Hey Guys, It's Mailbag Time!
If you don't know the back story of how I met Tuan and how this one hell of a guy turned great from when I met him when he was SEVENTEEN YEARS OLD, this post should tell you how he developed.
God, Tuan was this YOU!?? (Far left, from the Singapore Masterclass 2009)
This guy lost his v-card through TDD (by being the second person who signed up for the Mentorship Program), tore through Asia after the Singapore Masterclass (remember the threesome date video?), took the skills back to the US, and has been a Force of f****ing Nature ever since.
I tell you, this guy is one of the best mentees I've ever had and is definitely en route to teaching. He follows directions, whether its Macro or Micro to the tee. Who can forget his 21st birthday party that landed him a naked chick in his room?
Ah yes, the Macro Plan, using a few $15 light bulbs from the store.
The Motto: "Build it and they will CUM... I mean COME"
You'll see more of him on the US Masterclass in July because he'll be apprenticing on that.
Anyways, here's a question from a current Mentorship client who has hopes of moving up the TDD Ranks. Tuan doesn't post so much but seeing as its a mailbag question directly at him he gives a really good response that's front page worthy so check it out.
I'm currently on the road of developing myself so I can reach captain rank at TDD. And it's funny cause Troy keeps comparing me to you. First it was when I met him in Frankfurt: "You're like fucking Tuan, you smile too much!" ha ha ha. And now on the mentorship call 2 one of the things I gotta develop is my sexual character and again Troy gave your example since it seems you went through it as well.
So I was wondering if you have any advice you could give me on what helped you and specifics you did... For now I know working out and getting into shape is a given. Loosing weight and getting that testosterone going. That's my main objective right now.
Besides that I guess working on my dominance and vibe switching as well like Troy said...
If you have any input for me I'd deeply appreciate it.
Other than that congrats on what you have already and have been achieving! Looking at your before and after pics I'd say it was two different guys! Also Troy told me how now you almost get rapped by girls! Hilarious, ha ha ha!
Take care and keep rocking bro!
Che (from Portugal)
We come from the same "smiles too much" background! that's awesome! lol
Anyway, for getting sexual / developing a sexual character. What helped me a lot was CoC7 on Killer Instinct. If you listen to it, Troy says "I used to have a student who smiled a lot to the point of being goofy", that was me he was talking about!
I think the best way to give you an idea of how I did it, is to give you my story.
I definitely used to be a muffin (the likable but NOT FUCKABLE guy). I had a lot of friends that were girls, but that was just it, friend zone type of shit.
If you listen to Coc8 - Innovative Social Circle Seduction, Troy talks about "taglines for yourself"... an example is "Nash, the guy who fucks a lot of women"
My old tagline back in the day was "Tuan, the guy who smiles a lot" (seriously if you see my old facebook photos, holy crap it was bad). When Troy first told me that I smile too much, it really hurt me because seriously it was HARD TO NOT SMILE all the time! I mean that's who I was!! But the vital flaw was in that I couldn't control my vibe, it was ALWAYS LOCKED ON FUN (smiling), and could never be sexual. In other words, goofy.
This point was hit home to me when Xavier told me "Tuan, imagine your fucking a girl and smiling like that. Girls don't fantasize about the smiling guy fucking them, period.
It was a huge reality breaker in the beginning, I remember sitting in my hotel room (during the Singapore Masterclass), thinking "fucking shit, I HAVE TO CHANGE THIS". (and I did, I replaced the smile with a smirk...spent a lot of time working on that in front of the mirror lol)
For me at that time in the beginning, I literally changed my look. I bleached my hair, got some accessories like a big ass belt buckle, a ring, a watch, etc. I wanted a rockstar look to attach my new found sexy to that, so that when I look in the mirror I wouldn't see ‘smiling guy' but instead ‘Tuan with a wild edge'.
Tuan being a sexual juggernaut in Japan having three girls co-raping him on the SAME DATE.
And hey, that worked when I was in Japan, where literally ALL THE GUYS ARE MUFFINS with no testosterone, and I was just a little less muffin than them, so I got some girls.
When I came back to the United States, it was a whole different story...
If you see guys in America, there's a big demographic that are very masculine. Guys who are willing to call it out, have steady eye contact, stand for what they believe in, and suggest sexual things. Basically TDD-type guys.
Troy pointed this out to me during my PI in San Antonio. I literally had no testosterone or killer instinct in me, pretty much to the point that women gave me a glance and quickly brushed me aside.
Not only that, but Troy told me I literally have a big head, and I should have big muscles to complement that. That's exactly when I started working out seriously / going to the gym (after my PI in October 2009). I bought supplements, did the benchpress / dumbbells / rock climbed, etc. Two months later I had improvements, and that's when I came down again to San Antonio for the Dance Game Seminar (December 2009).
And Even then, I still had the muffin problem. Partly due to a girl I was seeing (which took away my killer instinct to get new girls), and that deep inside I was afraid.... I let my past success haunt me. I thought, shit I've been A to Z before, this should be exactly the same. Well the reality is fuck that, I wasn't an empty cup and it showed.
I left the Dance Game Seminar with my reality broken once again, the smiling was fixed but the muffin was still there.
During Christmas time 2009, I decided to take another approach to things, and I honestly believe this is what made it happen for me. I decided to start building on my own skyscraper (work on myself) instead of putting my time in small sandcastles (women). If you heard CoC10 on Dimensions, this is huge. I wanted to be known as "The guy who works out and seriously puts an effort in to his own fitness"
TUAN on the website of his town's boxing gym. Un-Muffin that!
That's when I decided to do the full 90 days of P90X. From start to finish (finishing the sandwich! - COC 7). It was a major goal for me. I put everything else in my life on hold and made sure to get it done. I wrote all about it on my facebook, documented what I ate, took pictures, made videos, etc. I wanted everybody to know that I was doing P90X and was completing it. It wasn't easy, but the investment paid off big time. My bad posture was fixed, it gave me a huge boost in self confidence, a sense of accomplishment, and kept me grounded to reality. After working out that hard nobody can shit on me. And that's the same feeling I get when I do boxing training these days.
With that, I made a conscious decision to LEAD (take an interaction where it needs to go), each and every time. And so far it's been great.
Bro, your objective of getting in to shape is the right way to do it. One thing to be aware of is that you're doing this for YOU. Not for anybody else. If you're looking for a complete program that will get you in shape, I recommend P90X or Insanity. It's not easy but like I said, your investment will pay you back 10x.
Tuan's testimonial video (snapshot) after the Synergy Coversion Camp. Okay maybe he's 1/10th Muffin but he's 90% MAN.
Why don't we care? Because HE GETS LAID thats WHY!
With that, if you follow what's already been written on the TDD site / forums about sexualizing it (the Sexual Eye Contact Video, the TDD success with Women guides, etc), you should be good.
You can email and ask questions directed to Tuan by emailing us at firstname.lastname@example.org and discuss on the comments section below.