This video ALONE will save your entire dating life and how you deal with women.
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I was a graduate of Nash Casten's Masterclass back in January, participated in the TDD 2010 Lifestyle Retreat, and your resident future Captain Candidate in the Force of Nature Team that is TDD Singapore. I'm also going to help out on the 23rd July Masterclass alongside with Nash and Xavier.
I just want to share how extremely happy I am that just less than 6 months in, I've gotten myself a helluva girlfriend. I love her a lot, and I'm really glad I met her.
As Troy said on the past emails, success guides, and Champions of Choice 16, it takes more than just one interaction to get into a relationship, so let me give you the low down so you can delineate the way you think about getting women.
You'll also learn the A-Z of how I made it happen through the Lessons Learned at the end of the story. I know you'll love it.
May 18th was the day Pitbull, one of my favorite hip hop and reggaeton artists hit my town and did a concert. As always, I was in good company going there with my crew mates, like Victor ‘'Spunk'' and Masterclass Alumni James.
I wasn't thinking about pick up, or approaching women at all when i got there and quite frankly wasn't in the mood other than listening to Pitbull. This is because I was in formal wear after attending my school's graduation ceremony early on in the afternoon. It was getting hot and humid so that didn't make me move an inch.
At the venue, I looked around the place for hot girls (hahahahah... might as well!) and planted myself strategically behind hot girls. This place was PACKED and I knew that with the heat and the humidity and the tons of people, VIBE WOULD BE KING and overrule any micro strategy. So, I just focused on the music (which was super bad-ass btw) and gradually my vibe started going up.
So once my vibe became good, naturally I wanted to start going for every beautiful girl in sight hahahaha. I created Line of Sight... ok rather, Line of Sound, by singing to the music that was played, really loudly, I believe I'm a great singer, but that night I was just shouting like crazy and doing stupid actions like I'm a rapper and having tons of fun. People started noticing and looking, including that hot girl in front.
She laughed at my actions. That was my cue to go! So of course I went in! I told her to stop laughing and taunted her into a dance. She committed (X = X), I had a good vibe, she had fun too.. so it's only natural it worked. I danced off a little with her, just having fun. Gave her a high five (men and women teammates) or something like that, can't really recall.
But what I remember was this; I want to thank my crew mate Spunk for being there. Because after the approach, I didn't want to dance. AT ALL (because of the heat and sweat haha). It ended up with him dancing with her most of the time, with me just chilling at another side, enjoying the concert. Thank God for that she had a great time with the team and it showed her my non-neediness. Had i plowed and gone linear I would have left with nothing other than three gallons of sweat beads and a "good time." Good time, no girlfriend. LOL.
End of the night, exchanged numbers and we parted our ways. Went to met Xavier after that but it's just going to drag the whole story haha. Added her up on Facebook. Now Facebook to me is a massive tool of conveyance. It will really show what kind of a person you are, and after that, using a credibility date would just destroy every doubt a person has in you.
Forward a few days to the Singapore City Tour day (Free TDD Seminar)
Before the seminar, I had a Flashmob event to attend at 7am in the morning. I couldn't sleep the night before, and I'm using my laptop, surfing the net for a bit.
Changed my status on Facebook, people commented, she was one of them.
So I started a chat with her on the comments section, then it moved on onto Facebook chat, to IM.
I just maintained the conversation to being fun and friendly, was pretty laid back in the sense that I didn't have the intent to escalate or take things further. I didn't because Spunk said he wanted to go for her, and I agreed to back out at that point of time, though I wanted to go as well.
Got to know a little bit more about her and realized she loves all the things I love, she cooks, works out, watches How I met your mother, huge plus points for me. She's hella witty too.
Soon the time came for me to leave, it was 6am, I told her I had to go, she asked me where the hell I'm going at such a time.
I told her about the flashmob, she wanted to go too. High point, lead or leave. I chose to lead, I told her to join me, she wasn't sure because she didn't know what to do after. I told her about the seminar and about TDD, she's in for it. Game plans DO MATTER, to allow you to lead with confidence. Again, high point, ask for logistics. I asked her where she lived and all (for obvious reasons, like if it was convenient to get there together....and, ya'know) Found out she lived pretty close to me, it's settled then.
Met her at the train station near my place, and we took a train together to the flashmob. Again I didn't take things further during the trip, I just chilled and be laid back a little. She met me when I was reading my book (Art of Seduction, fuckin hell the book's so thick), and listening to music. Had a bit of fun here and there when I'm with her, still didn't do much to escalate, just a little non-verbal escalation here and there.
Reached the flashmob venue, she had to wait 3 hours for me, alone, while I'm with ma homies enjoying ourselves with free food. Felt sorry for making her do that, because I myself wasn't sure of the logistics. She waited, both of us hadn't slept. I saw her commitment, and I felt like I had to reciprocate.
After the flashmob, we went to the seminar, Spunk was with us this time. Again I didn't escalate and just played it cool. At the seminar itself, I didn't get a chance to really interact with her as I was filming and had to speak, it was okay since the other alumni were there. Now that I realize it this is what Troy means when he says Natural Barriers cause Tension and I don't always have to keep attending to women like a needy person.
Had a great time at the seminar, after that I took the train home with her because I was fuckin concussed from everything (no sleep, flashmob and the seminar). She, too was motherfuckin exhausted.
My bed was a fuckin tractor beam to me that day, I just went to bed straight. She called me at around 11pm to ask me for dinner, I was too tired so I rejected and told her I'd call her when I wake up. I sent her a text at around 2am saying I'm up, then I fell back to bed again, she then replied at like 3am. I replied at 4, when I'm up again, then I went back to sleep again (HAHAHAHA, I know wtf right). This repeated texts of the same content ‘'hey I'm up'' happened till I think 11am hahahaha.
3pm the next day, she called me to ask if I want to have lunch with Apprentice Instructor Dan Milton, Spunk, and Her. Of course I agreed since I'm fuckin starving.
Went to eat with them, then she had to leave to meet her friend, so we 3 boys went to watch a movie. After the movie, when we had dinner, Spunk said he'd back out since he senses that she's more into me.
She called me asking what plans I had after dinner, I was going to Xavier's place for Poker. I got her to join me, this time when we took the train. I did a bit more of non-verbal escalation. Giving her THAT look (oh yeah, you know it hahaha), while maintaining an easy going, platonic conversation. Was lazy to talk anymore so I got out my Ipod, and told her to watch an episode of How I met your mother with her.
Fuckin hell I think god is with me, I chose ‘'The Pineapple Incident''. When that episode came, I agreed to the values Barney stated, and stated them as my own as well. ‘'Ted, you always think think think, and never DO DO DO.... Its time to not think, and DO!'' I just rephrased it into the Carpe-diem kind of Value like on Champions of Choice 13 (and the Keys 2 Victory Seiminar)
She agreed, so ya'know, cool.
Reached Xavier's place, had a fun night playing poker. Won 30 dollars with her, everyone at his place that night thought we we're a couple. Went to Macdonalds and had a 100 Macnuggets night. Pretty awesome.
When she was away, Xavier told me he could see that she's into me. I also sensed it, so I decided I'm going for this, since I kind of like her, and she does all the things I do. After eating, took a train back home with her, things escalated a little faster here. Foreshadowed things like a relationship and she said ‘'hahaha stop thinking too much, you're too young, boy''. Fuckin hell I'm 19, and she's 22. I know it's a done deal then, since she was already CONSIDERING that fact. I stated another core value as to why I felt that Age is just a number. She had no reaction to that at that point of time, but I bet that's running around in her head.
Things physically escalated a little too, but only a little. Head on shoulder kind of little, her stop came, she got off.
I got home, got some rest.
She texted me the next day asking when are we going to hang out again. I just KNOW it's a done deal then.
Forgot wtf I did since everything's in a blur lol, but I remember asking her out to have a snack with me, since she wants to hang out, and we both love food. (If you hadn't tried it, you're living under a rock hahahahaha)
I had to leave her, since I'm heading to work out. But I took the time to walk her to her train station and showed that I cared. You don't have to be an asshole with women guys. It's a balance and there are times where you actually have to show her you care.
After training, I bought her to a sheesha place I always go to, and relaxed there with her. Things really escalated a lot here, both physically and emotionally. We ended up getting more intimate at the sheesha joint.
At this point of time, I know that I really like her, and it's not going to be a one-time thing. But my mind was thinking a hell lot about the TDD ranks, which I got confused. She knows and sensed that my vibe was a little off, but she understood when I told her, and waited for me to give her an answer. She wanted a committed relationship, and I didn't really know what I wanted then (A part of me wanted to continue everything with TDD to get the ranks, but another part of me told me she's growing on me so much I want to be with her) This dragged on for a few days, but I believe I've already made my mind up then. She's so understanding, I'm still able to go and hit on girls at a club, outside a club. ‘'Just don't do the things you don't want me to do'' That's what she said. I still get to brush up on my skill sets in this sense. Just that I don't get to ‘'follow up'', or bring the things I do to another venue. Still, I'm happy to hear that.
That's why Troy always says "God bless our girlfriends for understanding that we're the modern man movement" LOL
A few days later, we got together, on 28th of May. Pitbull was 18th May. 10 fuckin days. Fuckin unbelievable. Though I still need to learn how to become a less of a jerk that I am now, I'm very happy and I love her a lot.
Key Lessons Learned:
-My mindset was there. I believed that it was a DONE DEAL, 100%, after Vic backed out. All I had to do was not screw up. I didn't Pre-judge her and how she'd react. That made my cup empty, and X = X. Really. She had no choice but to ride on the vibe hahaha. Guys, stop self-sabotaging and believe that women want you as well!
-Leading or leaving at the high point. I took the chances to lead when I see the opportunity, and when logistical matters were in the way, I made sure I left at a high point, leaving her wanting for more.
-I believe I played it up quite well being chill and not too pushy/linear/plowy at the start. When I stated my Carpe-diem value, it was at the RIGHT time, because I felt that I had conveyed enough that the value fits me. I brought her to a Fuckin FLASHMOB and a seminar! Meeting the coolest people I've met on earth.
-I really think it's not what you say that matters; it's what you DON'T say. I believe I conveyed the message that I was this kind of guy before I actually stated the value, which made stating the value even more.......impactful (for the lack of a better word). Remember that we always say in TDD - "Don't say it, Convey it!" I also remember during my Masterclass i learned that we do the conveyance stuff because "explaining yourself is for suckers."
-I also conveyed a lot of things that I liked to her. ‘'Eating, Reading, Improving myself, spending time with friends chilling, doing radical things like eating 100nuggets, heading to clubs, etc etc...'' I didn't have to say much, it was a lot more of showing.
-Another thing, when I'm with her, I wasn't afraid to talk about anything, about sex/relationships/age/WHATEVER. X = X, the rule of cool. I think it's alright, she's going to think it's alright. I wasn't concerned about saying the "right stuff" just to get on her good side, a MAJOR mistake most guys do.
-Also, bringing her to MY ELEMENT was a good thing, because you just won't run out of stuff to say. I brought her to the sheesha joint because I really felt like smoking it that night hahah. Told her how much I love that place and the music they play.
-Talking with passion, I believe that's also one of the factors. Talking with passion would mean you use a totally different tone to talk about the things you like. It's like taking pride in the things you love to do, that you have no choice, but to talk about them that way.
I used to be the kind of guy who didn't DARE to talk about the things I love to do, for fear of judgement, now I'm different, and people appreciate me for having passions and a life.
-Of course, having her meeting the crew was a good move on my part; it's all about being congruent. We have so many different characters in this entourage, and all of them are awesome in their own way. Because them being awesome would lead her to assume I'm an awesome guy too.
-Intent and escalation is important, to me. At the start, I didn't have the intent, therefore I didn't escalate. Once I had the intent, sparked flew, and the story changes. Champions of Choice 7: Killer Instinct and Closing Strategies had been a great help. Please listen to it if you haven't. Finish off what you start, don't let anything you do end with a comma. Let it end with a full stop.
-Having a Gameplan. The VERY few days I'm with her, I always had a ‘'what to do next''. That allowed me to lead her VERY confidently. I brought her into my life, my very awesome life she's happy to be a part of.
-Including her in the picture of my life, talking in a 2niverse manner. Me and you, we. That kind of thing ala Champions of Choice 16: Foreshadowing the Relationship.
-Helping her, HELP ME. Not only did I show her my awesome life, I let her know my flaws too, so that she could help me (Motherly instinct of a woman! Hahaha). If you don't you'll be deemed as a PERFECT guy with nothing she could help with, and then she'll be afraid she ain't good enough for you, and no one's going to be happy. I think Troy also talked about this on COC 16, on the "Dimensions Challenge."
-Knowing when to switch up the vibes at the right time:
At the beginning, I laid back and showed a charismatic side of me when I couldn't escalate since Vic was going for her. After he backed off, I showed the dominant side by leading her through so many things and places, and at every place, the fun was there since I'm in my element, and I really have fun. I sexualized the interaction when we were alone, or gave her a covert ninja look when there were people around, while still being charismatic.
So, these are the lessons. It's the SAME LESSONS you read from us all the time and the SAME LESSONS you learn on your COC's, Mentorship Programs, PI's and Masterclasses. Guys, this is no joke. I put them together and focused on the right things and here I am. I am not even 6 months in and I truly believe that my social awareness and knowledge of attracting women is a thousands times better than when I came in.
If you have any questions, input, or comments, please put them on the comments section or PM me on the forums: Username is Jordon.
I'm really fucking happy I met her and I wish the same for you!
Check out the video of this Iconic "Dirty Dancing" Film Scene.
"You're in my space lover boy.... give me some tension here...!"
"How do you call your lover boy...and if he doesn't answer? and if he STILL doesn't answer!"
The fourth installment of our Success Guide with women is probably the most important one I've released and it's divided into two parts. I expect you to use the material here because these are NOT some yahoo answers advice column for entertainment value. As a TDD'er you should always strive to be good at the subtleties at showing interest.
It's no surprise that the challenge most men have in the game, whether beginner or a seasoned pro, is treading that fine line because to them, the outcome is either reciprocation or rejection. This is one of the most confusing pieces of the game most men are dying to know the solutions for.
Why Men Suck at this:
How a man uniquely shows interest is usually a by-product of rejection, success, and a combination of both. Sometimes they overdo it, and sometimes they don't do it and miss the outcome by a hair.
Most men who get hit a few times never get up again. They become afraid of getting ego shot and just completely settle for the friends-first approach.
First off, if you're in this journey or process to be good with women, you have to be THICK FACED. That means you have to imagine your skin is 8 inches thick or you have some force field around you on what women say. This is also why we train men to be skyscrapers because we don't want them to be emotionally damaged by whatever women say because they innately have unbreakable confidence.
Anyhow, here are the negative and positive outcomes that may happen when you should you escalate the interaction with a woman you like:
The three positive outcomes are:
You show your interest and she responds that she's interested in you
You show your interest and she says nothing but does not reject it, and
You don't show your interest and she becomes interested in you
Three usual negative outcomes are:
You show your interest and you get rejected for it,
You show your interest and it comes off overbearing and needy, or
You don't show your interest and you lose the girl due to the platonic nature of your interactions
So, where do we stand here?
At the end of the day you WANT TO SHOW INTEREST. Listen women aren't going to chase you forever. But it is a DANCE. And like a dance, sometimes you move in, and sometimes you move out. Sometimes you ask for a commitment like taking her hand for a spin, and sometimes you go balls to the wall with a bold move like a dip. Sometimes you're chasing, and sometimes she is. It's a constant movement but in the end both partners win.
I want you to focus on the positive outcomes of showing interest. Now I'm going to share the different ways you can show it. There are really no dogma's or hard line routines to do here but below I've outlined the general ways to show interest or non-interest verbally or non-verbally. Then I will give you solid tips after that on how to execute them right and get the girl eventually.
THE TDD "DANCE OF INTEREST"(The Techniques)
Interest can be shown via:
Giving her your undivided attention (nonverbal)
Increased enthusiasm when conversing (nonverbal)
A personal or logistical question (verbal)
A genuine compliment (verbal)
A high-risk sexual statement (verbal)
An invite to your world (verbal), READ*
Non-Interest can be feigned by:
Acting distracted and busy (nonverbal)
Being Platonic with her and treating her as a friend (verbal and nonverbal)
Telling a story that has nothing to do with the interaction moving forward (verbal)
Ignoring her (nonverbal)
Leaving abruptly during an interaction (verbal), and
Creating a natural barrier around her when in a social situation (nonverbal)
Now that you know the different verbal and non verbal ways to show interest , let's delve into Showing Interest and go over some key tips to make showing interest an effective habit for you when you interact with women.
KEY TIP #1 ON INTEREST: Do Not Expect a Big Commitment at First
Leading, in TDD has but one major rule that we all use, and it's "Small Leads to Big."
If there's anything we've learned in several years of implementing the system, is that women (and human beings in general) love the TRIAL PERIOD. Usually, when a large commitment is asked of women they shy away from it, but if it's pretty easy to do they'll do it. Your job is to put her into this ladder of commitments from small to big, especially with a girl you're just beginning to seduce.
If you're going to give her your attention, drop what you're doing and listen, but at the 15 minute mark when you've reached a high point you might want to cut it short and tell her you have to hit the gym and you'll have to continue this sometime this week.
If you're going to foreshadow a date or inviting her over, try something small and convenient for both of you like happy hour at the neighborhood pub or a quick 15 minute (note, 15 minute) jog around the park when it's not hot. Going to the Movies still work, especially if it's a top grossing movie that everyone says you need to watch (I've fallen victim to the A-Team, Karate Kid, and now Toy Story 3). Again, make it convenient. Start small.
If you're going to compliment her with the way she looks, don't just say she looks hot, point out something specific, like how nice her hairstyle is, or her smiling eyes, or how you like her fashion sense. Just pick one, that's it.
If you're going to make a sexual comment as a small gesture of interest, JUST SAY IT ONCE. Tell her she looks like a prime Salma Hayek and move on. Tell her she'd look great on you and move on. Tell her that you have physical preferences toward 5'5" brunettes with a name Sharon and move on. Once is enough. She gets the point.
KEY TIP #2 ON INTEREST: Do Not String Interest Moves One after the Other
That's called neediness. Make sure that you just "ping" or "poke" her for a bit but do not go overboard by following it up one after the other. You have to MIX IT UP.
Notice that when you string things in a linear manner, it usually ends up needy and overbearing and you lose the chick.
Remember that it takes more than one interaction for you to get her completely, so don't get ahead of yourself brother. Get her used to the DANCE. Some days feign interest to her, and some days don't.
KEY TIP#3 ON INTEREST: Get your Radar Up for When She Shows Interest to YOU
Here's what some men don't get and I think it's an "Inner Game" issue more than anything, but you have to be open to the fact that hey, she might actually like you!
Most men think that seduction is a "convincing game" and never entertain the fact that they ARE attractive enough, and I think that type of mentality is what blocks them from ever picking up on her signals of interest.
Now I've given you the different ways of showing interest, you might want to hone your awareness skills for when she does it to you.
If she does, hey there's nothing else to do but to say "thanks" however you might want to return that as well following the small is to big rule and using some good old Foreshadowing.
I love foreshadowing because it's not overbearing. Most men who get compliments from women (real or fake) will actually gun immediately for a date. I usually foreshadow a small and specific event and it always works as a charm.
I mentioned fake because there are some women that know this game of complimenting men to get what they want (and it's not your heart or your penis, guys). So, the way to tread the middle ground is to foreshadow something SMALL first.
I've gotten tons of compliments from women on how cool or funny or intelligent I am. Most of the time I just say thanks but I always say something like "Hey, one of these days when my schedule clears up we should grab a snack at Whole Foods" or "Do you still work out? I need a jogging partner to run a lap or two on the weekends" or "Hey, check this wine tasting event out. Some of my friends are going and I'm thinking about attending it."
If she goes for it, then great. Now you can increase the levels as you go.
KEY TIP #4 ON INTEREST: Women this Stuff Works On
1. Attractive Women who work hard on improving themselves and don't get the praise they deserve
2. MILF's and Mature Women who don't bullshit around, and
3. Conservative Women,
Number one is really part of my personal "Niche." There are more than enough quality women out there who really, really try their best to improve and be awesome, whether it's physically, mentally, or emotionally. A lot of them don't get the praise they deserve other than a dozen ass-kissing remarks from most guys. Well, guess what, I'm their savior. I'm here to show them that as a quality guy, I see them eye to eye and I find them hot. I like to listen, share core values, and foreshadow relationships, like on Champions of Choice 16.
Number two is something TDD Instructor Rico does a lot on his Niche of MILFs. Although Rico has that powerful Latino vibe, he does have that caring side where he gives his women undivided attention and some sweet talking. Older women usually have a no-bullshit approach to dating and if you show interest it's totally in line with their mentality.
Number three is for conservative women. Most of them get shy when you show interest to, but in general actually never accept gestures of interest anyways. It's always a plus to BE FIRST. If you're first in line to tell her you find her attractive, it starts becoming a possibility in her head and despite small reciprocations you will see it. After you, she'll also think the next guys are just copy cats.
KEY TIP #6: TROUBLE SHOOTING
What happens if she doesn't take your show of interest? Hey don't forget my man Nash Casten's favorite phrase, "No means slow."
What most guys don't know is that when a woman rejects a query of interest, it's usually because of logistical reasons that they have absolutely ZERO control of. Remember women have guy issues, ex-issues, dog-died-the-other-day issues, my-life-sucks issues, gossip girl issues, and what not. It's none of your concern and you shouldn't sucker yourself into them.
So, NEVER act rejected if you didn't get the response you wanted: Don't twitch, react in a negative way and just say "okay, well maybe next time." Or the term that's been a big twitter trend lately, "I'm just sayin."
Smile and be calm. Because bro, you're a TDD'er and a TDD'er knows that the attitude we have is like a Shark versus a Piranha. A Piranha keeps biting but never finishes the big meal. A Shark loves the initial challenge or rejection, surveys its target, and finds opportunities to succeed. Trust me there are MULTIPLE OPPORTUNITIES with one woman if you open your mind to the possibility.
Okay, that's it for now. Take this advice to heart and play the game right.
DISCUSS THIS TOPIC "THE DANCE OF INTEREST" FURTHER ON OUR FORUM-SPECIFIC THREAD HERE
Let me start by saying that I've never invested any money with TDD - no PI, Masterclass, Lifestyle Retreat, Mentorship Programme, and heck, not even a subscription to CoC. What I know about TDD is through my conversations with Troy and his crew and reading the free material. If I can already get so much out of TDD, I can scarcely imagine how much better I would become when I go for the premium stuff.
Here we go...
In the wee hours of Saturday morning, I stepped out of a hotel room with my girl.
She made me LOL post-copulation: "I can't believe I'm cheating on my boyfriend... But let's not talk about him."
Guys, the stereotype is true: Dancers are good in bed, be it technique or figure. And tight as hell too.
But I should start from the beginning.
She's an intern at my organisation who joined some time ago. The moment I saw her, I knew we had great chemistry. She has a boyfriend, but I didn't give a shit because he's a possessive douchebag. Plus that has never stopped me. In a nutshell, she's your typical college student: Beautiful, slim, relationship-only, no flings, good girl type.
So here we have a girl who was adamant about not wanting a fling, who already has a boyfriend of over 1.5 years, and we STILL ended up fucking each other's brains out. And now I'm her fling.
- Demonstrate direction and leadership. I cannot stress this enough. Put simply, when I showed these two qualities, magic ALWAYS happened.
- Importance of escalating and sexualising the content. I have always been reasonably stellar with conversations and communications, but there was something lacking in my repertoire until I got more into TDD, talked to a few of the guys, learnt great lessons from them, and realised that I needed to escalate and sexualise the communication. I avoided this in the past as I wasn't sure of myself and my sex appeal, but after getting over this ridiculous nonsense, doors opened WIDE.
- I was completely upfront with her about my past sexual experiences, including ones that bordered on truly X-rated stuff. Instead of getting turned off, she got even more turned on over the course of our conversations. This was because I wasn't wishy-washy about them - I told them factually and with a matter-of-fact tone, which I think helped to sell the idea that I am for real.
- Importance of values and experiences. If I didn't know what I know now, she wouldn't have been into me. It's compulsory t to be constantly learning and improving in all areas of your life.
- Push-and-pull. Throughout the whole time I've known her, I was always pushing and pulling in how I communicate and sexualise the interaction with her. In the end, she wanted me as much as I wanted her, and perhaps even more than I did.
- Have a game plan that mixes direction with spontaneity. We nearly didn't get a room because of how crowded it was, but I had a backup plan that involved catching the sunrise and having some breakfast.
- I told her early on that she wouldn't be the most important part of my life - my career and training will take precedence over her. Unsurprisingly, that didn't deter her at all.
- Don't take yourself too seriously. I goofed around when the situation called for it (teasing, chilling out) and was serious when necessary (discussing about ambition, career direction, etc).
I am a member of this chain of budget hotels in Singapore as I've been to this particular branch a few times. The manager tried to pull a fast one by claiming that I wasn't a member and haven't been a guest before. Conversation went something like this:
Manager: I'm sorry Sir, we have no records of you having stayed in this hotel at all.
Me: What are you talking about? I was here last year with a different girl.
He gives me that sly son-of-a-bitch look and looks at my girl, who is grinning from ear to ear.
Me: She knows EVERYTHING mate. And she doesn't care.
My girl is awesome.
No PUA 'artwork' necessary - just have a game plan, demonstrate your values, LEAD the interaction, sexualise, and BAM.
Cheers to TDD,
Singapore City, Singapore
We're planning a weekend getaway in two weeks time - It's going to be fantastic!
If you don't know the back story of how I met Tuan and how this one hell of a guy turned great from when I met him when he was SEVENTEEN YEARS OLD, this post should tell you how he developed.
God, Tuan was this YOU!??
(Far left, from the Singapore Masterclass 2009)
This guy lost his v-card through TDD (by being the second person who signed up for the Mentorship Program), tore through Asia after the Singapore Masterclass (remember the threesome date video?), took the skills back to the US, and has been a Force of f****ing Nature ever since.
I tell you, this guy is one of the best mentees I've ever had and is definitely en route to teaching. He follows directions, whether its Macro or Micro to the tee. Who can forget his 21st birthday party that landed him a naked chick in his room?
Ah yes, the Macro Plan, using a few $15 light bulbs from the store.
The Motto: "Build it and they will CUM... I mean COME"
You'll see more of him on the US Masterclass in July because he'll be apprenticing on that.
Anyways, here's a question from a current Mentorship client who has hopes of moving up the TDD Ranks. Tuan doesn't post so much but seeing as its a mailbag question directly at him he gives a really good response that's front page worthy so check it out.
I'm currently on the road of developing myself so I can reach captain rank at TDD. And it's funny cause Troy keeps comparing me to you. First it was when I met him in Frankfurt: "You're like fucking Tuan, you smile too much!" ha ha ha. And now on the mentorship call 2 one of the things I gotta develop is my sexual character and again Troy gave your example since it seems you went through it as well.
So I was wondering if you have any advice you could give me on what helped you and specifics you did... For now I know working out and getting into shape is a given. Loosing weight and getting that testosterone going. That's my main objective right now.
Besides that I guess working on my dominance and vibe switching as well like Troy said...
If you have any input for me I'd deeply appreciate it.
Other than that congrats on what you have already and have been achieving! Looking at your before and after pics I'd say it was two different guys! Also Troy told me how now you almost get rapped by girls! Hilarious, ha ha ha!
Take care and keep rocking bro!
Che (from Portugal)
We come from the same "smiles too much" background! that's awesome! lol
Anyway, for getting sexual / developing a sexual character. What helped me a lot was CoC7 on Killer Instinct. If you listen to it, Troy says "I used to have a student who smiled a lot to the point of being goofy", that was me he was talking about!
I think the best way to give you an idea of how I did it, is to give you my story.
I definitely used to be a muffin (the likable but NOT FUCKABLE guy). I had a lot of friends that were girls, but that was just it, friend zone type of shit.
If you listen to Coc8 - Innovative Social Circle Seduction, Troy talks about "taglines for yourself"... an example is "Nash, the guy who fucks a lot of women"
My old tagline back in the day was "Tuan, the guy who smiles a lot" (seriously if you see my old facebook photos, holy crap it was bad). When Troy first told me that I smile too much, it really hurt me because seriously it was HARD TO NOT SMILE all the time! I mean that's who I was!! But the vital flaw was in that I couldn't control my vibe, it was ALWAYS LOCKED ON FUN (smiling), and could never be sexual. In other words, goofy.
This point was hit home to me when Xavier told me "Tuan, imagine your fucking a girl and smiling like that. Girls don't fantasize about the smiling guy fucking them, period.
It was a huge reality breaker in the beginning, I remember sitting in my hotel room (during the Singapore Masterclass), thinking "fucking shit, I HAVE TO CHANGE THIS". (and I did, I replaced the smile with a smirk...spent a lot of time working on that in front of the mirror lol)
For me at that time in the beginning, I literally changed my look. I bleached my hair, got some accessories like a big ass belt buckle, a ring, a watch, etc. I wanted a rockstar look to attach my new found sexy to that, so that when I look in the mirror I wouldn't see ‘smiling guy' but instead ‘Tuan with a wild edge'.
Tuan being a sexual juggernaut in Japan having three girls co-raping him
on the SAME DATE.
And hey, that worked when I was in Japan, where literally ALL THE GUYS ARE MUFFINS with no testosterone, and I was just a little less muffin than them, so I got some girls.
When I came back to the United States, it was a whole different story...
If you see guys in America, there's a big demographic that are very masculine. Guys who are willing to call it out, have steady eye contact, stand for what they believe in, and suggest sexual things. Basically TDD-type guys.
Troy pointed this out to me during my PI in San Antonio. I literally had no testosterone or killer instinct in me, pretty much to the point that women gave me a glance and quickly brushed me aside.
Not only that, but Troy told me I literally have a big head, and I should have big muscles to complement that. That's exactly when I started working out seriously / going to the gym (after my PI in October 2009). I bought supplements, did the benchpress / dumbbells / rock climbed, etc. Two months later I had improvements, and that's when I came down again to San Antonio for the Dance Game Seminar (December 2009).
And Even then, I still had the muffin problem. Partly due to a girl I was seeing (which took away my killer instinct to get new girls), and that deep inside I was afraid.... I let my past success haunt me. I thought, shit I've been A to Z before, this should be exactly the same. Well the reality is fuck that, I wasn't an empty cup and it showed.
I left the Dance Game Seminar with my reality broken once again, the smiling was fixed but the muffin was still there.
During Christmas time 2009, I decided to take another approach to things, and I honestly believe this is what made it happen for me. I decided to start building on my own skyscraper (work on myself) instead of putting my time in small sandcastles (women). If you heard CoC10 on Dimensions, this is huge. I wanted to be known as "The guy who works out and seriously puts an effort in to his own fitness"
TUAN on the website of his town's boxing gym. Un-Muffin that!
That's when I decided to do the full 90 days of P90X. From start to finish (finishing the sandwich! - COC 7). It was a major goal for me. I put everything else in my life on hold and made sure to get it done. I wrote all about it on my facebook, documented what I ate, took pictures, made videos, etc. I wanted everybody to know that I was doing P90X and was completing it. It wasn't easy, but the investment paid off big time. My bad posture was fixed, it gave me a huge boost in self confidence, a sense of accomplishment, and kept me grounded to reality. After working out that hard nobody can shit on me. And that's the same feeling I get when I do boxing training these days.
With that, I made a conscious decision to LEAD (take an interaction where it needs to go), each and every time. And so far it's been great.
Bro, your objective of getting in to shape is the right way to do it. One thing to be aware of is that you're doing this for YOU. Not for anybody else. If you're looking for a complete program that will get you in shape, I recommend P90X or Insanity. It's not easy but like I said, your investment will pay you back 10x.
Tuan's testimonial video (snapshot) after the
Synergy Coversion Camp. Okay maybe he's 1/10th Muffin
but he's 90% MAN.
Why don't we care? Because HE GETS LAID thats WHY!
With that, if you follow what's already been written on the TDD site / forums about sexualizing it (the Sexual Eye Contact Video, the TDD success with Women guides, etc), you should be good.
You can email and ask questions directed to Tuan by emailing us at firstname.lastname@example.org and discuss on the comments section below.
This one Lamborghini Ad is my "ULTIMATE VIDEO ANALOGY" for foreshadowing (the fun starts at 1:00). If THAT doesn't make you want to drive the $300,000 beast for reasons stated in the video, I don't know what will.
Here's an analogy to start this lesson with.
The Lamborghini is the product. The driver is the prospect. To make the prospects want to drive the Lambo they need to see what they could do with it first.
The Lamborghini is YOU and the driver is a woman. To make her want to date or have sex with you she has to see what she could do with you first.
Had another light bulb moment after three straight "Success Guide" posts from TDD?
I thought so. Keep reading.
Again, don't skip to the nitty gritty if you haven't watched the video. It's fucking enlightening and cool at the same time.
Here's an old, tried and tested fact in dating.
"Getting a girl starts by getting in her head before her pants."
If there's any other technique in the vast annals of TDD wisdom that can do that FLAWLESSLY, then it's definitely the fine art of FORESHADOWING.
Foreshadowing, by definition means leading her mind into the future using your ability to paint a picture using your words.
It's a Micro-Level TDD Skill set we use every time. But before that, here are the ABSOLUTE MACRO Essentials to Foreshadowing:
- A good Macro Plan - logistics and self-knowledge,
- Being bold enough to lead and suggest, and
- Vision muscles training and verbal skills of painting a picture.
It's wise to foreshadow by default in every interaction, because you won't always have the best logistics or a green light all the way.
You can't physically lead her all the time, especially if she's stuck entertaining friends, or she's on the phone or online with you, so might as well tell her what the next step is as an insurance policy. That way no logistical nuisance can get in the way of your progression with her because you're leading her into the FUTURE, not necessarily based on the events happening RIGHT NOW. Capisce?
Remember guys, It is a form of LEADING, so it's essential you practice it over and over on EVERY interaction.
Usually a foreshadow happens when you've gathered some information about her. That's why it's essential to ask some basic personal and/or utterly mundane questions.
i.e. What do you love to do, how was your weekend, what do you do when you can't sleep, etc.
This is why I advocate asking NORMAL ASS QUESTIONS. There's no point in making the conversation funny, witty, intriguing or exaggerated if you can't get essential information out of her. So prioritize these questions first.
Another basic rule of thumb of foreshadowing is to include her in the picture when you foreshadow versus painting a picture of the future and asking her to be part of it.
Most guys would say,
"I love the outdoors, I hike every weekend with a group up the mountains, and you should come."
As a TDD guy, you might want to say,
"Look, I'm not saying you're related to big foot or anything, but I can see you taking out those treacherous hikes that we do. You seem so competitive."
As you can see, I'm not presenting a picture of the future and then inviting her to come over, I've already assumed her as part of that picture.
You've heard me talk about "Vision Muscles" before so you'll have to practice the skills of using them and presenting your vision to a girl via conversation. I know salesmen do fantastic in this department because their job entails them to "sell" the future to their prospects by painting a picture of it.
Ever been sold a piece of real estate or a car? Notice how they always make you imagine that you're driving the damn thing or living on the 36th floor loft with a sweeping view of the city? Again, I will reiterate how cool it was I came across the Lambo video.
Here are two of more than handful of ways you can use this fantastic art form:
I. FORESHADOW a date
I already gave out an example regarding the hiking thing. Again this all depends on your plan.
So again, if a date to me would be trying out the newest Sushi Bar around town, then I could say,
"Seeing that you have a petite, thin frame, I've come to the conclusion that I can eat a lot more Sushi than you."
Note that I'll usually throw out an observation about her first, then transition into the foreshadow.
Here are more examples:
"You're a bubbly gal; I bet you can't beat me in Air Hockey."
"Well if you like walks in the park then we could totally bring a picnic basket when it's nice outside."
"You're a home buddy; you should teach me your curry recipe, I'll teach you how I make my Carbonara."
"I'm a night owl too so I think we should find a late night coffee spot and celebrate the fact that we're nocturnal and awesome."
"Heh, a party animal like you deserves some Friday night dancing at the club."
Just don't forget plan a, b, or c. It's good to know your logistics for the week or weekend so just in case her logistics don't pan out well there's always a next option.
Last weekend's Private Instruction student LOVED FORESHADOWING. He drilled it, noted on his notes how important it was, and used this same strategy (of having different dates planned), and because of that on the last Sunday he had in San Antonio he met a chick in the daytime Saturday, then had a legit date that ended up in his hotel room Sunday night. (story soon, check Part 1)
II. FORESHADOW what "could happen" between the two of you.
This has to be my favorite one, because it makes the interaction creative, fun, witty and tension laden.
Key word is "What if"
I know. Simple and powerful right?
What if we bumped into each other at the Farmer's Market tomorrow?
What if I caught you staring at me?
What if we changed each other's Facebook statuses to "In a relationship" with each other?
What if you failed my lie detector test?
What if I caught you buying a Porn Magazine?
What if I kissed you?
You gotta love it.
If you want to get your flirting skills down or haven't gotten flirty reactions from women, I suggest using this type of foreshadow in your conversations with women.
Like I said, foreshadowing is an ART FORM. If you get this down, I absolutely guarantee that you'll be on your way to having LOTS and LOTS of Women, whether it's current women you're pursuing or an entire list of women on the back burner pursuing you.
Not only can you lead one girl, but you can lead MULTIPLE WOMEN because there won't be any logistical problem. You're just throwing the possibilities out there and letting her imaginations run wild.
Foreshadowing WILL keep women interested in you because you've lead their minds into a beautifully painted picture that may or may not happen in the near future. Either way, it's GONNA HAPPEN at least in her mind.
That's the past DECADE of my life in a nutshell. I've got tons of healthy romantic and sexual relationships that are active simply because I can foreshadow them and tap into whoever's available when I want to. Same goes to the TDD Instructors in our camp.
I'm talking lots of women, different cities, worldwide. Some even online.
Let me pull back for a second though by stating that I'm not the player type. I ended that "lifestyle" if you want to call it when I hit 23. I was daring, reckless, and a wild stallion of a young adult man.
I'm now 28. Maybe I've tasted all the flavors, but I've certainly "locked onto" specific attributes I look forward to in a woman.
Let me share a funny thought I found out mentoring hundreds of people over the past 2 years ever since the Skype thing started,
What most men WON'T admit publicly is that despite their grandiose wishes of having five, six or seven women in a "sex stable or rotation," they just really want ONE awesome, quality chick.
What they WILL admit to privately, is that they want one awesome chick to start with and they'll ask me to throw everything but the kitchen sink at them in terms of TDD Material to make sure they get that one awesome girl to start a happy life with.
I personally started with ONE Great girl, and I can enumerate tons of lessons I learned, socially and sexually, just being with her. I truly believe that learning women starts with BEING with women, not going through the motions of picking them up repeatedly.
Matter of fact a LOT of the key lessons our guys are learning via the Mentorship Program pretty much came from my four major relationships. Despite having hundreds of flings and dates here and there, I credit these four for being the best ones I've learned the most from.
All four great relationships were made possible by foreshadowing beforehand.
Anyhow, the word is out.
The Next Champions of Choice will be entitled,
Foreshadowing a Relationship: Multiple Leading Sequences to Land a Quality Girl.
We're going to use some basic, intermediate, and advanced FORESHADOWING techniques like I showed you on this article so you can get that smooth transition into that great relationship you deserve.
You'll be taught on how to spot "opportunities" in conversations where you could ACCELERATE your escalations much much faster...
...AND learn some VERY SNEAKY ways of fine tuning your conversations with women into foreshadows of romantic and sexual events that could happen between the both of you.
You'll also learn some basics of Female Psychology: What women are looking for in a relationship and what experiences they look forward to as "transitions" to being with you...
...And for the FIRST TIME outside the Mentorship Program, I will introduce FORESHADOWING DRILLS to get your conversations structured in the manner that "sets her up" for a future of dating you.
This next COC, which I'm absolutely THRILLED to record for you guys, will be out June 15th.
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I presented the theory that sexual results 110% comes from the Character versus the actual moves. Guys, this is the easiest, most consistent route for simple escalation to happen and if you commit your time to this trust me, you'll never go back to learning techniques ever again (unless it's TDD micro techniques if you wanna move up in rankings).
Here's a review if you've downloaded Champions of Choice 15 - The TDD Time Management System then you know the sequence of personal improvement from our point of view is always going to be:
#1 CHARACTER, #2 CREDS, #3 OUTLETS, AND #4 INTERACTION-LEVEL SKILLS.
I go through a WHOLE HOUR on the actual process of managing your time to develop the sequence on the COC, so if you haven't purchased it, get it at $30 before it's gone in like, 12-14 days from now. You'll regret not grabbing it if you miss the deadline because it's a very, very good "Funamentals" program.
(CLICK HERE TO GET THE TIME MANAGEMENT SYSTEM BEFORE IT'S RETIRED FOR GOOD.)
Anyhow, I've used almost every piece of every sexual character I'm going to discuss here over the past decade, and eventually quit some attributes or picked up new ones. It really depends where you're at. Sometimes the "Wild Risky Man" works better in College and the "Man of Taste" works better for older men and the jack-ass works if you're a testosterone work out freak. If I were you, I'd take what works for you. All roads lead to success because I've seen and done it year after year.
Look, at the end of the day, would you want a woman you "somehow got lucky on" wake up beside you and never call you up again?
Men want one thing whether they admit it or not - validation of their manliness.
It sucks to NOT KNOW or wonder if you're actually man enough to handle a woman. It's why the dating business thrives and will thrive over the next few years. Difference is, we at TDD will provide real-world solutions that have worked and will work for you, versus fly by night companies out there consolidating general dating advice that doesn't make a dent.
Well, this process will do the job. By focusing on the character more YOU can be totally happy when YOU get laid or get a girlfriend - because she's calling YOU, she fucked YOU, she dated YOU, not a stupid ass technique.
Why do you think TDD guys are more self-assured than pick up artists who are never assured and have to keep "doing things" to prove themselves?
Here's a quick Decoded breakdown on the different "Sexual Characters" that get laid nowadays
(With accompanying You tube videos).
Sexual Character #1:
Jack-asses AKA Douschebags
Make no mistake, chauvinist douschebags DO get laid, probably more than you or your room mate who's reading this right now. They may not be as pin point accurate in most cases, but they actually are doing a few things right that makes the process sexual easy for them.
First is that their sexual intentions are upfront, and are magnified by their character that pursues endless amounts of partying, drinking, and doing risky stuff (don't ask).
A lot of women frown at this image and outright reject them for it, however there's something they have to back that up, and that's consistency of character.
They really don't give a flying f***k. Most of these guys don't really change and are jerks whether they're at line of sight of women or not. If you're not nitpicky on what happens in every interaction you're in then congrats, you can develop this habit.
From there it's only a matter of time when the girl realizes she's horny and since he's the most available guy loudly advertising sex (no, she won't fuck a muffin), they fuck anyways.
Don't try to be a jerk if you're not. If you're a well-bred, mild mannered guy with genuine values, keep reading on because there's a solution for you, just don't try to be an ass. It will backfire on you, I promise.
However the principle remains: what you can learn from this is that this projection of a "sexually upfront character" CAN get you laid if you project it LOUDLY to enough women and can be consistent with it.
Ask TDD Asia Instructor Nash Casten. That guy gets laid consistently because he's done this for awhile now. The guy always has overbearing, sex-laden status messages on Facebook. So, his common stereotype is... the guy women fuck.
The Mentality of this guy is that Women are bored and want sex. It's a great mentality if you ask me. It's also true in most cases.
The "move" this character makes is that he keeps suggesting sex. If you're afraid to suggest that the two of you should have sex to ease her final exams anxiety then you probably won't be able to pull this off. But heck, try it anyways.
Onto sexual character number two...
Sexual Character #2:
The Man of Taste
I just finished a Mentorship call with a client from Singapore this morning and I suggested this to him.
Sometimes the sexual character becomes sexy because he draws from sexy "stuff" and makes that part of his dimensions (identity).
Women have this insatiable desire for exotic, finer things in life. We can't deny that. Whether it's Champagne, Chanel purses, trips to the Caribbean, or that fine-ass Black Porsche that pulled up the driveway, it all counts as sexy.
Now you may or may not have any of these, but you CAN incorporate that into your conveyance game - image, hobbies, lifestyle, and personal social circle.
This type of guy gets laid because women "imagine" some sexual scenario with this guy that involves not shacking up in a messy, smelly College dorm but in a dim lit, clean, Olive and red painted room with a bowl of strawberries, wine, and some Bossa Nova music.
(I know, fucking sexy when you think about it)
I know of more than a handful of TDD graduates and natural friends of mine who do this. It's not going to boil down to your budget or income, but your creativity.
Here's my advice:
Make your room into the sexiest, most fuckable place she would ever want to be in. Go to the local IKEA, get some good "hotel style" lighting, put some vanilla scents on, buy a $10 mini-fountain to put on your bedside lamp table, and put some of your "conveyance items" - books you read, cd's or movies you own, photo albums, etc. that convey the character all over the room. Oh, and buy a bottle of bubbly and a champagne holder with ice.
Image wise, get some Zara clothes or get into some look books in GQ to give you that sharp look. Nuff said.
Finally, "spin off" anything you do as SEXY - your room is sexy, your clothes are sexy, your interests are sexy. Keep researching on what most people find are sexy stuff and explore.
Invite her to some posh gathering where you both have to dress up - like a black tie event. Women fantasize stuff where they have to dress in glamorous clothes for one night. She also dreams of taking off those glamorous clothes to fuck the living daylights out of her sharp suited date.
Sexual Character #3:
The Wild Risky Man
Women are taken by men who take risks, period. That's why there are lots of marriages that occur in the US Military a week or mere days before boot camp or war time deployment starts. I mean, who would get married before the guy sets off to war? Well, a lot of women think it's hot.
The guy usually has almost nothing in his bank account, usually the underdog, and greatly misunderstood. But it's his adventurous spirit that makes women comply with his bidding; his overbearing enthusiasm that just reels them into his world, his viewpoints, and well, his bed.
I've known and dated a lot of women who did some wild, crazy stuff with me, like fuck in a public bus, library, or an elevator, all because I've conveyed parts of this character.
Here's my 2 cents:
When suggesting doing something, inject high enthusiasm and exaggerate it. Oversell the damn thing.
"F***K IT, LET'S GO!" is the key phrase he tells women. This type of character will help you become a better leader (and a better sales man of yourself lol) and will help your Force of Nature development as a TDDer.
The more ridiculous and spontaneous, the better - If you couple this advice with the mentality of women are bored, then you've got a good weapon of choice. If you already assume women are bored then you also know that if you suggest ridiculous stuff that I'm sure they haven't done for years, then they will bite... matter of fact they'll bite hard.
Do some activities that stimulate emotional wavelengths like riding roller coasters, doing random, spontaneous commitments (like packing up and doing a road trip), or well, making out in an elevator.
Avoid doing things that will NOT stimulate emotions or are play safe stuff, such as hanging out silently at a library, doing a picnic, chatting over dinner, or hanging out with friends comfortably.
Sexual Character #4:
The Man of Status and Credibility
I posted this on the Graduate Forum, and I still stand behind it because I and a LOT of my fellow TDDers have gotten laid because of status and credibility. Just scroll down later on Spartan's lay report or various lay reports on the forum. You'll see two words... "Credibility Date."
At the end of the day, your status in the pecking order of things says a lot about her sexual feelings for you.
You don't have to be the owner of a Hacienda (Spanish term for an estate), or be a Congressman like Manny Pacquiao. However, you'll need creds.
Women have filters in how they see their potential mate. Some of them look outward and try to analyze and nitpick almost everything about the guy, mostly his circle.
I mentioned this on Champions of Choice #2: How to Get a Girlfriend that a woman always sees your circle and her circle eventually "marrying into each other."
Now, either you both have awesome circles, or YOU have the cooler circle or she does. Either way, she needs to see that world.
Like a toy (well, you're the boy toy), she has to see if OTHER KIDS are playing with it too or want to play it.
Position yourself as the leader in your social circle.
Hang around people that will make you look good, not who will undermine you publicly and make you look bad.
Find interest groups that are into what you're into. Whether it's dancing, physical fitness, culinary arts, etc. and become a bad-ass in that group.
Manage your time and add some days or nights of networking to increase your circle. (I told you guys, it's not pick up).
Again, let me say this. You don't have to be one character or the other, but I'm writing this so that you can take the pieces of the puzzle together and build the character that's right for you.
Any feedback, opinions, or questions? You can directly post below on the comments section and let me know what you think. Have some of these "characters" worked out for you or not? Discuss on the comments section.
That's all for now. I'm stoked to see your progress from here!
Founder, Program Director and Master Instructor of Troy Dizon Dating
Email me: troy@troydizondating
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THE PARTY'S HERE ON THE SOUTH SIDE..
YO! I'm back with more tales of crazy times and boot camp moments...
Today I'm going to tell a tale of a client of mine this past weekend who I consider one of the best students I've ever had. Maybe you guys can resonate with his background or story, and you can see the principles and weekend experiences that guided him to success.
BTW If you emailed me and your success story hasn't been posted, don't worry. All of it is on cue. Sometimes you just have to pace things because we still do operate in a very blog-ish website. I still choose to keep it this way. Not fancy, not overbearing, and has enough crown jewels, but YOU the reader must dig within to find them (we have articles spanning from 2007, a fully functional forum , and around 39 free podcasts, plus TDDTV).
Talk about conditioning your people to use some effort to get results. =)
If you LOVED COC 15: The TDD Time Management System, which I still think should have been entitled "Character Development" or "Retention Method II," then throw me some feedback via the comments section below the download page, or if you want something more personal, email me. Most of you who took the initiative to reach out to me in the past know that I respond pretty fast with much appreciation.
Here's the reality about TDD Private Instruction Camps:
They DEFINITELY don't come cheap.
People pay us quite a big chunk of their HARD EARNED MONEY and we honor that by providing high quality camps and personalized coaching services that yield results.
The fee doesn't just stop when you sign up: Instead of us paying for the trip, we have our clients pay for their OWN trip AND lodging to add to the Private Instruction costs.
What most of you don't know is that subconsciously we're training your mind to succeed while you go through that process.
We want you to be motivated and take your programs with us seriously.
See, in the mind of Troy Dizon, there are about a handful of "student archetypes" that dare to sign up on a TDD Private Instruction (or Master class) camp:
First is a client who has been following me since the GLORY DAYS of 2006-2008 when I worked for a certain "pick up school" that helped gain leverage to where I'm at right now. If you're one of them, I applaud you for having the common sense to follow the school of thought that MAKES SENSE.
Here are some details of what that client might be:
Asian or Caucasian male from 21-26...
Usually has a great job that pays around 45-100K a year...
Despite that job, by the way he dresses he looks like a 14 year old making 10K a year...
Calls himself a good listener just because he can't say a damn thing about himself...
Laughs nervously when interacting...
Completely agreeable and avoids conflict...
Group of friends generally aren't congruent with where he wants to be...
First six profile photos on his face book brands him as a muffin (the "friends' zone guy")...
Is actually 5'9" but because of poor body language he looks shorter than me...
The idea of loosening up at a party is by drinking alcohol...
When asked where the best places to meet women are, his answer is "the street" or "the bus stop."
When asked about what he loves to do, the answer is almost always "helping people."
Has been doing the "charismatic-yet-utterly-platonic-conversations-stuff" for about 1-2 years with hardly any sexual results...
My client was almost all of the above.
Now you might think that this is a lost case, however this is a trend of certain men that come to TDD.
Here's the X Factor to why THIS GUY will succeed:
Sometimes having an experience pool like this can get a man SERIOUSLY PISSED.
Pissed at that helpless feeling of forcing your way through interactions that don't seem to go anywhere...
Pissed at countless times of rejection despite having the best of intentions in meeting people...
Pissed at the fact that no matter what you might say sexually women will always brand you as a friend's zone type of guy...
Pissed to the point of ABSOLUTE DESPERATION...
DESPERATE to the point where he'll take a good chunk of his hard earned money, sign up for a $1650.00 Private Instruction Camp, buy a plane ticket to San Antonio, get a hotel for 3 days, and become UTTERLY SCARED and NERVOUS because he's going to be trained by TROY D HIMSELF.
If you've spent the last 6-8 months reading previous event reviews, articles, and happenings in TDD, that shit can make you anxious as hell when you sign up.
But desperate people, they SUCK IT UP.
Do whatever it takes is the fucking motto...
Here's a quick background on our guy:
My client had sex once with a very drunk woman in an experience he dares to not recall or remember.
Yes he had sex, but he never had the feeling of satisfaction after. He still wondered if it was truly him that she found attractive or was it just a lucky spurt of the moment shit.
He wanted a genuine sense of closeness with women he was going to meet, especially if he was going to sleep with them. Learning outward style hollow game for a couple of years didn't confirm that. There were no further results from that experience with the drunk girl.
He's a downtown boy, living near the financial district of this largely metropolitan city FILLED with diverse, quality women (I should know, I met a Russian and Iranian chick there during a PI). Not knowing "Niche Theory," during his initial interview with me he had stated that he met girls primarily in the street or bus stops. NOW I'm sure his mind's going nutso trying to figure out which Niche he wants to go and dominate.
Either way, it must have been very disappointing living downtown and being around such women and still not yield results.
After graduating from school this year, he saved some money to fly out to Spain, party like a world-class playboy while watching the UEFA Champions League matches live. That was the plan. The TDD PI was en-route to that plan.
Here's a lesson guys:
You can't escape who you are. Even the guys who have gone to our yearly Lifestyle Retreat know that.
A vacation or retreat or adventure in some other country won't change the way you handle women until you fix the core itself, well unless your resort to an endless amount of escort and prostitution services which I'm sure none of you will do.
An old saying I told my clients back in '04 was "Women are women, people are people" which means no matter where you are in the world, women will still have the same gut-based reactions to your vibe. If you don't fix or improve on it, you'll get the same outcome.
Either way, the trip to Spain was a door of opportunity, a chance to reset things and start over, but he needed the PI to get his mind and skills right to make sure success was imminent, as he had imagined in his dreams.
And the fact that he was an ex-student of "barisma carts" who followed me years later made me ultra excited. (Talk about retention!)
ON TO REALITY BREAKER FRIDAY...
It's called that way simply because it's the day we take the blinders off our clients. This is the first day where most of them lose a TON of sleep after (racing thoughts and memories), and it's also the make or break day for the rest of the PI.
This was the test of discipline if my client was really done with the old system. If he was willing to defy all that he had known in the past by testing out the brand spanking new TDD Strategies.
I always say: "If you think you're here on PI to reaffirm what you knew from "barisma arts" then you're in the wrong headspace." There's absolutely no time to be a hard headed fool in this camp. The moment you signed the dotted line you're already saying "NO" to that bull shit. Let that be a warning to all you guys who are planning to do this.
Two things: LEADING and HIGH POINTS.
As you know, I am the Anti-Linear guy. I don't believe in it simply because it produces very random and lack luster results. I have written countless articles on WHY that strategy is a failed one.
Anyhow, on the first day it was important for me to teach that to my client using the principles of the LAW OF DIMINISHING RETURNS and the specifics of managing high points (leading and leaving).
I told him that people who PLOW are seriously violating this law of life simply because the law states "if you go beyond the high point with the SAME thing you used to get there, the effect diminishes."
What that means is:
If you keep talking past the point of interest until your "material runs out", the interaction dies down.
If you stay around past the point of welcome, you become a liability and not an asset to the group you approached.
If you spin her 3 more times than the first one that made her feel like a princess on the dance floor, you've overdone it.
This is how important it is to work from high points. It makes an approach or interactions sniper-efficient and successful because you've trained your gut to know EXACTLY when to quit or proceed further.
Of course if you're a needy, reaction seeking, value taking, plowing PUA you wouldn't know that. Another reason to learn TDD.
On his FIRST APPROACH, all while me and Capo were planting seeds in the room, he nailed it down. He was leading 2 chicks all around the venue while running on absolute fun. At first I thought he would milk the interaction, but NO. This guy was disciplined enough to put the skill sets into use. They were eating off the palm of his hand.
Heck it was so good, me and Capo didn't even wing him no more. He was a one man show and the flow was getting pretty damn good. We sensed (and I tweeted later) a pull was about to happen.
I pulled my guy aside and told him to foreshadow an after party at the TDD Party House. I'm sure he somehow said that in a garbled manner that botched the pull BECAUSE...
The use of alcohol I would say was the MAIN impediment to the supposed bed-banging that could have happened. When I momentarily winged my Korean client, it so happened that the Latin girl's ex-boyfriend used to be Korean! And the other chick wanted some Korean too!
Sadly, my Korean student couldn't remember these golden opportunity moments. The punch had gotten to him by around 1 am.
I always say, ONLY drink when they're back at your place or vice versa. If you're attempting to pull then you have to be SHARP. Alcohol severely impairs your radar for opportunities like that.
It's sad to know that you're Korean and NOT KNOW that the two Latin Girls with you wanted Korean dick that night.
Now, if you guys remember my TWO GIRL RULE, then you know one (or two) of those women came to get laid. Because my student failed to throw out his sexual interest to the girl he wanted (who had her arms wrapped around him the whole time), the other one in red took over and wanted him instead.
Again he could have pulled them out of the club, but the alcohol really killed it. He was spraying all over the place and the women hardly understood him. They eventually left. I took him to the side for a quick mid-program adjustment.
After realizing what could have happened, he was a bit hard on himself.
I said NO MAN you were FUCKING AMAZING!
I asked him if he's EVER gone that far with his interactions with women in his life. I see his eyes think for a second, and he's back to reality. Truth is, he's never done an "almost pull" in his entire life. On his ONE APPROACH.
Yes, I STILL MAINTAIN he's one of my best students. Read on:
After a couple trips to the bathroom, he decides to go boldly to the dance floor and hits up an ACE (super hot, quality chick), who I can assure you had scores of men scared as fuck to approach her all night.
I remember Capo saying "oh shit he walked up to HER!?!?!"
If you remember the ACES RULE, then you know that with Aces, its either you a) blitz them in the beginning, before every other guy so they KNOW you convey pure confidence, or b) do a lot of line of sight and credibility if you happen to meet her during the middle of end of the night to deal with her "filters."
Remember the hot threesome I had with those two models in Austin? It was because there were two pick up boot camps going on and I guess they didn't train for hot women lol. I was first to approach them and so I took them home.
Back to my client... he put the rule into motion and they start getting into a hot dance. 10 minutes later I am getting jealous.
2 minutes more and he did something that REAFFIRMED what I taught the motherfucker...
He notices the high point in his gut, then BAM. LEAD THE CHICK.
Friends didn't say no or cock blocked him, he had the balls to do it and they respected that.
It was SICK. I was cheering in the background.
Now if you know lounges, then the bar is absolutely NOT the best place to pull a girl to. It's packed, has tons of guys and girls trying to get a drink, and it's a situation that forces you into doing "small talk" with her. I'd rather do the patio or some couch.
While stuck in a stale mate, the thought of having a macro plan evaded him, and he lacked the foreshadowing skills to deal with the situation at the bar while waiting for some wine.
Soooo he ended up going back into the usual "get to know you" convo that IMMEDIATELY KILLED the vibe of the interaction. The high point soon became the low point.
After he was smacking himself at the end of the night for that, I told him that it's the control of having a chick you like in front of you that will make you think a bit more critical next time. It's hard to focus when you've got such a good thing in your hands but you have to.
I was a proud trainer that night still.
TWO... TWO FUCKING APPROACHES and this guy had the leading and high point mechanics down. Wonderful!
His Major realization that night was that the MACRO PLAN comes first before anything. If he had a Macro plan both interactions would have been smooth as silk. He could have foreshadowed the "after party" to the first 2 girls and a possible date to the girl who was stuck with her friends that night.
He also got the physical leading mechanics down. A basic yet critical concept that ALL TDD Experts had repeatedly practiced on in their boot camps with me in the past.
Little did he know that this stuff would solidify his skills on Night #2 and his eventual Hotel Pull from a Day Time Approach on Day #3...
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Isn't it a wonder how most people root for the underdogs yet they follow the top dogs?
Most people look for the magic pill, the secret formula, the instant success technique that will cover up their lack of self-esteem.
They want to prove otherwise that they can live with their lackings and succeed at the same time. It's the biggest joke of all time and that's why only a few people are winners and majority of people are lost.
You can follow this losing mental habit all your life, but you won't start succeeding with women when you're not even READY to accept the fact that success with women will come into your life starting today.
You have to give yourself permission to succeed with women. THE FIRST STEP TO BEING AWESOME STARTS WITH SELF PERCEPTION
If you don't see yourself as a person who deserves a woman then you've shot yourself in the foot before you go to battle.
Remember that what you "see" with your own two eyes can be a bitch. What you see with your eyes can cause ILLUSIONS that can influence how you act right now.
Most losers out there are easily fooled by what they see with their own two eyes. They are influenced by the tangible things they see - their appearance, the way people react to them and what they lack in life.
They have to wait for "other people" to validate them and seek their approval.
They undervalue themselves and the attributes that make them naturally attractive.
They see successes as "luck" versus something they take complete credit for.
They play safe and stick to where they are most comfortable at.
They do not have the most important winning habit of INVESTING at all.
Because of this, these guys' attitudes are fueled by FEAR versus its direct opposite, FAITH.
Instead of making a change internally, they REACT to what they see NOW, and because of that they never truly get better because all their actions are merely to avoid what is now and NOT to completely change the game in the future.
You may not see it right now, or maybe there aren't many external evidences to back your affirmations up, but remember that everything external is only a direct reflection of what is going on internally.
Here's a Key Fact of Life and a Reoccurring theme when it comes to TDD Mentality:
24/7 ATTRACTIVE MEN BULLSHIT THEMSELVES CONSTANTLY
You heard me right, 24/7 Attractive Men bullshit themselves on a minute-to-minute basis, including yours truly.
You have to see yourself as extraordinary,
EVEN IF your "eyes" tell you otherwise.
EVEN IF other people don't see that in you
EVEN IF you don't get the "favorable" reactions you want from women
Call it dogma, or philosophical bullshit, but it's a self fulfilling prophecy. The more I started seeing myself as extraordinary, I started to set expectations for myself that went BEYOND what I was presently capable of.
Instead of trusting my eyes and what I saw now, I started using my VISION MUSCLES and created an image of where I wanted to be.
I reflected on it, defined it in a SPECIFIC and REALISTIC way, and instead of trusting what my eyes saw now which could possibly derail my success, I trusted my vision muscles instead and acted towards my FUTURE self-perception of myself.
I focused more on my good attributes... that lead to my self-esteem building up.
I started respecting myself for my beliefs and my values... I didn't need others to validate that for me
I started having faith in women, that despite previous failures in the past I knew there were still some great ones out there I should meet...
More importantly I now had the drive and commitment to improve all areas of life to get to where I wanted to be...
The more I saw myself this way the more I projected it...
... and so by virtue of X = X (What you project is what you attract), other people started seeing me this way, especially WOMEN.
Women respected me. They saw my future self in my present self, and so they reacted to that. That is how I gained so many relationships with women when I was young. They just felt that I had a high level of self esteem. This cycle of success happens to this day, on a WORLD LEVEL.
This is 1,000,000 times better than being liked by women. You could be "liked" on a totally platonic and friendly level but the woman will never ever ever ever sleep with you because subconsciously she doesn't respect you and what you represent.
If you're a kiss-ass, agreeable, and no-back bone nice guy, then you have to change this. Have the mentality of "I'd rather stand for what I believe in rather than stay in the comfortable friend's zone and never get the respect, admiration, and sexual attraction from women."
Aim for respect. SELF-RESPECT.
Just remember, what you appreciate APPRECIATES, and that's YOU.
A lot of people, ever since the "old school" days, STILL find showing sexual intent the main stumbling block to their success with women. It's been how many years now and I'm hearing the same song.
What a lot of them fail to realize is that sexualizing interactions doesn't come from the act of simply injecting sexual innuendo, changing the tone of your voice, saying the word "sexy" or even doing attempted sexual touching,
Sexualizing the interaction comes from the CHARACTER of the man doing it, not what he DOES. It is his BEING that ignites the sexual mood. More often than none that sexual character doesn't really have to do anything and women just feel that uncontrollable urge to make it sexual with them. Why? Because it's THEM, that's why.
This is why we build so hard on the character - on all our programs we lock in your mindset, deal directly with the issues, and build true confidence so that you become the character that naturally sexualizes things with women.
This is also why I don't promote or teach kino or kino escalation, or escalation ladders, elevators, or ramps or anything like that. This is why I've held back so much on going into finer details of innuendo because I definitely know one MAJOR FACT:
It is absolutely impossible to give any "how to" sexual material to someone who applies it OUT OF CHARACTER and expect results. Imagine the weird guy in Office Space trying to be Barney Stinson.
So, instead of trying to find ways to twist your words or touch women to turn the heat on, why not build on the skyscraper - yourself.
Here are TEN MUST DO GUIDELINES on what to subtract and what to add to make that happen:
5 Things you must absolutely QUIT:
If you have morality issues with sex or anything sexual, quit it.
If you think that you need to be friends with a girl first before getting her to bed, quit thinking that.
If you have a generally feminine, overly laid back archetype, quit it.
If you generally avoid conflicts and don't want to fight for what you believe in, then quit that habit.
If you think every great girl you meet is "the one". Quit it because it'll ignite your girly hormones.
5 Things you absolutely must have or do:
Be the guy who is constantly willing to risk the interaction by suggesting sex or sexual acts.
DO work out and induce some testosterone and killer instinct in you to close.
Have a circle of bro friends who actually go for women.
Be the guy who can look a woman dead in the eye and not flinch or look away.
Be the guy with an edgy, adventurous, and go-getter side to him. No, I don't mean playing Halo. Try MMA, water sports, or even get into sales if you fancy that.
Ultimately, the words will come out naturally, because you've built yourself to naturally do that and you've quit those life habits that are preventing you to simultaneously. It's in YOUR CHARACTER to not only make things sexual, but to exude the sexual vibe that just makes women want to amp it on you.
Become sexual, and they will become sexual to you by default. X = X.
PS: I want to thank all of you for a powerful June. All Mentorship programs sold out, and while class is in session and we aren't accepting new program students for now, we are going to reopen that window second week of May. If you are interested or have any questions about this no-nonsense and customized program, shoot me an email with the subject, "Mentorship" and I'll get back with you.
PPS: I am accepting one final batch of mailbag questions over the next 2 days before I put them together into one email to send out to you. Again, here's the format:
1. Specific scenario or trend of scenarios that happened to you
2. Specific goal you wanted to attain from said scenario, and
3. The hurdle or obstacle that stopped you on your tracks.
If you're going to ask customer service questions, like how TDD is compared to anything else out there, you can ask them via skype, my username is tdtroy10. Other than that i strongly encourage you to look around first and have a feel for what we represent before doing that.