May
2010
TDD Success With Women Guide Part 2: What Makes a Man Sexy and Irresistible to Women?
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First off I want to thank the guys that posted here (and on facebook) on their reactions to the first installment of our Success Guide to Women.
Here's what people have been saying about Part 1:
"Damn that's the Holy Grail right there!"
"By far the best thing you've written. Most (if not everything) you've taught were in one article!"
"My Goodness... that article... was laser-accurate. You could have warned me son, can't wait for part 2!"
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If you've already read that, then gear up for Part 2.
Showing "legitimate" romantic or sexual interest to a woman is probably one of those fine lines that men either carefully tread on or completely step over.
Do I become the friend? Do I just suggest a date? Do I ask her out? are some questions that just grind men's brains into thinking and analyzing.
Ultimately, most problems men have on showing interest borders on two things:
- FEAR of losing her, and/or
- Prolonging being on her "good side" as long as the guy can last.
Today we'll give you a powerful, consistently successful solution on how to make sure this stuff never happens again, and guess what, it's not a MOVE!
First off, remember that highly-rated Sexual Escalation Article I wrote not too long ago?
(READ HERE if you missed it)
I presented the theory that sexual results 110% comes from the Character versus the actual moves. Guys, this is the easiest, most consistent route for simple escalation to happen and if you commit your time to this trust me, you'll never go back to learning techniques ever again (unless it's TDD micro techniques if you wanna move up in rankings).
Here's a review if you've downloaded Champions of Choice 15 - The TDD Time Management System then you know the sequence of personal improvement from our point of view is always going to be:
#1 CHARACTER, #2 CREDS, #3 OUTLETS, AND #4 INTERACTION-LEVEL SKILLS.
I go through a WHOLE HOUR on the actual process of managing your time to develop the sequence on the COC, so if you haven't purchased it, get it at $30 before it's gone in like, 12-14 days from now. You'll regret not grabbing it if you miss the deadline because it's a very, very good "Funamentals" program.
(CLICK HERE TO GET THE TIME MANAGEMENT SYSTEM BEFORE IT'S RETIRED FOR GOOD.)
Anyhow, I've used almost every piece of every sexual character I'm going to discuss here over the past decade, and eventually quit some attributes or picked up new ones. It really depends where you're at. Sometimes the "Wild Risky Man" works better in College and the "Man of Taste" works better for older men and the jack-ass works if you're a testosterone work out freak. If I were you, I'd take what works for you. All roads lead to success because I've seen and done it year after year.
Look, at the end of the day, would you want a woman you "somehow got lucky on" wake up beside you and never call you up again?
Men want one thing whether they admit it or not - validation of their manliness.
It sucks to NOT KNOW or wonder if you're actually man enough to handle a woman. It's why the dating business thrives and will thrive over the next few years. Difference is, we at TDD will provide real-world solutions that have worked and will work for you, versus fly by night companies out there consolidating general dating advice that doesn't make a dent.
Well, this process will do the job. By focusing on the character more YOU can be totally happy when YOU get laid or get a girlfriend - because she's calling YOU, she fucked YOU, she dated YOU, not a stupid ass technique.
Why do you think TDD guys are more self-assured than pick up artists who are never assured and have to keep "doing things" to prove themselves?
Anyways...
Here's a quick Decoded breakdown on the different "Sexual Characters" that get laid nowadays
(With accompanying You tube videos).
Sexual Character #1:
Jack-asses AKA Douschebags
Make no mistake, chauvinist douschebags DO get laid, probably more than you or your room mate who's reading this right now. They may not be as pin point accurate in most cases, but they actually are doing a few things right that makes the process sexual easy for them.
First is that their sexual intentions are upfront, and are magnified by their character that pursues endless amounts of partying, drinking, and doing risky stuff (don't ask).
A lot of women frown at this image and outright reject them for it, however there's something they have to back that up, and that's consistency of character.
They really don't give a flying f***k. Most of these guys don't really change and are jerks whether they're at line of sight of women or not. If you're not nitpicky on what happens in every interaction you're in then congrats, you can develop this habit.
From there it's only a matter of time when the girl realizes she's horny and since he's the most available guy loudly advertising sex (no, she won't fuck a muffin), they fuck anyways.
My advice:
Don't try to be a jerk if you're not. If you're a well-bred, mild mannered guy with genuine values, keep reading on because there's a solution for you, just don't try to be an ass. It will backfire on you, I promise.
However the principle remains: what you can learn from this is that this projection of a "sexually upfront character" CAN get you laid if you project it LOUDLY to enough women and can be consistent with it.
Ask TDD Asia Instructor Nash Casten. That guy gets laid consistently because he's done this for awhile now. The guy always has overbearing, sex-laden status messages on Facebook. So, his common stereotype is... the guy women fuck.
The Mentality of this guy is that Women are bored and want sex. It's a great mentality if you ask me. It's also true in most cases.
The "move" this character makes is that he keeps suggesting sex. If you're afraid to suggest that the two of you should have sex to ease her final exams anxiety then you probably won't be able to pull this off. But heck, try it anyways.
Onto sexual character number two...
Sexual Character #2:
The Man of Taste
I just finished a Mentorship call with a client from Singapore this morning and I suggested this to him.
Sometimes the sexual character becomes sexy because he draws from sexy "stuff" and makes that part of his dimensions (identity).
Women have this insatiable desire for exotic, finer things in life. We can't deny that. Whether it's Champagne, Chanel purses, trips to the Caribbean, or that fine-ass Black Porsche that pulled up the driveway, it all counts as sexy.
Now you may or may not have any of these, but you CAN incorporate that into your conveyance game - image, hobbies, lifestyle, and personal social circle.
This type of guy gets laid because women "imagine" some sexual scenario with this guy that involves not shacking up in a messy, smelly College dorm but in a dim lit, clean, Olive and red painted room with a bowl of strawberries, wine, and some Bossa Nova music.
(I know, fucking sexy when you think about it)
I know of more than a handful of TDD graduates and natural friends of mine who do this. It's not going to boil down to your budget or income, but your creativity.
Here's my advice:
Make your room into the sexiest, most fuckable place she would ever want to be in. Go to the local IKEA, get some good "hotel style" lighting, put some vanilla scents on, buy a $10 mini-fountain to put on your bedside lamp table, and put some of your "conveyance items" - books you read, cd's or movies you own, photo albums, etc. that convey the character all over the room. Oh, and buy a bottle of bubbly and a champagne holder with ice.
Image wise, get some Zara clothes or get into some look books in GQ to give you that sharp look. Nuff said.
Finally, "spin off" anything you do as SEXY - your room is sexy, your clothes are sexy, your interests are sexy. Keep researching on what most people find are sexy stuff and explore.
Invite her to some posh gathering where you both have to dress up - like a black tie event. Women fantasize stuff where they have to dress in glamorous clothes for one night. She also dreams of taking off those glamorous clothes to fuck the living daylights out of her sharp suited date.
Sexual Character #3:
The Wild Risky Man
Women are taken by men who take risks, period. That's why there are lots of marriages that occur in the US Military a week or mere days before boot camp or war time deployment starts. I mean, who would get married before the guy sets off to war? Well, a lot of women think it's hot.
The guy usually has almost nothing in his bank account, usually the underdog, and greatly misunderstood. But it's his adventurous spirit that makes women comply with his bidding; his overbearing enthusiasm that just reels them into his world, his viewpoints, and well, his bed.
I've known and dated a lot of women who did some wild, crazy stuff with me, like fuck in a public bus, library, or an elevator, all because I've conveyed parts of this character.
Here's my 2 cents:
When suggesting doing something, inject high enthusiasm and exaggerate it. Oversell the damn thing.
"F***K IT, LET'S GO!" is the key phrase he tells women. This type of character will help you become a better leader (and a better sales man of yourself lol) and will help your Force of Nature development as a TDDer.
The more ridiculous and spontaneous, the better - If you couple this advice with the mentality of women are bored, then you've got a good weapon of choice. If you already assume women are bored then you also know that if you suggest ridiculous stuff that I'm sure they haven't done for years, then they will bite... matter of fact they'll bite hard.
Do some activities that stimulate emotional wavelengths like riding roller coasters, doing random, spontaneous commitments (like packing up and doing a road trip), or well, making out in an elevator.
Avoid doing things that will NOT stimulate emotions or are play safe stuff, such as hanging out silently at a library, doing a picnic, chatting over dinner, or hanging out with friends comfortably.
Sexual Character #4:
The Man of Status and Credibility
I posted this on the Graduate Forum, and I still stand behind it because I and a LOT of my fellow TDDers have gotten laid because of status and credibility. Just scroll down later on Spartan's lay report or various lay reports on the forum. You'll see two words... "Credibility Date."
At the end of the day, your status in the pecking order of things says a lot about her sexual feelings for you.
You don't have to be the owner of a Hacienda (Spanish term for an estate), or be a Congressman like Manny Pacquiao. However, you'll need creds.
Women have filters in how they see their potential mate. Some of them look outward and try to analyze and nitpick almost everything about the guy, mostly his circle.
I mentioned this on Champions of Choice #2: How to Get a Girlfriend that a woman always sees your circle and her circle eventually "marrying into each other."
Now, either you both have awesome circles, or YOU have the cooler circle or she does. Either way, she needs to see that world.
Like a toy (well, you're the boy toy), she has to see if OTHER KIDS are playing with it too or want to play it.
My advice:
Position yourself as the leader in your social circle.
Hang around people that will make you look good, not who will undermine you publicly and make you look bad.
Find interest groups that are into what you're into. Whether it's dancing, physical fitness, culinary arts, etc. and become a bad-ass in that group.
Manage your time and add some days or nights of networking to increase your circle. (I told you guys, it's not pick up).
Again, let me say this. You don't have to be one character or the other, but I'm writing this so that you can take the pieces of the puzzle together and build the character that's right for you.
Any feedback, opinions, or questions? You can directly post below on the comments section and let me know what you think. Have some of these "characters" worked out for you or not? Discuss on the comments section.
That's all for now. I'm stoked to see your progress from here!
Troy Dizon
Founder, Program Director and Master Instructor of Troy Dizon Dating
Email me: troy@troydizondating
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