasian male from 21-26...

Usually has a great job that pays around 45-100K a year...

Despite that job, by the way he dresses he looks like a 14 year old making 10K a year...

Calls himself a good listener just because he can't say a damn thing about himself...

Laughs nervously when interacting...

Completely agreeable and avoids conflict...

Group of friends generally aren't congruent with where he wants to be...

First six profile photos on his face book brands him as a muffin (the "friends' zone guy")...

Is actually 5'9" but because of poor body language he looks shorter than me...

The idea of loosening up at a party is by drinking alcohol...

When asked where the best places to meet women are, his answer is "the street" or "the bus stop."

When asked about what he loves to do, the answer is almost always "helping people."

Has been doing the "charismatic-yet-utterly-platonic-conversations-stuff" for about 1-2 years with hardly any sexual results...

My client was almost all of the above.

Now you might think that this is a lost case, however this is a trend of certain men that come to TDD.

Here's the X Factor to why THIS GUY will succeed:

Sometimes having an experience pool like this can get a man SERIOUSLY PISSED.

Pissed at that helpless feeling of forcing your way through interactions that don't seem to go anywhere...

Pissed at countless times of rejection despite having the best of intentions in meeting people...

Pissed at the fact that no matter what you might say sexually women will always brand you as a friend's zone type of guy...

Pissed to the point of ABSOLUTE DESPERATION...

DESPERATE to the point where he'll  take a good chunk of his hard earned money, sign up for a $1650.00 Private Instruction Camp, buy a plane ticket to San Antonio, get a hotel for 3 days, and become UTTERLY SCARED and NERVOUS because he's going to be trained by TROY D HIMSELF.

If you've spent the last 6-8 months reading previous event reviews, articles, and happenings in TDD, that shit can make you anxious as hell when you sign up.

But desperate people, they SUCK IT UP.

Do whatever it takes is the fucking motto...

Here's a quick background on our guy:

My client had sex once with a very drunk woman in an experience he dares to not recall or remember.

Yes he had sex, but he never had the feeling of satisfaction after. He still wondered if it was truly him that she found attractive or was it just a lucky spurt of the moment shit.

He wanted a genuine sense of closeness with women he was going to meet, especially if he was going to sleep with them. Learning outward style hollow game for a couple of years didn't confirm that. There were no further results from that experience with the drunk girl.

He's a downtown boy, living near the financial district of this largely metropolitan city FILLED with diverse, quality women (I should know, I met a Russian and Iranian chick there during a PI). Not knowing "Niche Theory," during his initial interview with me he had stated that he met girls primarily in the street or bus stops. NOW I'm sure his mind's going nutso trying to figure out which Niche he wants to go and dominate.

Either way, it must have been very disappointing living downtown and being around such women and still not yield results.

After graduating from school this year, he saved some money to fly out to Spain, party like a world-class playboy while watching the UEFA Champions League matches live. That was the plan. The TDD PI was en-route to that plan.

Here's a lesson guys:

You can't escape who you are. Even the guys who have gone to our yearly Lifestyle Retreat know that.

A vacation or retreat or adventure in some other country won't change the way you handle women until you fix the core itself, well unless your resort to an endless amount of escort and prostitution services which I'm sure none of you will do.

An old saying I told my clients back in '04 was "Women are women, people are people" which means no matter where you are in the world, women will still have the same gut-based reactions to your vibe. If you don't fix or improve on it, you'll get the same outcome.

Either way, the trip to Spain was a door of opportunity, a chance to reset things and start over, but he needed the PI to get his mind and skills right to make sure success was imminent, as he had imagined in his dreams.

And the fact that he was an ex-student of "barisma carts" who followed me years later made me ultra excited. (Talk about retention!)

ON TO REALITY BREAKER FRIDAY...

It's called that way simply because it's the day we take the blinders off our clients. This is the first day where most of them lose a TON of sleep after (racing thoughts and memories), and it's also the make or break day for the rest of the PI.

This was the test of discipline if my client was really done with the old system. If he was willing to defy all that he had known in the past by testing out the brand spanking new TDD Strategies.

I always say: "If you think you're here on PI to reaffirm what you knew from "barisma arts" then you're in the wrong headspace." There's absolutely no time to be a hard headed fool in this camp. The moment you signed the dotted line you're already saying "NO" to that bull shit. Let that be a warning to all you guys who are planning to do this.

Two things: LEADING and HIGH POINTS.

As you know, I am the Anti-Linear guy. I don't believe in it simply because it produces very random and lack luster results. I have written countless articles on WHY that strategy is a failed one.

Anyhow, on the first day it was important for me to teach that to my client using the principles of the LAW OF DIMINISHING RETURNS and the specifics of managing high points (leading and leaving).

I told him that people who PLOW are seriously violating this law of life simply because the law states "if you go beyond the high point with the SAME thing you used to get there, the effect diminishes."

What that means is:

If you keep talking past the point of interest until your "material runs out", the interaction dies down.

If you stay around past the point of welcome, you become a liability and not an asset to the group you approached.

If you spin her 3 more times than the first one that made her feel like a princess on the dance floor, you've overdone it.

This is how important it is to work from high points. It makes an approach or interactions sniper-efficient and successful because you've trained your gut to know EXACTLY when to quit or proceed further.

Of course if you're a needy, reaction seeking, value taking, plowing PUA you wouldn't know that. Another reason to learn TDD.

On his FIRST APPROACH, all while me and Capo were planting seeds in the room, he nailed it down. He was leading 2 chicks all around the venue while running on absolute fun. At first I thought he would milk the interaction, but NO. This guy was disciplined enough to put the skill sets into use. They were eating off the palm of his hand.

Heck it was so good, me and Capo didn't even wing him no more. He was a one man show and the flow was getting pretty damn good. We sensed (and I tweeted later) a pull was about to happen.

I pulled my guy aside and told him to foreshadow an after party at the TDD Party House.  I'm sure he somehow said that in a garbled manner that botched the pull BECAUSE...

The use of alcohol I would say was the MAIN impediment to the supposed bed-banging that could have happened. When I momentarily winged my Korean client, it so happened that the Latin girl's ex-boyfriend used to be Korean! And the other chick wanted some Korean too!

Sadly, my Korean student couldn't remember these golden opportunity moments. The punch had gotten to him by around 1 am.

I always say, ONLY drink when they're back at your place or vice versa. If you're attempting to pull then you have to be SHARP. Alcohol severely impairs your radar for opportunities like that.

It's sad to know that you're Korean and NOT KNOW that the two Latin Girls with you wanted Korean dick that night.

Now, if you guys remember my TWO GIRL RULE, then you know one (or two) of those women came to get laid. Because my student failed to throw out his sexual interest to the girl he wanted (who had her arms wrapped around him the whole time), the other one in red took over and wanted him instead.

Again he could have pulled them out of the club, but the alcohol really killed it. He was spraying all over the place and the women hardly understood him. They eventually left.  I took him to the side for a quick mid-program adjustment.

After realizing what could have happened, he was a bit hard on himself.

I said NO MAN you were FUCKING AMAZING!

I asked him if he's EVER gone that far with his interactions with women in his life. I see his eyes think for a second, and he's back to reality. Truth is, he's never done an "almost pull" in his entire life. On his ONE APPROACH.

Yes, I STILL MAINTAIN he's one of my best students. Read on:

After a couple trips to the bathroom, he decides to go boldly to the dance floor and hits up an ACE (super hot, quality chick), who I can assure you had scores of men scared as fuck to approach her all night.

I remember Capo saying "oh shit he walked up to HER!?!?!"

If you remember the ACES RULE, then you know that with Aces, its either you a) blitz them in the beginning, before every other guy so they KNOW you convey pure confidence, or b) do a lot of line of sight and credibility if you happen to meet her during the middle of end of the night to deal with her "filters."

Remember the hot threesome I had with those two models in Austin? It was because there were two pick up boot camps going on and I guess they didn't train for hot women lol. I was first to approach them and so I took them home.

Back to my client... he put the rule into motion and they start getting into a hot dance. 10 minutes later I am getting jealous.

2 minutes more and he did something that REAFFIRMED what I taught the motherfucker...

He notices the high point in his gut, then BAM. LEAD THE CHICK.

Friends didn't say no or cock blocked him, he had the balls to do it and they respected that.

It was SICK. I was cheering in the background.

Now if you know lounges, then the bar is absolutely NOT the best place to pull a girl to. It's packed, has tons of guys and girls trying to get a drink, and it's a situation that forces you into doing "small talk" with her. I'd rather do the patio or some couch.

While stuck in a stale mate, the thought of having a macro plan evaded him, and he lacked the foreshadowing skills to deal with the situation at the bar while waiting for some wine.

Soooo he ended up going back into the usual "get to know you" convo that IMMEDIATELY KILLED the vibe of the interaction. The high point soon became the low point.

After he was smacking himself at the end of the night for that, I told him that it's the control of having a chick you like in front of you that will make you think a bit more critical next time. It's hard to focus when you've got such a good thing in your hands but you have to.

I was a proud trainer that night still.

TWO... TWO FUCKING APPROACHES and this guy had the leading and high point mechanics down. Wonderful!

His Major realization that night was that the MACRO PLAN comes first before anything. If he had a Macro plan both interactions would have been smooth as silk. He could have foreshadowed the "after party" to the first 2 girls and a possible date to the girl who was stuck with her friends that night.

He also got the physical leading mechanics down. A basic yet critical concept that ALL TDD Experts had repeatedly practiced on in their boot camps with me in the past.

Little did he know that this stuff would solidify his skills on Night #2 and his eventual Hotel Pull from a Day Time Approach on Day #3...

If you have any questions regarding Private Instruction, again don't hesitate to email me at troy@troydizondating.com and I will email you back or call you. You can take advantage of our various payment plans as well.

I cannot reiterate how our live programs are our bread and butter, and how having a prepared approach to these camps can yield you long lasting results from all the experiences during those 2 and a half days with us.

Stay tuned for Day 2, the "Rebirth of the Obsolete TDD Day Time Strategy" and the Power of Archetypes!

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