I was a graduate of Nash Casten's Masterclass back in January, participated in the TDD 2010 Lifestyle Retreat, and your resident future Captain Candidate in the Force of Nature Team that is TDD Singapore. I'm also going to help out on the 23rd July Masterclass alongside with Nash and Xavier.
I just want to share how extremely happy I am that just less than 6 months in, I've gotten myself a helluva girlfriend. I love her a lot, and I'm really glad I met her.
As Troy said on the past emails, success guides, and Champions of Choice 16, it takes more than just one interaction to get into a relationship, so let me give you the low down so you can delineate the way you think about getting women.
You'll also learn the A-Z of how I made it happen through the Lessons Learned at the end of the story. I know you'll love it.
May 18th was the day Pitbull, one of my favorite hip hop and reggaeton artists hit my town and did a concert. As always, I was in good company going there with my crew mates, like Victor ‘'Spunk'' and Masterclass Alumni James.
I wasn't thinking about pick up, or approaching women at all when i got there and quite frankly wasn't in the mood other than listening to Pitbull. This is because I was in formal wear after attending my school's graduation ceremony early on in the afternoon. It was getting hot and humid so that didn't make me move an inch.
At the venue, I looked around the place for hot girls (hahahahah... might as well!) and planted myself strategically behind hot girls. This place was PACKED and I knew that with the heat and the humidity and the tons of people, VIBE WOULD BE KING and overrule any micro strategy. So, I just focused on the music (which was super bad-ass btw) and gradually my vibe started going up.
So once my vibe became good, naturally I wanted to start going for every beautiful girl in sight hahahaha. I created Line of Sight... ok rather, Line of Sound, by singing to the music that was played, really loudly, I believe I'm a great singer, but that night I was just shouting like crazy and doing stupid actions like I'm a rapper and having tons of fun. People started noticing and looking, including that hot girl in front.
She laughed at my actions. That was my cue to go! So of course I went in! I told her to stop laughing and taunted her into a dance. She committed (X = X), I had a good vibe, she had fun too.. so it's only natural it worked. I danced off a little with her, just having fun. Gave her a high five (men and women teammates) or something like that, can't really recall.
But what I remember was this; I want to thank my crew mate Spunk for being there. Because after the approach, I didn't want to dance. AT ALL (because of the heat and sweat haha). It ended up with him dancing with her most of the time, with me just chilling at another side, enjoying the concert. Thank God for that she had a great time with the team and it showed her my non-neediness. Had i plowed and gone linear I would have left with nothing other than three gallons of sweat beads and a "good time." Good time, no girlfriend. LOL.
End of the night, exchanged numbers and we parted our ways. Went to met Xavier after that but it's just going to drag the whole story haha. Added her up on Facebook. Now Facebook to me is a massive tool of conveyance. It will really show what kind of a person you are, and after that, using a credibility date would just destroy every doubt a person has in you.
Forward a few days to the Singapore City Tour day (Free TDD Seminar)
Before the seminar, I had a Flashmob event to attend at 7am in the morning. I couldn't sleep the night before, and I'm using my laptop, surfing the net for a bit.
Changed my status on Facebook, people commented, she was one of them.
So I started a chat with her on the comments section, then it moved on onto Facebook chat, to IM.
I just maintained the conversation to being fun and friendly, was pretty laid back in the sense that I didn't have the intent to escalate or take things further. I didn't because Spunk said he wanted to go for her, and I agreed to back out at that point of time, though I wanted to go as well.
Got to know a little bit more about her and realized she loves all the things I love, she cooks, works out, watches How I met your mother, huge plus points for me. She's hella witty too.
Soon the time came for me to leave, it was 6am, I told her I had to go, she asked me where the hell I'm going at such a time.
I told her about the flashmob, she wanted to go too. High point, lead or leave. I chose to lead, I told her to join me, she wasn't sure because she didn't know what to do after. I told her about the seminar and about TDD, she's in for it. Game plans DO MATTER, to allow you to lead with confidence. Again, high point, ask for logistics. I asked her where she lived and all (for obvious reasons, like if it was convenient to get there together....and, ya'know) Found out she lived pretty close to me, it's settled then.
Met her at the train station near my place, and we took a train together to the flashmob. Again I didn't take things further during the trip, I just chilled and be laid back a little. She met me when I was reading my book (Art of Seduction, fuckin hell the book's so thick), and listening to music. Had a bit of fun here and there when I'm with her, still didn't do much to escalate, just a little non-verbal escalation here and there.
Reached the flashmob venue, she had to wait 3 hours for me, alone, while I'm with ma homies enjoying ourselves with free food. Felt sorry for making her do that, because I myself wasn't sure of the logistics. She waited, both of us hadn't slept. I saw her commitment, and I felt like I had to reciprocate.
After the flashmob, we went to the seminar, Spunk was with us this time. Again I didn't escalate and just played it cool. At the seminar itself, I didn't get a chance to really interact with her as I was filming and had to speak, it was okay since the other alumni were there. Now that I realize it this is what Troy means when he says Natural Barriers cause Tension and I don't always have to keep attending to women like a needy person.
Had a great time at the seminar, after that I took the train home with her because I was fuckin concussed from everything (no sleep, flashmob and the seminar). She, too was motherfuckin exhausted.
My bed was a fuckin tractor beam to me that day, I just went to bed straight. She called me at around 11pm to ask me for dinner, I was too tired so I rejected and told her I'd call her when I wake up. I sent her a text at around 2am saying I'm up, then I fell back to bed again, she then replied at like 3am. I replied at 4, when I'm up again, then I went back to sleep again (HAHAHAHA, I know wtf right). This repeated texts of the same content ‘'hey I'm up'' happened till I think 11am hahahaha.
3pm the next day, she called me to ask if I want to have lunch with Apprentice Instructor Dan Milton, Spunk, and Her. Of course I agreed since I'm fuckin starving.
Went to eat with them, then she had to leave to meet her friend, so we 3 boys went to watch a movie. After the movie, when we had dinner, Spunk said he'd back out since he senses that she's more into me.
She called me asking what plans I had after dinner, I was going to Xavier's place for Poker. I got her to join me, this time when we took the train. I did a bit more of non-verbal escalation. Giving her THAT look (oh yeah, you know it hahaha), while maintaining an easy going, platonic conversation. Was lazy to talk anymore so I got out my Ipod, and told her to watch an episode of How I met your mother with her.
Fuckin hell I think god is with me, I chose ‘'The Pineapple Incident''. When that episode came, I agreed to the values Barney stated, and stated them as my own as well. ‘'Ted, you always think think think, and never DO DO DO.... Its time to not think, and DO!'' I just rephrased it into the Carpe-diem kind of Value like on Champions of Choice 13 (and the Keys 2 Victory Seiminar)
She agreed, so ya'know, cool.
Reached Xavier's place, had a fun night playing poker. Won 30 dollars with her, everyone at his place that night thought we we're a couple. Went to Macdonalds and had a 100 Macnuggets night. Pretty awesome.
When she was away, Xavier told me he could see that she's into me. I also sensed it, so I decided I'm going for this, since I kind of like her, and she does all the things I do. After eating, took a train back home with her, things escalated a little faster here. Foreshadowed things like a relationship and she said ‘'hahaha stop thinking too much, you're too young, boy''. Fuckin hell I'm 19, and she's 22. I know it's a done deal then, since she was already CONSIDERING that fact. I stated another core value as to why I felt that Age is just a number. She had no reaction to that at that point of time, but I bet that's running around in her head.
Things physically escalated a little too, but only a little. Head on shoulder kind of little, her stop came, she got off.
I got home, got some rest.
She texted me the next day asking when are we going to hang out again. I just KNOW it's a done deal then.
Forgot wtf I did since everything's in a blur lol, but I remember asking her out to have a snack with me, since she wants to hang out, and we both love food. (If you hadn't tried it, you're living under a rock hahahahaha)
I had to leave her, since I'm heading to work out. But I took the time to walk her to her train station and showed that I cared. You don't have to be an asshole with women guys. It's a balance and there are times where you actually have to show her you care.
After training, I bought her to a sheesha place I always go to, and relaxed there with her. Things really escalated a lot here, both physically and emotionally. We ended up getting more intimate at the sheesha joint.
At this point of time, I know that I really like her, and it's not going to be a one-time thing. But my mind was thinking a hell lot about the TDD ranks, which I got confused. She knows and sensed that my vibe was a little off, but she understood when I told her, and waited for me to give her an answer. She wanted a committed relationship, and I didn't really know what I wanted then (A part of me wanted to continue everything with TDD to get the ranks, but another part of me told me she's growing on me so much I want to be with her) This dragged on for a few days, but I believe I've already made my mind up then. She's so understanding, I'm still able to go and hit on girls at a club, outside a club. ‘'Just don't do the things you don't want me to do'' That's what she said. I still get to brush up on my skill sets in this sense. Just that I don't get to ‘'follow up'', or bring the things I do to another venue. Still, I'm happy to hear that.
That's why Troy always says "God bless our girlfriends for understanding that we're the modern man movement" LOL
A few days later, we got together, on 28th of May. Pitbull was 18th May. 10 fuckin days. Fuckin unbelievable. Though I still need to learn how to become a less of a jerk that I am now, I'm very happy and I love her a lot.
Key Lessons Learned:
-My mindset was there. I believed that it was a DONE DEAL, 100%, after Vic backed out. All I had to do was not screw up. I didn't Pre-judge her and how she'd react. That made my cup empty, and X = X. Really. She had no choice but to ride on the vibe hahaha. Guys, stop self-sabotaging and believe that women want you as well!
-Leading or leaving at the high point. I took the chances to lead when I see the opportunity, and when logistical matters were in the way, I made sure I left at a high point, leaving her wanting for more.
-I believe I played it up quite well being chill and not too pushy/linear/plowy at the start. When I stated my Carpe-diem value, it was at the RIGHT time, because I felt that I had conveyed enough that the value fits me. I brought her to a Fuckin FLASHMOB and a seminar! Meeting the coolest people I've met on earth.
-I really think it's not what you say that matters; it's what you DON'T say. I believe I conveyed the message that I was this kind of guy before I actually stated the value, which made stating the value even more.......impactful (for the lack of a better word). Remember that we always say in TDD - "Don't say it, Convey it!" I also remember during my Masterclass i learned that we do the conveyance stuff because "explaining yourself is for suckers."
-I also conveyed a lot of things that I liked to her. ‘'Eating, Reading, Improving myself, spending time with friends chilling, doing radical things like eating 100nuggets, heading to clubs, etc etc...'' I didn't have to say much, it was a lot more of showing.
-Another thing, when I'm with her, I wasn't afraid to talk about anything, about sex/relationships/age/WHATEVER. X = X, the rule of cool. I think it's alright, she's going to think it's alright. I wasn't concerned about saying the "right stuff" just to get on her good side, a MAJOR mistake most guys do.
-Also, bringing her to MY ELEMENT was a good thing, because you just won't run out of stuff to say. I brought her to the sheesha joint because I really felt like smoking it that night hahah. Told her how much I love that place and the music they play.
-Talking with passion, I believe that's also one of the factors. Talking with passion would mean you use a totally different tone to talk about the things you like. It's like taking pride in the things you love to do, that you have no choice, but to talk about them that way.
I used to be the kind of guy who didn't DARE to talk about the things I love to do, for fear of judgement, now I'm different, and people appreciate me for having passions and a life.
-Of course, having her meeting the crew was a good move on my part; it's all about being congruent. We have so many different characters in this entourage, and all of them are awesome in their own way. Because them being awesome would lead her to assume I'm an awesome guy too.
-Intent and escalation is important, to me. At the start, I didn't have the intent, therefore I didn't escalate. Once I had the intent, sparked flew, and the story changes. Champions of Choice 7: Killer Instinct and Closing Strategies had been a great help. Please listen to it if you haven't. Finish off what you start, don't let anything you do end with a comma. Let it end with a full stop.
-Having a Gameplan. The VERY few days I'm with her, I always had a ‘'what to do next''. That allowed me to lead her VERY confidently. I brought her into my life, my very awesome life she's happy to be a part of.
-Including her in the picture of my life, talking in a 2niverse manner. Me and you, we. That kind of thing ala Champions of Choice 16: Foreshadowing the Relationship.
-Helping her, HELP ME. Not only did I show her my awesome life, I let her know my flaws too, so that she could help me (Motherly instinct of a woman! Hahaha). If you don't you'll be deemed as a PERFECT guy with nothing she could help with, and then she'll be afraid she ain't good enough for you, and no one's going to be happy. I think Troy also talked about this on COC 16, on the "Dimensions Challenge."
-Knowing when to switch up the vibes at the right time:
At the beginning, I laid back and showed a charismatic side of me when I couldn't escalate since Vic was going for her. After he backed off, I showed the dominant side by leading her through so many things and places, and at every place, the fun was there since I'm in my element, and I really have fun. I sexualized the interaction when we were alone, or gave her a covert ninja look when there were people around, while still being charismatic.
So, these are the lessons. It's the SAME LESSONS you read from us all the time and the SAME LESSONS you learn on your COC's, Mentorship Programs, PI's and Masterclasses. Guys, this is no joke. I put them together and focused on the right things and here I am. I am not even 6 months in and I truly believe that my social awareness and knowledge of attracting women is a thousands times better than when I came in.
If you have any questions, input, or comments, please put them on the comments section or PM me on the forums: Username is Jordon.
I'm really fucking happy I met her and I wish the same for you!
Let me start by saying that I've never invested any money with TDD - no PI, Masterclass, Lifestyle Retreat, Mentorship Programme, and heck, not even a subscription to CoC. What I know about TDD is through my conversations with Troy and his crew and reading the free material. If I can already get so much out of TDD, I can scarcely imagine how much better I would become when I go for the premium stuff.
Here we go...
In the wee hours of Saturday morning, I stepped out of a hotel room with my girl.
She made me LOL post-copulation: "I can't believe I'm cheating on my boyfriend... But let's not talk about him."
Guys, the stereotype is true: Dancers are good in bed, be it technique or figure. And tight as hell too.
But I should start from the beginning.
She's an intern at my organisation who joined some time ago. The moment I saw her, I knew we had great chemistry. She has a boyfriend, but I didn't give a shit because he's a possessive douchebag. Plus that has never stopped me. In a nutshell, she's your typical college student: Beautiful, slim, relationship-only, no flings, good girl type.
So here we have a girl who was adamant about not wanting a fling, who already has a boyfriend of over 1.5 years, and we STILL ended up fucking each other's brains out. And now I'm her fling.
- Demonstrate direction and leadership. I cannot stress this enough. Put simply, when I showed these two qualities, magic ALWAYS happened.
- Importance of escalating and sexualising the content. I have always been reasonably stellar with conversations and communications, but there was something lacking in my repertoire until I got more into TDD, talked to a few of the guys, learnt great lessons from them, and realised that I needed to escalate and sexualise the communication. I avoided this in the past as I wasn't sure of myself and my sex appeal, but after getting over this ridiculous nonsense, doors opened WIDE.
- I was completely upfront with her about my past sexual experiences, including ones that bordered on truly X-rated stuff. Instead of getting turned off, she got even more turned on over the course of our conversations. This was because I wasn't wishy-washy about them - I told them factually and with a matter-of-fact tone, which I think helped to sell the idea that I am for real.
- Importance of values and experiences. If I didn't know what I know now, she wouldn't have been into me. It's compulsory t to be constantly learning and improving in all areas of your life.
- Push-and-pull. Throughout the whole time I've known her, I was always pushing and pulling in how I communicate and sexualise the interaction with her. In the end, she wanted me as much as I wanted her, and perhaps even more than I did.
- Have a game plan that mixes direction with spontaneity. We nearly didn't get a room because of how crowded it was, but I had a backup plan that involved catching the sunrise and having some breakfast.
- I told her early on that she wouldn't be the most important part of my life - my career and training will take precedence over her. Unsurprisingly, that didn't deter her at all.
- Don't take yourself too seriously. I goofed around when the situation called for it (teasing, chilling out) and was serious when necessary (discussing about ambition, career direction, etc).
I am a member of this chain of budget hotels in Singapore as I've been to this particular branch a few times. The manager tried to pull a fast one by claiming that I wasn't a member and haven't been a guest before. Conversation went something like this:
Manager: I'm sorry Sir, we have no records of you having stayed in this hotel at all.
Me: What are you talking about? I was here last year with a different girl.
He gives me that sly son-of-a-bitch look and looks at my girl, who is grinning from ear to ear.
Me: She knows EVERYTHING mate. And she doesn't care.
My girl is awesome.
No PUA 'artwork' necessary - just have a game plan, demonstrate your values, LEAD the interaction, sexualise, and BAM.
Cheers to TDD,
Singapore City, Singapore
We're planning a weekend getaway in two weeks time - It's going to be fantastic!
If you don't know the back story of how I met Tuan and how this one hell of a guy turned great from when I met him when he was SEVENTEEN YEARS OLD, this post should tell you how he developed.
God, Tuan was this YOU!??
(Far left, from the Singapore Masterclass 2009)
This guy lost his v-card through TDD (by being the second person who signed up for the Mentorship Program), tore through Asia after the Singapore Masterclass (remember the threesome date video?), took the skills back to the US, and has been a Force of f****ing Nature ever since.
I tell you, this guy is one of the best mentees I've ever had and is definitely en route to teaching. He follows directions, whether its Macro or Micro to the tee. Who can forget his 21st birthday party that landed him a naked chick in his room?
Ah yes, the Macro Plan, using a few $15 light bulbs from the store.
The Motto: "Build it and they will CUM... I mean COME"
You'll see more of him on the US Masterclass in July because he'll be apprenticing on that.
Anyways, here's a question from a current Mentorship client who has hopes of moving up the TDD Ranks. Tuan doesn't post so much but seeing as its a mailbag question directly at him he gives a really good response that's front page worthy so check it out.
I'm currently on the road of developing myself so I can reach captain rank at TDD. And it's funny cause Troy keeps comparing me to you. First it was when I met him in Frankfurt: "You're like fucking Tuan, you smile too much!" ha ha ha. And now on the mentorship call 2 one of the things I gotta develop is my sexual character and again Troy gave your example since it seems you went through it as well.
So I was wondering if you have any advice you could give me on what helped you and specifics you did... For now I know working out and getting into shape is a given. Loosing weight and getting that testosterone going. That's my main objective right now.
Besides that I guess working on my dominance and vibe switching as well like Troy said...
If you have any input for me I'd deeply appreciate it.
Other than that congrats on what you have already and have been achieving! Looking at your before and after pics I'd say it was two different guys! Also Troy told me how now you almost get rapped by girls! Hilarious, ha ha ha!
Take care and keep rocking bro!
Che (from Portugal)
We come from the same "smiles too much" background! that's awesome! lol
Anyway, for getting sexual / developing a sexual character. What helped me a lot was CoC7 on Killer Instinct. If you listen to it, Troy says "I used to have a student who smiled a lot to the point of being goofy", that was me he was talking about!
I think the best way to give you an idea of how I did it, is to give you my story.
I definitely used to be a muffin (the likable but NOT FUCKABLE guy). I had a lot of friends that were girls, but that was just it, friend zone type of shit.
If you listen to Coc8 - Innovative Social Circle Seduction, Troy talks about "taglines for yourself"... an example is "Nash, the guy who fucks a lot of women"
My old tagline back in the day was "Tuan, the guy who smiles a lot" (seriously if you see my old facebook photos, holy crap it was bad). When Troy first told me that I smile too much, it really hurt me because seriously it was HARD TO NOT SMILE all the time! I mean that's who I was!! But the vital flaw was in that I couldn't control my vibe, it was ALWAYS LOCKED ON FUN (smiling), and could never be sexual. In other words, goofy.
This point was hit home to me when Xavier told me "Tuan, imagine your fucking a girl and smiling like that. Girls don't fantasize about the smiling guy fucking them, period.
It was a huge reality breaker in the beginning, I remember sitting in my hotel room (during the Singapore Masterclass), thinking "fucking shit, I HAVE TO CHANGE THIS". (and I did, I replaced the smile with a smirk...spent a lot of time working on that in front of the mirror lol)
For me at that time in the beginning, I literally changed my look. I bleached my hair, got some accessories like a big ass belt buckle, a ring, a watch, etc. I wanted a rockstar look to attach my new found sexy to that, so that when I look in the mirror I wouldn't see ‘smiling guy' but instead ‘Tuan with a wild edge'.
Tuan being a sexual juggernaut in Japan having three girls co-raping him
on the SAME DATE.
And hey, that worked when I was in Japan, where literally ALL THE GUYS ARE MUFFINS with no testosterone, and I was just a little less muffin than them, so I got some girls.
When I came back to the United States, it was a whole different story...
If you see guys in America, there's a big demographic that are very masculine. Guys who are willing to call it out, have steady eye contact, stand for what they believe in, and suggest sexual things. Basically TDD-type guys.
Troy pointed this out to me during my PI in San Antonio. I literally had no testosterone or killer instinct in me, pretty much to the point that women gave me a glance and quickly brushed me aside.
Not only that, but Troy told me I literally have a big head, and I should have big muscles to complement that. That's exactly when I started working out seriously / going to the gym (after my PI in October 2009). I bought supplements, did the benchpress / dumbbells / rock climbed, etc. Two months later I had improvements, and that's when I came down again to San Antonio for the Dance Game Seminar (December 2009).
And Even then, I still had the muffin problem. Partly due to a girl I was seeing (which took away my killer instinct to get new girls), and that deep inside I was afraid.... I let my past success haunt me. I thought, shit I've been A to Z before, this should be exactly the same. Well the reality is fuck that, I wasn't an empty cup and it showed.
I left the Dance Game Seminar with my reality broken once again, the smiling was fixed but the muffin was still there.
During Christmas time 2009, I decided to take another approach to things, and I honestly believe this is what made it happen for me. I decided to start building on my own skyscraper (work on myself) instead of putting my time in small sandcastles (women). If you heard CoC10 on Dimensions, this is huge. I wanted to be known as "The guy who works out and seriously puts an effort in to his own fitness"
TUAN on the website of his town's boxing gym. Un-Muffin that!
That's when I decided to do the full 90 days of P90X. From start to finish (finishing the sandwich! - COC 7). It was a major goal for me. I put everything else in my life on hold and made sure to get it done. I wrote all about it on my facebook, documented what I ate, took pictures, made videos, etc. I wanted everybody to know that I was doing P90X and was completing it. It wasn't easy, but the investment paid off big time. My bad posture was fixed, it gave me a huge boost in self confidence, a sense of accomplishment, and kept me grounded to reality. After working out that hard nobody can shit on me. And that's the same feeling I get when I do boxing training these days.
With that, I made a conscious decision to LEAD (take an interaction where it needs to go), each and every time. And so far it's been great.
Bro, your objective of getting in to shape is the right way to do it. One thing to be aware of is that you're doing this for YOU. Not for anybody else. If you're looking for a complete program that will get you in shape, I recommend P90X or Insanity. It's not easy but like I said, your investment will pay you back 10x.
Tuan's testimonial video (snapshot) after the
Synergy Coversion Camp. Okay maybe he's 1/10th Muffin
but he's 90% MAN.
Why don't we care? Because HE GETS LAID thats WHY!
With that, if you follow what's already been written on the TDD site / forums about sexualizing it (the Sexual Eye Contact Video, the TDD success with Women guides, etc), you should be good.
You can email and ask questions directed to Tuan by emailing us at firstname.lastname@example.org and discuss on the comments section below.
THIS IS HOW WE DO IT, IT'S FRIDAY NIGHT, AND I FEEL ALRIGHT,
THE PARTY'S HERE ON THE SOUTH SIDE..
YO! I'm back with more tales of crazy times and boot camp moments...
Today I'm going to tell a tale of a client of mine this past weekend who I consider one of the best students I've ever had. Maybe you guys can resonate with his background or story, and you can see the principles and weekend experiences that guided him to success.
BTW If you emailed me and your success story hasn't been posted, don't worry. All of it is on cue. Sometimes you just have to pace things because we still do operate in a very blog-ish website. I still choose to keep it this way. Not fancy, not overbearing, and has enough crown jewels, but YOU the reader must dig within to find them (we have articles spanning from 2007, a fully functional forum , and around 39 free podcasts, plus TDDTV).
Talk about conditioning your people to use some effort to get results. =)
If you LOVED COC 15: The TDD Time Management System, which I still think should have been entitled "Character Development" or "Retention Method II," then throw me some feedback via the comments section below the download page, or if you want something more personal, email me. Most of you who took the initiative to reach out to me in the past know that I respond pretty fast with much appreciation.
Here's the reality about TDD Private Instruction Camps:
They DEFINITELY don't come cheap.
People pay us quite a big chunk of their HARD EARNED MONEY and we honor that by providing high quality camps and personalized coaching services that yield results.
The fee doesn't just stop when you sign up: Instead of us paying for the trip, we have our clients pay for their OWN trip AND lodging to add to the Private Instruction costs.
What most of you don't know is that subconsciously we're training your mind to succeed while you go through that process.
We want you to be motivated and take your programs with us seriously.
See, in the mind of Troy Dizon, there are about a handful of "student archetypes" that dare to sign up on a TDD Private Instruction (or Master class) camp:
First is a client who has been following me since the GLORY DAYS of 2006-2008 when I worked for a certain "pick up school" that helped gain leverage to where I'm at right now. If you're one of them, I applaud you for having the common sense to follow the school of thought that MAKES SENSE.
Here are some details of what that client might be:
Asian or Caucasian male from 21-26...
Usually has a great job that pays around 45-100K a year...
Despite that job, by the way he dresses he looks like a 14 year old making 10K a year...
Calls himself a good listener just because he can't say a damn thing about himself...
Laughs nervously when interacting...
Completely agreeable and avoids conflict...
Group of friends generally aren't congruent with where he wants to be...
First six profile photos on his face book brands him as a muffin (the "friends' zone guy")...
Is actually 5'9" but because of poor body language he looks shorter than me...
The idea of loosening up at a party is by drinking alcohol...
When asked where the best places to meet women are, his answer is "the street" or "the bus stop."
When asked about what he loves to do, the answer is almost always "helping people."
Has been doing the "charismatic-yet-utterly-platonic-conversations-stuff" for about 1-2 years with hardly any sexual results...
My client was almost all of the above.
Now you might think that this is a lost case, however this is a trend of certain men that come to TDD.
Here's the X Factor to why THIS GUY will succeed:
Sometimes having an experience pool like this can get a man SERIOUSLY PISSED.
Pissed at that helpless feeling of forcing your way through interactions that don't seem to go anywhere...
Pissed at countless times of rejection despite having the best of intentions in meeting people...
Pissed at the fact that no matter what you might say sexually women will always brand you as a friend's zone type of guy...
Pissed to the point of ABSOLUTE DESPERATION...
DESPERATE to the point where he'll take a good chunk of his hard earned money, sign up for a $1650.00 Private Instruction Camp, buy a plane ticket to San Antonio, get a hotel for 3 days, and become UTTERLY SCARED and NERVOUS because he's going to be trained by TROY D HIMSELF.
If you've spent the last 6-8 months reading previous event reviews, articles, and happenings in TDD, that shit can make you anxious as hell when you sign up.
But desperate people, they SUCK IT UP.
Do whatever it takes is the fucking motto...
Here's a quick background on our guy:
My client had sex once with a very drunk woman in an experience he dares to not recall or remember.
Yes he had sex, but he never had the feeling of satisfaction after. He still wondered if it was truly him that she found attractive or was it just a lucky spurt of the moment shit.
He wanted a genuine sense of closeness with women he was going to meet, especially if he was going to sleep with them. Learning outward style hollow game for a couple of years didn't confirm that. There were no further results from that experience with the drunk girl.
He's a downtown boy, living near the financial district of this largely metropolitan city FILLED with diverse, quality women (I should know, I met a Russian and Iranian chick there during a PI). Not knowing "Niche Theory," during his initial interview with me he had stated that he met girls primarily in the street or bus stops. NOW I'm sure his mind's going nutso trying to figure out which Niche he wants to go and dominate.
Either way, it must have been very disappointing living downtown and being around such women and still not yield results.
After graduating from school this year, he saved some money to fly out to Spain, party like a world-class playboy while watching the UEFA Champions League matches live. That was the plan. The TDD PI was en-route to that plan.
Here's a lesson guys:
You can't escape who you are. Even the guys who have gone to our yearly Lifestyle Retreat know that.
A vacation or retreat or adventure in some other country won't change the way you handle women until you fix the core itself, well unless your resort to an endless amount of escort and prostitution services which I'm sure none of you will do.
An old saying I told my clients back in '04 was "Women are women, people are people" which means no matter where you are in the world, women will still have the same gut-based reactions to your vibe. If you don't fix or improve on it, you'll get the same outcome.
Either way, the trip to Spain was a door of opportunity, a chance to reset things and start over, but he needed the PI to get his mind and skills right to make sure success was imminent, as he had imagined in his dreams.
And the fact that he was an ex-student of "barisma carts" who followed me years later made me ultra excited. (Talk about retention!)
ON TO REALITY BREAKER FRIDAY...
It's called that way simply because it's the day we take the blinders off our clients. This is the first day where most of them lose a TON of sleep after (racing thoughts and memories), and it's also the make or break day for the rest of the PI.
This was the test of discipline if my client was really done with the old system. If he was willing to defy all that he had known in the past by testing out the brand spanking new TDD Strategies.
I always say: "If you think you're here on PI to reaffirm what you knew from "barisma arts" then you're in the wrong headspace." There's absolutely no time to be a hard headed fool in this camp. The moment you signed the dotted line you're already saying "NO" to that bull shit. Let that be a warning to all you guys who are planning to do this.
Two things: LEADING and HIGH POINTS.
As you know, I am the Anti-Linear guy. I don't believe in it simply because it produces very random and lack luster results. I have written countless articles on WHY that strategy is a failed one.
Anyhow, on the first day it was important for me to teach that to my client using the principles of the LAW OF DIMINISHING RETURNS and the specifics of managing high points (leading and leaving).
I told him that people who PLOW are seriously violating this law of life simply because the law states "if you go beyond the high point with the SAME thing you used to get there, the effect diminishes."
What that means is:
If you keep talking past the point of interest until your "material runs out", the interaction dies down.
If you stay around past the point of welcome, you become a liability and not an asset to the group you approached.
If you spin her 3 more times than the first one that made her feel like a princess on the dance floor, you've overdone it.
This is how important it is to work from high points. It makes an approach or interactions sniper-efficient and successful because you've trained your gut to know EXACTLY when to quit or proceed further.
Of course if you're a needy, reaction seeking, value taking, plowing PUA you wouldn't know that. Another reason to learn TDD.
On his FIRST APPROACH, all while me and Capo were planting seeds in the room, he nailed it down. He was leading 2 chicks all around the venue while running on absolute fun. At first I thought he would milk the interaction, but NO. This guy was disciplined enough to put the skill sets into use. They were eating off the palm of his hand.
Heck it was so good, me and Capo didn't even wing him no more. He was a one man show and the flow was getting pretty damn good. We sensed (and I tweeted later) a pull was about to happen.
I pulled my guy aside and told him to foreshadow an after party at the TDD Party House. I'm sure he somehow said that in a garbled manner that botched the pull BECAUSE...
The use of alcohol I would say was the MAIN impediment to the supposed bed-banging that could have happened. When I momentarily winged my Korean client, it so happened that the Latin girl's ex-boyfriend used to be Korean! And the other chick wanted some Korean too!
Sadly, my Korean student couldn't remember these golden opportunity moments. The punch had gotten to him by around 1 am.
I always say, ONLY drink when they're back at your place or vice versa. If you're attempting to pull then you have to be SHARP. Alcohol severely impairs your radar for opportunities like that.
It's sad to know that you're Korean and NOT KNOW that the two Latin Girls with you wanted Korean dick that night.
Now, if you guys remember my TWO GIRL RULE, then you know one (or two) of those women came to get laid. Because my student failed to throw out his sexual interest to the girl he wanted (who had her arms wrapped around him the whole time), the other one in red took over and wanted him instead.
Again he could have pulled them out of the club, but the alcohol really killed it. He was spraying all over the place and the women hardly understood him. They eventually left. I took him to the side for a quick mid-program adjustment.
After realizing what could have happened, he was a bit hard on himself.
I said NO MAN you were FUCKING AMAZING!
I asked him if he's EVER gone that far with his interactions with women in his life. I see his eyes think for a second, and he's back to reality. Truth is, he's never done an "almost pull" in his entire life. On his ONE APPROACH.
Yes, I STILL MAINTAIN he's one of my best students. Read on:
After a couple trips to the bathroom, he decides to go boldly to the dance floor and hits up an ACE (super hot, quality chick), who I can assure you had scores of men scared as fuck to approach her all night.
I remember Capo saying "oh shit he walked up to HER!?!?!"
If you remember the ACES RULE, then you know that with Aces, its either you a) blitz them in the beginning, before every other guy so they KNOW you convey pure confidence, or b) do a lot of line of sight and credibility if you happen to meet her during the middle of end of the night to deal with her "filters."
Remember the hot threesome I had with those two models in Austin? It was because there were two pick up boot camps going on and I guess they didn't train for hot women lol. I was first to approach them and so I took them home.
Back to my client... he put the rule into motion and they start getting into a hot dance. 10 minutes later I am getting jealous.
2 minutes more and he did something that REAFFIRMED what I taught the motherfucker...
He notices the high point in his gut, then BAM. LEAD THE CHICK.
Friends didn't say no or cock blocked him, he had the balls to do it and they respected that.
It was SICK. I was cheering in the background.
Now if you know lounges, then the bar is absolutely NOT the best place to pull a girl to. It's packed, has tons of guys and girls trying to get a drink, and it's a situation that forces you into doing "small talk" with her. I'd rather do the patio or some couch.
While stuck in a stale mate, the thought of having a macro plan evaded him, and he lacked the foreshadowing skills to deal with the situation at the bar while waiting for some wine.
Soooo he ended up going back into the usual "get to know you" convo that IMMEDIATELY KILLED the vibe of the interaction. The high point soon became the low point.
After he was smacking himself at the end of the night for that, I told him that it's the control of having a chick you like in front of you that will make you think a bit more critical next time. It's hard to focus when you've got such a good thing in your hands but you have to.
I was a proud trainer that night still.
TWO... TWO FUCKING APPROACHES and this guy had the leading and high point mechanics down. Wonderful!
His Major realization that night was that the MACRO PLAN comes first before anything. If he had a Macro plan both interactions would have been smooth as silk. He could have foreshadowed the "after party" to the first 2 girls and a possible date to the girl who was stuck with her friends that night.
He also got the physical leading mechanics down. A basic yet critical concept that ALL TDD Experts had repeatedly practiced on in their boot camps with me in the past.
Little did he know that this stuff would solidify his skills on Night #2 and his eventual Hotel Pull from a Day Time Approach on Day #3...
If you have any questions regarding Private Instruction, again don't hesitate to email me at email@example.com and I will email you back or call you. You can take advantage of our various payment plans as well.
I cannot reiterate how our live programs are our bread and butter, and how having a prepared approach to these camps can yield you long lasting results from all the experiences during those 2 and a half days with us.
Stay tuned for Day 2, the "Rebirth of the Obsolete TDD Day Time Strategy" and the Power of Archetypes!
I have to say, this guy must have been either a Conquistador or some Tribal Bad-Ass Warrior in his past life, because he strikes the fear in the hearts of scamster artists like Asian Play(Gay)boy and "Bathroom Master" Johnny Wolf from Gaybeecees of Attraction.
Read along and find out WHY these morons and their wicked PUA ways are nothing like TDD.
Compare, contrast, look at how similar their results are to yours and what could happen if you give it up and join TDD.
Dear AsianPlayBoy (I still can't see that name and not snicker),
Your little speech at the PUA summit must've been hugly inspiring to your blue balled diciples. After your first 'boocamp' (?), you hit the streets 4-7 nights a week to build your bullshit craft, after all that work, FINALLY got laid after 6 whole months.
By my calculations, that's well over 400 cold approaches with NOTHING but maybe a phone number, maybe a forced or sympathetic kiss, and absolutely no sex.
If that was truely inspring to your little zealots at the PUA summit (gotta love the dumbass with the 'I'm the AMOG' shirt), then either my exploits will either make TDD the messiah, or the the most threatening monster since Godzilla...
4 weeks....4 MEASLY WEEKS!
I got laid in a 6th of the time it took you...and guess how many times I went out from my first PI with Philip Marinetti till now?
Not counting the 2 times I went out during the PI and the day game shopping trip. 3 Times!
So even though you're probably gonna scoff me off as some self-racist hater AMOG guy that must've got lucky, let me still explain the difference between you and me.
While you have girls giving you their number, then 'flaking out' on you, I keep constant but brief communication via Facebook with these girls. With my day job, my hardcore workouts, and my emerging fitness website, I only have a little bit of time while I unwind from the long day to talk to any girls.
You know what else is the difference? Two words, 'Credibility Date'. You and your disciples easily lose the interest of the girl during your ho-hum coffee or dinner dates. You run out of material, don't really know how to talk to a girl without it, and you lack any way to 'convey' your personality and lifestyle.
I didn't need no damn coffee shop or restaurant. I had my house. That's it. That's all. My basement is a crossbreed of a dance club, karaoke bar, and a hardcore gym, my living room has a jungle of animals alongside a fireplace and a 64' TV, my kitchen had the best pizzone we've ever tasted (courtesy of my roommate), and my bedroom is MADE for relaxation and sex, and conveying who The Spartan is.
It was as easy as fun conversation over dinner, a tour of the house, and a laptop movie on our laps in my bed...boom, the deed was done.
You may never feel the awesome pleasure that is sleeping with a girl in your arms, skin silky soft against yours, and both of you knocking out and sleeping like rocks.
I don't think there's much hope left for you. You're already in too deep with your ABCs of Attraction bullshit... but some... I say, some of your disciples may have some hope left. Once they say 'enough is enough', they'll see what TDD really is about, and maybe, just maybe, learn how to create a story that can easily top this one.
As for you...
"...every day I thank fuckin' God, I'm NOTHING like you." -Capo
Sincerely Kicking Your Ass,
Find out more about his adventures and quality fitness advice at his blog by CLICKING HERE
Learn more about our results-oriented Private Instruction Weekends by CLICKING HERE or by emailing me personally for details and scheduling at firstname.lastname@example.org
I just want to give my personal thanks to DJ Vince G (His Twitter HERE) and Mellow 94.7 for having us over on quite possibly the most entertaining Sunday morning on Philippine Radio. Me and the Synergy VIP's had to literally delay our seminar because we all felt very proud and ecstatic that the boys (and our special girl lol) represented the team miles and miles away.
Thanks to all the women who called in and asked us your most pressing questions. The call in ratio must have been big cuz Brother Stone from San Francisco couldn't get the call in to profess his love for Lemi (lol). If you loved us on the radio, don't worry we got more coming up soon and like Nash so subtly hinted on the show, ladies, we got something for you VERY SOON. If you have any questions don't hesitate to email myself (email@example.com), Nash (firstname.lastname@example.org) or Rafa (email@example.com). We will be setting up email addresses for Lemi and the rest soon.
The Recording is Finally Up! You'll have to skip through the songs so I suggest downloading it and playing it on I tunes.
There's a reason why Troy says this is a no-bullshit approach to dating.
Waking up today, I found myself toasty and next to a beautiful lady (SR from my previous post). She turned over and cuddled right into me, and it felt natural.
I guess being in a transitional state was my sticking point, defining what kind of relationships I want, and once I decided all I had to do was pull triggers. I also made it a point to define what kind of lady to date, and having dinner with SR helped me realized lots of our core values collated. What next? Make it happen.
Here Are Some KEY TDD Concepts that Made it Happen For Me:
Yesterday, I cooked us dinner when she came over to study. Philip over at VST told me having a great pad can really show your dimensions and be a credibility date, and in each room I have there's always a board on the wall. My study room has a semester flowchart, and the results achieved pinned up in pictures or writing. My bedroom, has a collage board of personal achievements and memorabilia (pictures/letters from friends/family).
She read them, and played with my new puppy. She saw my homely caring dimensions, after seeing me blast wood apart on campus. I appreciated that she was an introvert mainly, yet not shy to go explore, definitely someone who has her own dimensions down.
Patience and non-neediness
Before this, we've just had bad logistics, and went for dinner and movies. I think this is where vibe counts, and really enjoying the time spent.
Just so you know... We did study a solid 2 hours, taking our time but I had foreshadowed a backrub as well. Once we got there, I just took off my shirt and handed her a bottle of lotion. I gave her one back, making it slow and sensual to my get-it-on playlist. Finally, I kissed her, and admist foreplay I realized we never defined what was going on.
The tension just led up to this point.
X = X
At first I said Id date her, she wanted something purely physical. I know (and assumed) that there were more qualities in me, that made me more than a walking dick. We cuddled after and talked, and she admitted feeling surprisingly comfortable with me, how all this progressed so naturally, that I still had to pull the trigger to get it going. She wanted to date after listening to more of my core values, as we talked like a cute teenage couple into the night
Here's A List of TDD Products I Signed Up For that Really Worked For Me
TDD Verbal Specialist Training Program (VST) and Champions of Choice 11: TransitioningCLICK HERE
Ill make this short and sweet. I decided to take the VST as an investment, to really master being able to capture the more introverted ladies (they seem to be my favorite ATM).
I am very forward, dropping core values is easy, so he taught me indirect transitions outside of COC11 that flowed just as well.
The first call felt like two cool dudes just having a great long conversation, sharing their perspectives (except Im still the student ). I feel that Phillip flows really well, connecting the dots between my situation and what to do. It reflects his ability to teach, and there was no pressure, riffing off his examples to help myself understand conversation dynamics better. Tip: Listen to how he talks carefully as well, that itself is great example
Having Phillip throw in his own experiences was key, and then playing through scenarios (such as credibility dates) helped me really grasp the concepts, and being able to pinpoint exactly where I could become more engaging in painting my pictures. I like how he outlined certain concepts of non-verbals as well, to tie in with the conversational flow.
I definitely recommend this program to even those who have used the Conversation Master 1/2 COCs, because the VST can be a great calibration tool to become more seamless in conversations (and compliment the other parts of the TDD system).
Looks like I have my work cut out for me, and cant wait to plug this in and see what happens
Champions of Choice 14: Covert SeductionCLICK HERE
This COC really complimented what I was looking to do. Most guys are out there plowing and pushing their egos and competing, I dont really care about this alpha male BS. I seek to contrast, and it works because I picked my trigger pulling time thanks to this COC. She told me I seem like the most unassuming dude, and next thing I'm her first Asian, and guy that's shorter (by half-inch, but who cares).
I admit I used to go for trophies, but now Ive really dug deep to be a 24/7 attractive man, and want to be part of something meaningful. Seriously, it felt seamless, and Ill be seeing her again after our exam on Saturday.
Modern Day Samurai
Alumni and Future Captain Prospect from Toronto, Canada
Yep, that's right! Our main man in Asia is on it's biggest female magazine. It's on the stands right now so get a copy!
Xavier on his acceptance speech for being Her World's top pimp daddy
Xavier is definitely a role model for many, many of men that take his seminars and camps. At only 22 years old, I truly believe he has achieved what most 22 year olds never get to do in that time of their lives. It's good to know that people are starting to realize and recognize that. As the main man for our Singapore City Operation, he's also spread out to do talks in Hong Kong, Mainland China, and Malaysia.
The thing that makes Xavier the man you can trust is that he is, like TDD, a transcendent. Hanging out with the guy for less than a few minutes will definitely boost your faith in that normal guys don't have to learn weird, overcomplicated methods or act unnaturally to get quality women. As his date on the article said (and mind you, he was rated the highest among 2 other dating coaches), he is comfortable under his own skin and that's the key to being a natural, as many naturals will tell you.
Bottom line, He probably likes the same things you like (maybe except gambling he loves that!) and comes from the same background that you have so don't worry if he knows what its like (read his story on the link below).
The real special thing about Xavier is his attitude. It's the attitude that really made it for him and its the same attitude we teach our clients on top of the skills so they can be 24/7 Attractive. You can't go wrong by having a role model that doesn't live far away or anything. He lives in Singapore and he's around to show you the path. Hang around him for a few and you'll know what I mean.
Check out his Full Profile on his blog, "A Life to Love" HERE
In terms of his Private Instruction Camps, Xavier has become a really good mentor. The Singapore Crew has grown from a brotherhood of men who had this simple goal - to socially dominate and improve themselves to guys who actually set out to do it and made things happen. When I hear that there's a Masterclass about to happen over there the first thing I feel is envy because I know that the way they're killing it there was way different than when we started it 3 years ago. Now they have different roles and I'm sure Xavier will get that on video soon on TDDTV.COM.
Anyhow, if you want to meet him in person and hang out, we have a FREE LIVE SEMINAR in Singapore on May 22. You are not required to commit to anything but just go through the entire thing. It will be your chance to meet Xavier in person as well as see what the brotherhood is like. You can reserve your slot by emailing him at firstname.lastname@example.org.
If you want to ask him about taking Private Instruction Camps (available every month) or the Masterclass with Nash in July, you can contact him via email on that as well. All of his latest articles are on his blog, A Life to Love. (click here). He is also open to lair and group talks as well as media appearances.
"Troy, I don't mind telling you that I don't buy much stuff from the community, TDD is one of only 3 companies that is actually teaching stuff that is working for me."
Paul is one of our valued Champions of Choice subscribers who decided to share his stories for us on the site. He's a University Student living in England who likes to play guitar and hit on cute girls. He's collected all the COC's and was just annoyed that he didn't have 1-3 so he harassed me on skype to get them (don't get any ideas guys). Anyhow, he's got lots of potential and is a pretty cool guy.
If you liked his reports, please don't hesitate to PM him on the forums and tell him he's awesome. I can't wait to hear from him after he uses the stuff from Champions of Choice 14: Covert Seduction (on sale only until May)
Alright, go get 'em mate!
Guys, there is no getting out of the "friend zone"... Unless you Know TDD
I had known Stacey all through secondary school. Almost all this time she had had a number of different boyfriends, all of which I had been friends with too. She was in my immediate social circle - I would see her almost everyday, and when all of my crew would go out to see a film or get together for drinks, she would always be there. I was attracted to her, but there was never any sign that the feeling was mutual, and I never made my thoughts known.
So I left for university, and we kept in contact now and again - not more than once every 2 months. I saw her once when I came back over Christmas, but that was it.
One day, I saw she had broken up with her latest long term boyfriend. A few weeks later, I decided to have a chat on facebook messenger. It was a totally normal, safe conversation, talking about general boring stuff, a few stories, nothing particularly interesting. And I used to study mystery method and all that shit, there was nothing in particular that could have DHV'ed me or any of that funky shit - possibly one story about getting thrown out of a club for deciding to try piggyback wrestling with the lads in the middle of dancefloor, but thats hardly a DHV anything...
All was safe and normal, just being chill and vibing, until at some point she started talking about how unattractive she was (why are so many hot girls insecure?? Just makes no sense!), and I started giving her shit for it.
Her: yer it really sucks, Ive got a lot fatter, I'm going to start jogging
Me: well, you always used to be HUGE, so I think you really should start working out
Her: ha OMG! But yeah that's why I'm going to start jogging
Me: well as long as your not jogging to the BAKERY...you always did love your iced buns
Her: you wanker!!! And it was always you who had the Danish pastry buns!
Me: I'de like to see your buns...what? you say what??
Her: lol you think your so funny don't you. Your as bad a jeff (a mutual friend)
And it continued on like that, joking and messing around. The difference was at one point I genuinely said I found her attractive, and didn't make a joke about it. (note - this is important, its fine to joke about, but at some point you have to put your balls on the line and be genuine about wanting her).
I didn't speak to her on facebook again until I came back. All of our crew arranged to go hit some bars on a Friday night, and of course Stacey was there. What I would have done back in the day was not show any interest, be nice, and not drink very much. And then I found the community, and in particular, TDD.
I spent the night doing as it should be done. We were a group of about 16, so the group split into several smaller groups, as big groups always do, and as I was always in Stacey's line of sight, I made sure I was always talking to people and messing about having fun. We took pictures, threw coins into Adams drink when he wasn't looking (we managed 21 coppers before he noticed...), and picked up Jess to see if she was heavier or lighter than the Gruffalo.
When talking to Stace, I didn't hide that I was interested in her, I used my trademark strong eye contact (I would go as far as to say eye contact is the MOST important thing in getting sexual attraction...just dont go too robbie williams), checked her out blatantly, told her I liked her dress...but would like to rip it off her more, and all infront of all the crew.
Later on, after we had hit a couple more bars, we hit tigertiger - which was crammed as always. It was too loud to talk, everyone was waiting in the bar queue, and I could feel the attraction and sexual vibe were just begging to thin. So I grabbed her hand and told her "lets go dance", and lead her to the middle of the dance floor, out of sight of the guys. After a little bit of dancing, we were making out heavily. From there, the night was mine. At one point Jeff, a notorious player and acquaintance of mine bumped into us as we were making out. He looked Stace up and down, grinned and high fived me, earning me a laugh and a slap.
She even paid for the taxi back to hers, where we went for "pizza". good times.
It's been half a year now of 2010 TDD Operations and I have to be happy with a lot of things.
I don't know why I'm typing this, but I guess I'm really inspired by what's been going on with our crew mates lately. I said during the wiki that, this season is "single season," and its truly been like that, but I guess if you're a TDD Guy you can bend the rules to whatever you want it to be.
I found myself in March looking at most of the guys I've plowed the field with for more than a year, and well, they are all in happy, loving, and long term relationships. Even the notorious Nash Casten, is one of them (who remembers his "relationship belly" from last retreat?)
Here's a video that our TDD Apprentice Instructor Rafa made for his girlfriend, who has been uber supportive of us last valentines day. To this day I still show this video to students worldwide to inspire them (Sorry Raf).
Before the peak of the pick up community, my idols have always been guys who were able to find a quality girl that they chose and have the attributes of a 24/7 attractive man to make the relationship successful. Now, 28 years old, I have been through three major relationships that went past a year, and I guess its those experiences that make me push that TDD is way better than ANY Pick Up company - because at the end of the day it's not about the phone number or the kiss or the approach, its about the beautiful and blissful relationships with women that develop after and over time.
Tonight I got another IM from a crew member of ours who again is joining the ranks of the "girlfriend season" within TDD. I told him, "Hey man, wherever you're happy.... If I somehow helped you get there one way or the other... I'm happy."
TDD Isn't a pick up company, and I never envisioned it to be. Matter of fact, one of the reasons I created the system was to make sure the high turn over with people who try to learn pick up tricks could be permanently over with; That somehow there would be a common grasp on reality that would make these men stay on and continue to improve the quality of their lives and find great relationships with women without having to put themselves in the position pick up artists do because we know there's a time limit on that.
The REASON TDD was made, and I'm assuming that's why you're here, is CHOICE. We want to have the choice to know, through experience and know-how, that we are making the right decisions in terms of the relationships we commit to.
Yes, its true that men are made to spread their seed and arguably are polygamous by nature, but with the turn of the new century - busier lives, fewer and smaller social circles, and emotional baggage going both ways, it becomes increasingly tougher for men and women to just settle for "someone" they don't think they deserve.
And as men like yourself are continuing to improve in many areas or dimensions of life, it becomes increasingly difficult for you to just settle for someone that you feel isn't like you, or someone you don't actually enjoy being with.
This is a good reason to commit to become excellent in TDD. Not because getting a phone number or getting laid is a temporary filler for your insecurities or lackings, or that "so and so technique" sounds fun to implement in the daytime or at the bar or club. It's all about improving the overall quality of your life - socially, physically, spiritually, fiscal-wise, and romantically.
I always say, "It's never about the battles in the field, its about the larger picture"
I had just attended a wedding of one of my closest TDD compadres, and I have to say that being there, was emotionally moving.
So, if somehow TDD has helped you find your ONE, then kudos to you and keep the good work up.
PS: It's recruitment and promotions season in TDD, so if you're interested in writing for us, becoming an instructor, or joining the many quality crews around the world, shoot me an email at email@example.com.